A poor confused young thing asked me the other day "So oral sex is still sex?".

Yes, dear, all that head you gave increased your partner count. And it sucks for you that no one told you that. That no one ever bothered to explain just what the realities of men's desires are, because they were all too busy trying to change those desires.

So it's time to tackle, once and for all, the question... what do men want? Why do men prefer virgins to sluts? And why do women prefer players to virgins?

Well, today, we're going to explain this point. Not prove it, but explain it. Let's look, not at some real pictures, but at some drawn stereotypes.

Here are two drawings of young, innocent looking people.

A girl.

And a boy.

Here are two drawings of old, tough, grizzled looking people.

A woman.

And a man.

You can already see. The pictures are carefully selected for similar style and representation. But notice how in the girl in the first set is much more appealing than the woman in the second set, while, if you are a woman, the man in the second set is more appealing than the boy in the first set. Why? Because we are evolved to select mates for health (in both sexes), but also for parental fitness.

What is parental fitness in a male parent? The ability to protect his offspring (by fighting), and provide for them (by hunting). In other words, a man who is tough, a proven survivor, and good at killing.

What is parental fitness in a female parent? The ability to bear healthy children (youth and fertility), and also the ability to raise healthy and confident children (by nurturing and interacting with them). In other words, a woman who is young, innocent, and good at loving.

Everyone, male or female, exists on a continuum from innocence to toughness. But what's important to understand is that this is a one-way street. The innocent can become tough. The tough cannot become innocent.

This is why men desire sexually inexperienced women. With every new partner, a woman becomes more experienced. With every breakup, she becomes more toughened against heartbreak, and less liable to emotionally invest. Each new penis removes some of the quality and air of innocence that men desire, and the less emotionally attached she is to the owner of that penis, the more innocence is removed.

The classic slut/feminist shibboleth "Don't you want an experienced woman who knows exactly how to touch your penis really well?" is nonsense. The organ of sexual excitement is the brain. An inexpert, but enthusiastic and highly attractive woman is a much better sexual partner than seasoned penis handler who's seen it all before and doesn't think you're anything special. She's less excited, and so are you. This is why feminists love vibrators. Because they've destroyed their innocence, and have no adoration for their sexual partners. Their dull, flat, lifeless emotional involvement inhibits their orgasm, and they need lots of "just right" physical stimulation, right on the clitoris. A high school girl having an affair with her teacher can come from his fingers on her nipples, because it's the first time anyone ever took her bra off, and she's excited and nervous and overwhelmed.

This why girls need a patriarchy. Because they start their sex lives at the peak of their sexual attractiveness, both physical and emotional, and without guidance, they will fritter away that quality of innocence before they even know it exists or is important.

And there's no going back. A young man who errs by being not tough enough can always harden the fuck up later. But a girl who errs by hardening up cannot go back down that one-way street.

Men wanting virgins isn't just about literally virginity, it is about the qualities of youthfulness and innocence.

So, no, dear, keeping your legs closed and sucking cock instead does not make you stay desirable.