The major thing that upset me in my last relationship is the way we argued or fought, I felt like my previous so wasn't careful with his words when he was angry, he would use terms "this relationship drains me" "I'm unhappy with you" "this is so so hard to me" and other things to the point that mid-way through the argument I would just feel very numb and scared and couldn't figure out what to say anymore, I couldn't defend myself or explain myself whenever an argument presented because of this way of speech. It raises a question to my head, is every relationship I get into is bound to have moments like this? Is it possible to expect a guy to not use hurtful terms of speech this easily even if he's angry at you? I can't tell apart if I should be raising my standards and only accepting relationships if I feel like the guy is respectful and never going to easily be insensitive with me or if I should stop being sensitive and tolerate or deal with this type of behavior better?