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Social media is cancer to your life: A simple philosophy to become a tribe builder instead of a lone wolf.

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December 21, 2020


Literarily everyone in our western culture has in some shape or form a sense of being alien to our society. We want to connect to people around us but we don’t. It is often said that the way to the top is a lonely road. But that’s only said by lonely people and it conveniently fits their lone wolf mentality. Become a tribe builder everywhere you go, and you will live a good life, an experienced life, a powerful life. These are your first steps to unplug yourself, to open your eyes.


Our reptilian brains are not adapted to our metropolitan world. We’re out of date models and we’re hungry to hunt, hungry to build shelters, hungry to trek, hungry for a band of brothers. But tribal life is never coming back and city life has its benefits, among which, a high volume of women to spin. The one true test on your heroes’ journey, in becoming who you are, to shed your boyhood and become a man, above all you must learn how to build and lead tribes.


Call your mom, your brother, your sister. Stop hiding behind your rectangles. Shed your passive frail consuming mentality and start engaging with the world around you. The number one key to become a tribe builder is to become assertive, to take initiative, to act instead of react, to tune in with the creator within you. The path to become superhuman is laid stone by stone. If a simple phone call makes you feel uneasy, here’s your first stone. Make a habit of calling family and close friends instead of texting them. Make a habit of greeting people and dogs on the street, greet the hobo, greet the cashier, greet the bartender smoking outside, greet the hiker, greet the old lady feeding pigeons, greet the guy next to you on the bus, greet everyone next to you in the gym. Call your mom again.


There are four key activities that mold men into brothers: chasing girls, globetrotting, friendly competition and dining. They all generate wealth in its purest form: power. For millennia, the status a man has in his society is build and reflected by the women he fucks, the places he travelled to, his athletic strength, and the men who dine at his table. Western culture has almost entirely lost touch with the last one. But it’s a powerful thing, to feed someone. Dining has been the backbone of many societies and it’s easy to see that men in societies who still maintain that tradition have stronger relationships with family, with neighbors, with fellow men in town. If you’re looking for some motivation to learn how to cook (looking at you who only eats microwaved junk): lifting will help you master your body, cooking will help you master your network. Make a habit of inviting a friend over for dinner on any given boring worknight. Everyone is bored. Everyone is tired. Everyone has to eat. Girls in our society have mastered the art of brunching for an hour from the age of 16, it’s not that fucking hard. Dining is the easiest way to bring people together. Bring people together. People will admire you.


You’ll spend your 24 hours and you’ll spend it on what you planned to do. If you don’t plan shit, you’re planning social media, or cheap shitty entertainment. Get busy. Cram your days to the point snoozing simply isn’t an option. The bare minimum on any given day should be: 7 hours of sleep, 8 hours of work, read 10 pages, sport 30 min, meditate, work 1 hour on your next passive income stream.


Lift, yes, but find a team sport too. Don’t know where to start? Call your brother or sister. Ask a friend to go for a run tonight. It doesn’t even have to be a close friend. You’ll be amazed how many guys go running alone and would love to find a running pal. Every university offers a wild range of sports where you can tag along and get to know many great people. In Europe, you don’t even have to be in university to join the sessions.


You become an adult when you realize there’s no such thing as adults in this world. You become a social guy when you realize everyone is awkward and most people remain awkward until they die. Most lonely guys I know always tell me the same crap: ‘No one ever asks me to go anywhere.’ Make a habbit of inviting people to dine, sport, go for a walk, go shopping. It doesn’t have to be planned. Just call when you’re on the way.


Your life only begins when you figure out everything you do together, you can do alone.


Your life is outside. Or did you really think that one day staring at this rectangle in front of you would become life-fulfilling?


If you take away the rectangles, how many rooms did you visit in the last week? How many people did you actually have a conversation with? Social media is cancer, the illusions they give us of being in the world are paralyzing, utterly soul-destructive.


When you have your own life outdoors, meeting people comes naturally, inviting people to come along comes naturally.


If there are no people in your life, it’s because you don’t have a life. Go outside. Create a life. It is the only way.


If you don’t know what to do: be bored. Sit on a chair and do absolutely nothing. Sometimes it can take ten minutes, sometimes half an hour. But when you move you will understand that anything is better than getting a quick shot of life through the eyes of a movie character or social media. Creating a life is hard. It’s difficult. But the smallest creation - like getting out of your fucking door, fixing your bike or cleaning your shoes – can be bliss if you see it for the greatness it is.

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Title Social media is cancer to your life: A simple philosophy to become a tribe builder instead of a lone wolf.
Author paul_ernst
Upvotes 826
Comments 75
Date 21 December 2020 11:01 PM UTC (4 weeks ago)
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[–]1scissor_me_timbers00211 points212 points  (10 children) | Copy

This is quality TRP content

[–]Existing_Nature_877647 points48 points  (5 children) | Copy

In this world men worthy of forming a brotherhoods are a rarity, instead we have masses of insecure, jealous, desperate, backstabbing, berating, betas.

Till we find worthy brothers, lone wolf iis the best thing to do.

[–]Sigma-Angel_of_Death15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed, but we should be mentoring other men so they don't continue in those traits.

[–]redandnarrow6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

You go and make worthy men out of finding the teachable and salvageable humans. Waiting for perfect men to come along is as foolish as waiting for a perfect women to come along.

[–]redandnarrow3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh... and you can fashion women too, in your own image while your at it. They are dying to find an orderly city in a man that their chaotic waters can’t flood. They are water and you a vessel. Passing shit tests turns them on. They found a worthy shape.

[–]1scissor_me_timbers000 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah I mean I’m a lone wolf for that very reason. But you can still engage w the world and become known as a stud in your general vicinity. I just like OP’s theorypoasting of manhood beyond just the sexual conquest.

[–]MRPTriangle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you want a friend who's worthy of brotherhood, make one.

Find a guy who's teachable, put him under your wing and teach him how not to suck at life. Not terribly hard, not terribly expensive, and building value in someone is fairly analogous to building value in yourself, because eventually you'll be able to extract that value from them, with interest.

[–]Remarkable00316 points17 points  (3 children) | Copy

This is quality TRP content

[–]Kakashi_hatake70712 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

This is quality TRP content

[–]theoriginalkingcoder6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is quality TRP content

[–]r32_skyline50 points51 points  (6 children) | Copy

"Right right" everyone agrees.

*Continue returning to Reddit social media and logging in

[–]logosolos6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I know you're joking but like most things in life, moderation is key.

[–]ChadBreeder15 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

I hate when people consider Reddit as “social media.” It’s an anonymous platform for learning, much like reading a book. Sad!

[–]Thinkingard2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's basically a gigantic forum. Back in the day, when I was a part of a small (like a few hundred) forum I felt like I was involved in a large fraternity. We always argued and shared stuff and I got to know better some of the names over the years. Reddit is like that but on a much larger scale where you end up becoming anonymous.

I don't like how reddit is considered social media because it's a lot harder to follow people or make yourself known by creating content. Also, there's a lot of content theft, hence the memes on reposting/karma whores.

[–]Carboneraser-4 points-3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I agree. As a note, adding "Sad!" to any of your communications reminds people of a certain somebody and evokes cringe. If people associate you with trump, it won't be for anything cool. People associate speech patterns that mimic his with insecurity, tantrums, dementia, and social inadequacy.

I'd advise never using it for any outward communications (or stop using it altogether).

[–]ChadBreeder11 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Haha you’re the first person who’s ever picked up on the reason why I often add “sad” at the end of my texts and it is indeed because of Trump. Well done. He is alpha and I love him.

Edit: Not be political, but since you brought it there, most of TRP is conservative and one can argue that TRP is actually inherently conservative as we seek out women who are “trad cons” among other things. Most liberals are EXTREMELY beta.

[–]Philosophipster13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

“Easy choices, hard life” or “hard choices, easy life”.

[–]GunnerIronPile9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

once a man sheds the need for delusion and comfort he is unstoppable

[–]armenian_UwUcide26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy

Solid gold bars. Thanks for the quality content

[–]GunnerIronPile8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

when you realize everyone is awkward and most people remain awkward until they die

Remember this when you confidently enter a room and maganimously put everyone at esse with your social grace

[–]darkstar10316 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the kind of shit this sub needs.

[–]Fifa_Guy9938 points39 points  (6 children) | Copy

Lol. I've met some cool lone wolves in real life. They are pure sigma males and have been since their childhood. They still attract girls, have excellent social skills and are self employed. Some people are wired that way. I don't know why you are shitting on people like them.

They are not lonely either. They excel in solitude and are constantly improving themselves. Think Raymond Reddington from The Blacklist.

[–]idonthavtitsbcimaguy30 points31 points  (2 children) | Copy

He’s not shitting on them. True ‘sigma males’ understand the value of the above. They understand the value of human connection. Sigma males aren’t loners. They will still invite people over for dinner, get togethers, parties. They don’t participate in hierarchal structures and for this reason might be considered a “lone wolf” but they aren’t lonely people. Don’t conflate being a sigma male with being a loner.

[–]chomponthebit18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

And don’t confuse being alone with being lonely. People who hate themselves can’t bear to be alone

[–]Fifa_Guy993 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, they have friends, obviously, but they can go long periods of time alone without mentally deteriorating.

Unlike most people.

They'll only invite people to dinner who are in their trusted inner circle. They don't want randoms to know where they live.

[–]inkwind4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

One observation that I have about lone wolves is:

One sigma tier lone wolf always has connections to other sigma tier lone wolves. And these connections are very strong even if there is close to no connection. It's like being together separately.

They are simply playing a different game more suited to their ways, instead of playing this common hierarchical game by these rules.

It looks damn fascinating from the outside.

[–]HangTheGods13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

Don't know why you're getting downvoted - I've met guys like this too & they're doing just fine. Lone Wolf doesn't mean staying in your basement all day.

[–]30RITUALS5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am one of these guys. Can confirm.

[–]SaintJaen30 points31 points  (7 children) | Copy

It's really hard to do that right now. People are nervous and discontented because of the pandemic.

[–]armenian_UwUcide22 points23 points  (2 children) | Copy

It’s a double edged sword. There are people more desperate than ever for some connection, and will praise the Lord if you reach out to them with an olive branch of value.

[–]MRPTriangle34 points35 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hard, but more fruitful. The people that aren't nervous and discontented because of the pandemic tend to be high value people. Those that are, tend to be low value people, especially the nervous ones. I can respect someone bunkering down and being well provisioned to wait out the bullshit while doing things that add value to themselves, I can't respect someone who sits around all day plugged into the glowing blue rectangle of doom while pulling their hair out.

This is a great opportunity to allow circumstance to filter your social circle, and there are reasonable opportunities to do so that don't present much risk.

[–]El0vution4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Doesn’t matter, that is timeless advice

[–]kfd_capital9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Or even easier, real Gs will go out despite the pandemic. MEN YEARN FOR ADVENTURE AMIDST DANGER

[–]Zacuard10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

That shit hit me and hit me hard. You called me on all my bullshit so fucking directly... that shit just made me change how seriously I take my life and I thank you for that. I won't waste this. I'll read it over again 100 more times

[–]Zech4riah11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

It is often said that the way to the top is a lonely road. But that’s only said by lonely people and it conveniently fits their lone wolf mentality.

Oh but it usually is. There is rarely anyone who can guide you through the journey. You are the one who has walk the walk. It's extremely rare that you can find a tribe of high achievers to company you on the journey and even then you have to make most of your decisions alone for you and for your inner circle.

[–]JustDoMeee4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Great post. You mentioned many times social media is cancer, I agree, but I realise that the path our society is heading in, social media is the future, and technology is evolving like never before. I wanna utilise social media to benefit me and not to be used by it. If anyone has been able to grab social media by the balls, I'd love to read about it.

[–]ChilliPepperoni3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is what i need to

[–]MaroonMen18 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy

Social media makes people care way too much about other peoples nonsense.

When you are constantly scrolling through social media feeds, reading about all the trivial things in peoples lives, it tricks your brain into thinking that this stuff matters. Many people find themselves constantly scrolling social media, even reading the same posts over and over again, because their brain is hooked on it. Its like a drug, in the same way that junkfood is like a drug. You're much better off without it.

Furthermore, alpha and beta qualities are a part of this. An alpha wouldn't spend time listening to all the trivial things people say. Alphas don't care because they are worried about themselves, not others. A beta, on the other hand, would care. They want to know the gossip and drama going on, because betas care about trivial things like that. Similar to how a celebrity doesn't give a shit about drama in regular peoples lives, but regular people care about drama in celebrities lives.

Don't be a beta. Quit social media.

[–]niki_noodlez39 points40 points  (1 child) | Copy


Social media is a tool.

Use the hammer to hit nails, not your fingers.

[–]CaucasianPanther0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Keep messenger, delete FB... This is the way

[–]kabir_5436 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Thank u sir. I needed this, being a 16 year old I feel blessed to know all this at such a young age.

[–]rickson1s0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Same bro. Crazy how my life has changed since finding TRP when i was 15 and I’m about to be 17

[–]kabir_5430 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Happy to know that brother. Cheers

[–]betacrucis2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Great content. The question is about discipline: how do you build this, stone by stone? How do you catch yourself before or even during staring at yet another rectangle for yet another hour? How do you BEGIN being constructive rather than passive consumer?

Tips, please, gentlemen.

[–]LondonFox-jr2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Great post brother. Definitely a forgotten skill these days. Simply doing some of these things will make you stand out head and shoulder above 99% of people.

[–]reedabosco4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is nicely put, the later points are less attractive than the first few though.

[–]Traditional-Lie-73812 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

1 hour on building a passive income stream, haha.

[–]alekhineX4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

it takes less than 1hr to put some saving on a index fund. checkmate beta

[–]luguxd0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You need knowledge for this.

[–]nilosinal1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, that was fucking amazing!

[–]GuapoGiney1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for this post you’ve just helped me getting out of my little hole 👌🏽💯

[–]_nein_danke2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

One of the BEST posts in a long while.

Aside from number 4 - I’m not saying this isn’t a worthwhile goal, but people going around saying “hey cram your day” and expecting people to turn round one day and think “oh wait yeah, now I’ll cram my day and be really productive”. That shadow side of the psyche will still control you, to borrow a Jungian idea, but make small incremental steps to change just one thing and do that daily, or weekly. That is, I believe, why lifting is important (in reality I think TRP needs to drop lifting and just say become extremely proficient at something physical), because it makes at least one part of your life under your own control.

[–]cupofroy1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Really good post. Thank you.

[–]cupofroy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why I can reply but cannot post in this subforum? Reddit prevent me posting saying that it is quarantined. But how can you guys post then?

[–]Gunnder1311 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Excellent post, had to save this in my notes, since saving on Reddit would be the opposite.

[–]najati1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for the post I needed this.

[–]CloudDunker1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you brother. This is absolute gold.

[–]randarrow0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

[–]WeDontLetHateWin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Doesn’t apply on monk mode. Does it?

[–]spacecommanderfap0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Does reddit count as social media as well?

[–]Angry_runt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Social media became so popular because it's a superior way of interacting with people. It's kind of like digital music, 128kbps mp3s weren't better sounding than CDs or vinyl, but were good enough and so much more convenient, so now most music is digital.

Amazon (not the river) exists on a rectangle but that didn't stop it from absolutely trouncing its real world competitors. Times are changing. Human nature doesn't, but will just exist in a different context.

If a guy invited me to dinner, I'd assume he's gay.

[–]AltezaHumilde0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Pure gold, I would add another tip I figured out long ago.

If you are sucesfull you have to figure out the way to not show it, but get value od it (hiding sucess is quite stupid, right?) people in this society are SO easily offended by others sucess.

I live in a big ass house, have nice salary, have nice stockmarket side business, mi gf is pretty as fuck, my car is thr one I always dreamed.

When I invite people over to dine, they are automatically frightened and ego-hurt, ans I don't even opened my mouth...

You have to show high value without showing high value to be able to be accepted by others.

[–]usedtimecapsule-1 points0 points  (6 children) | Copy

You’re out of touch, you need to get with the times

You want to build a real tribe? Get the fuck on social media and make your tribe thousands of people instead of the few you see in real life.

Social media is a tool, if you don’t have the discipline to use it then get off it. You can either use the tool, or it can sit there in a box. Your choice.

[–]monadyne25 points26 points  (1 child) | Copy

the few you see in real life.

There's your answer: real life.

The people in your real life are the ones who'll come get you when some asshole T-bones your truck at 2 a.m.

And it's not the ones that say, "Ah fuck! I just got into bed, and it's snowing! ...Oh, well...", it's the ones that say, "Hang tight. Be there in twenty. -click!-"

Would your Facebook friends be up for a mission like that? ...I didn't think so.

[–]PassiveNathan4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

exactly, look at Dan bilzerian, everyone looks up to this guy and wants his life, everyone is his best friend and sucking up to him, but as soon as everything goes wrong for him and he needs ppl to stick by him, they're gone.

[–]PassiveNathan5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Motherfucker do you think these fake bitches on social media are going to support you when time gets rough? When there's no money? No, as soon as your perfect social media lifestyle disintegrates they're GONE. Build real connections, with real people, who will stand the fuck by you.

[–]PopePalpatineTheWise2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Wtf are you talking about? "Bitches in real life" will also abandon you when there's no money and your circumstances are rough. All women will, that's how thyelley are hardwired. Instagram is the marketing page of your already awesome life.

[–]usedtimecapsule2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly, they have absolutely no idea what they’re talking about.

People won’t come rushing to your aid just because they know you in real life.

[–]usedtimecapsule1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Learn how to make money from social media. Get with the fucking times.

You think people won’t abandon you in real life? You’re funny.

If anything if you have a fan base on social media, they’ll be more willing to help you because they respect you a lot more.

Like I said, it’s a tool. You can either hit the hammer on the nail or you can hit it on your head like a fucking idiot.

Obviously have real life friends, but saying social media is useless in 2020 is just a dumb take.

[–]DifficultContext[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do guys use Instagram for any other reason than checking out women?

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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