Christian Girls

Deep_Strength · 2020-02-23T05:41:00+00:00

Please post your stats to the OP. It's rule #2 on the sidebar.

Well I am not part of a church yet (got saved 8 months ago)

This is a big red flag to other true Christians, not to mention girls.

I specifically say I am only looking for true christians and am looking for a good, modest woman that is serious. Whenever I get them to match up with me, they barely talk. They're boring.

If you put boring stuff, you'll get boring matches.

They don't even want to hang out.

No kidding. Dates probably. Hang out is too ambiguous and player-esque and has the capacity to go poorly for Christians.

My honest opinion is that most true Christian girls will see your current state and know that you're still immature in the faith. All of those things that made you attractive or were fine to the non-Christian women are filters for the Christian women. You should focus on God, get involved with a Church, find your mission for God, and then come back to girls at a later time.

kellykebab · 2020-02-23T07:52:47+00:00

Shouldn't religious women be harder to "pull" than internet whores?

What a ridiculous complaint.

RedPillWonder · 2020-02-23T06:27:40+00:00

Why are you confused?

What, exactly, are you expecting from a genuine Christian girl?

Just getting clear on what you're expectations are.

I ask because you say it was easy to "pull" instagram models, but not even get a Christian girl to go on a date.

By pulling I'm guessing you mean to get a number and go on a date vs you're having a hard time doing that with Christian girls.

Some might use that phrase to mean more than dating and imply more intimate activities. I know you said you're not looking to fornicate anymore, and if that's what you meant by pulling, then you're comparing two different things in hooking up with models vs dating a serious Christian woman.

And not only that, as Heartiste has pointed out, how you treat a hot, entitled, social media butterfly can be different than how you treat a more traditional, innocent woman. Game is still used, he was just pointing out that what works for an entitled little princess who's all over social media and has had plenty men all into her (in more ways than one) isn't always what works for someone who's more innocent and not as entitled.

And I'm not entirely sure what you mean by genuine Christian girls and what criteria you're using to identify them.

Are you going by these girls simply saying they are Christian on an app? Assuming they are Christian because they're on a Christian site? Church attendance?

Or actively living out a Christ like life as evident by their actions?

Many 'Christian' girls don't act Christian because they're not. They're Christian in name only.

Others may truly be, but perhaps not where they need to be in their walk with God but overall they're good potential girlfriends and future wives. These are ones that are teachable and will follow a good man.

And of course, the rest are living a godly life (or doing their best) and are what most men think of when they imagine a Christian woman they want to marry.

This last group is a small percentage of of the overall pool who identify as Christians, but I think you're assuming all Christian women are like this, or you're thinking this to some degree, and you're comparing this group to how everyone else is failing to live up to this standard.

Maybe not, as you did say genuine vs cultural Christians, but we (any commenters who reply here) have no idea what criteria you're using to identify these women and separate the two groups.

Let's get back to the beginning, though.

What are you wanting and expecting from a Christian girl?

If it's simply to accept a date and not flake on you, then we don't have a lot of info to go on.

Are you older and trying to date younger?

Are you going for 9's and 10's and you're a 7?

Maybe the area you're living in is more liberal and feminist and it's hard to find a traditional, conservative woman to date?

Focus on you.

What in the world?

Maybe it's you.

What's your mission in life?

Why should a woman want to follow you and attach her life to yours?

How's your personality?

You may be better than most men, but if you're going after very attractive Christian women, "decent shape" may not be cutting it.

I encourage you to not to settle attraction wise, but perhaps it's a matter of increasing yours so you can attract a hotter woman that you're into.

financially well off (own a house)

Good!

Much better than many men, but again, how does your house and income, etc compare to where you live? Average? Above average? Higher?

There's a slight hint of "I'm a Christian now, own a home, in decent shape, etc" so why aren't hot Christian girls throwing themselves at me?

First, while good, nothing you state here is off the charts amazing that would make a woman want to chase you down and chain herself to you as she pines to be your wife.

Chase after God and excellence. Get as close to God as you can and walk with Him daily. Are you in the Word every day? Are you consistently growing as a Christian?

Be excellent in what you do! Get amazingly good at it! It's good, it's healthy, it's right and it's attractive to women.

Have a mission that drives you! Christian girls (like all women) love ambition and drive and if you're going hard after God, they'll notice.

Be as attractive as possible so you can pull the hottest Christian girls, and choose the one that makes a great match for you. As Oz (one of the mods) has stated, a Christian woman's vagina works the same as non-Christians. They get tingles like the rest of them.

Develop your personality and charm. Be the cool version of you. You don't need to develop someone else's personality, but you do need to develop and highlight things about yours that are fun and appealing.

Anyway, I'm writing way too much. There's no need to be confused. Go with God. Do the fundamentals. Keep working on you. And invite a woman along for the ride when you come across her. And you will.

All the best to you, brother!

bigmonkeyfight · 2020-02-23T15:44:55+00:00

There are Christian girls above a 7. I know because I have dated them. If you live in a liberal state of course the pool is going to be a lot smaller. I used to live in CA and now live in TX, the pool is definitely much larger here.I congratulate you on becoming saved, you said 8 months ago. By the sound of your post it sounds like you were having sex with a lot of random instgram girls and other girls in general. God does forgive past transgressions. But look at it from the perspective of a Christian girl/ woman, someone who has been saving herself for marriage or who has an extremely low partner count. Is she gonna want to get involved with someone with a high partner count regardless if you are a Christian? There is a lot to unpack there. Christian girls have different filters than your average non-believer. Your best bet will be finding someone who also just recently became a Christian, this is where you will find the girls that you can probably relate to the most. Imo, you have only interacted with a small sample size of Christian girls and thus why you wrote what you wrote.

Whitified · 2020-02-23T18:44:35+00:00

AWALT. You obviously have low social status in the church, seeing how you're clashing with all the church-going christians here. You want christian girls, you need high status in christian circles. Start by knowing the right people and having friends in right places. Money, favours and connections will help you more than you know.

Public speaking skills are a must. Learn how to pray for 10 minutes straight while focusing on your feelings. To be a modern male singer you need alpha looks/vibe + beta lyrics, praying in church is no different. You've already got the alpha looks and vibe nailed down, now you just need to pray with beta lyrics. Remember to praise women publicly often, and encourage the men to humiliate themselves. Encourage the husbands to go for vasectomies or something. Ask them if they have given praise to their wives today.

Always speak as if a woman has authority over you (but never say it outright). You can do this by saying "I have asked my wife for permission to........" In the absence of a wife, say you asked your mother or girlfriend for permission. If called out, plausible deniability. Always remember to take responsibility for all the faults and wrongdoings of your female family members, even those you're not aware of. Play with all the single mothers' kids.

Do all this and you'll be running for pastor in no time.

Will all that be worth the effort? No. AWALT.

Tpetplayr · 2020-02-23T05:18:52+00:00

What sort of pond are you fishing in?

TealPersona · 2020-02-24T02:33:19+00:00

Well after reading through this comment thread I am confident in saying that it has hit a soft spot in your patience bank. Good job for keeping it on the sensitive side, and for trying to be weary in what the Holy Spirit is saying to your heart.

If you're in Cali, you might want to check out Vineyard, but if you're not at all close to Anaheim, try finding a place that is small, allows for intimate discussion, and prioritize the small group over the big church. If you're not already in a deep season of refinement, you're definitely going to be soon. When I gathered all the knowledge, had received revelation and heard the Lord a couple times I thought I had it figured out. Then I did a Bible School, and am now and full time missionary. There are a few things I've figured out from this journey in my life.

The Lord will reward the humble man first and foremost over the man that travelled to the third heaven and did not know whether he was in body or out of it. If you can travel to heaven, meet the Lord face to face, and be like Moses, then you have it figured out. I don't think you're there yet.
A wife is a gift, not a reward.
You must sacrifice everything, and think about sharing in the cup and baptism that Jesus offered James and John (Mat 20:20-28). Keep your eyes on the Kingdom and be wholly sacrificed to it, and if you are meant to have a wife she will be added to you.
Be comfortable with your new spotless nature before The Most High Judge. You have been made clean, embrace it. With his eyes he winnows evil from the king's, and with his furious love he burns the dross out of you. (Pro 25:4-8 Ezk 22:22-30)

If your mission is truly to study the Roman Empire, and that's where you foresee spending much time, go ahead and read some books about it. Find the biggest most challenging book you can find, and if it still interests you it's a good chance that that's what the Lord would have you be doing. But then again if you truly hear His voice you would know that.

Neurology is that subject to me, and there's so much language I have no idea about but it makes me so happy and excited all at once to be involved in it! It makes me want to laugh and shout for joy I love it!

Biggest thing I think for you though is that you participate in heartfelt worship and communal gatherings with a fellowship of believers. Soften your heart with prayer and meditation, and keep it soft. There are still many facets the Lord will show you about Himself, and if anything I don't think He's even going to consider bringing you a wife in the state you're in. But then again He chooses to give His good gifts to whom He wills. It is up to us to receive them.

NoFaithInThisSub · 2020-02-23T10:40:27+00:00

Mission, stats. What are you going to to with your helper once you get her.

eitaneliav1 · 2020-02-23T15:33:57+00:00

Why are you confused?

verticalquandry · 2020-02-23T05:12:42+00:00

Are you dating or wanting to marry?

Tentmaker_ · 2020-02-23T07:10:30+00:00

Not very relatable perhaps, since your quiet the blessed man, but do pray about it if you are truly seeking that extra blessing in the form of a wife for life.

Praying is the answer no one wants to hear. Perhaps, we're all "patient" and good people until we're asked to pray to God and be patient about it haha, right?

You sound like you have what it takes on the outside. I do hope your relationship with God grows, that you listen to the Spirit's conviction and go to God regularly to confess any mistakes and mishaps along the way in your journey with Him, as we all ought to do. And trust in Him and let Him give you peace as you wait and pursue a good woman, if you are that good man who wants to be a good man for that good woman!

Good luck and God bless.

Bible verse:Philipians 4:6-7. You can have peace in the midst of the stress. God bless! :)

PrincepsOmni · 2020-02-23T07:02:16+00:00

I had an easier time pulling instagram models than sub 5 genuine Christian girls (not cultural christians).

As a Christian man you should not be chatting to InstaThots or wasting your time with any women who are not Christian.

I am a born again Christian so I am not trying to date/fornicate anymore.

So why are you admitting you've had an easier time pulling "Instagram models"? A fornicator and a whore is always going to be easier to open a dialogue or more with because they are loose women.

I am 5'10 with shoes, decent shape (muscular but not sub 15bf yet), good face

And this is coming across online? In the real world? Which Christian women have you interacted with - online or off?

What in the world?

Do you think you are owed a response from any woman, let alone a Christian one?

Assuming a woman is a real, believing Christian she's going to have to be a lot more guarded about speaking to men online and going dates than a worldly woman will be...she's called to flee even the appearance of sin after all.

I am about to just go back to atheists and "spiritual girls' because the genuine christian girls I've tried to hang out with have been so tough to even get out on a date.

So you're happy to willing violate 2 Corinthians 6:14 directly because you can't get quick and easy dates with Christian girls? Why is your need to be validated by women so strong you're willing to ignore your salvation, and push out Christ from the centre of your heart?

It's very hard not to question your commitment to Christ with these kinds of statements.

I am very confused.

Yes it would seem you are!

Based on what you have posted I would suggest this:

Stop looking for girls online. Delete all your social media if you have to. Better to pluck out your proverbial eye and remain saved than keep on that path.
Invest your energy into creating and expanding your real world network of traditionally Christian people (whom you will see from their actions not their words). This network will be your gateway to finding godly women. If you can't find one...create one. Find Christian men who are chasing excellence not women and hang out with them.
Accept that any truly Godly women is not going out on dates as easily as worldly fornicators and that she will be vetting you as much as you vet her. She may show attraction and interest but will have self control and won't place herself in situations she will be likely to sin.
Accept that if a truly godly woman finds out you chat with non-believers you're likely going to loose interest from her...fast.
Stop assuming you're owed anything. Chase excellence not women. Owning a house and not being fat doesn't entitle you to anything - what else do you have going for you? Is your life interesting and rich? Are your hobbies wholesome and do they attract godly people (and women especially) to take notice of you?

Title	Christian Girls
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Date	February 23, 2020 4:57 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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