The red pill's "High n-count = lower pair bonding" argument

boyraceruk · 2020-02-23T03:05:20+00:00

Well my ex-wife only slept with three guys including me and she's my ex-wife so in my experience it's bollocks.

rockstarsheep · 2020-02-23T03:14:14+00:00

I’ll add this; a paradox. It’s okay for RP-PUA’s to hop from sexual partner, to sexual partner. And that’s gospel to them. Then migrate to “plates,” replacing those that are “dropped,” or are “nexted,” when they get tired of the yo-yo abuse routine. This, because; “It’s only your turn,” and, “she’ll monkey branch away!”

Now, no doubt this happens, however there’s no evidence to suggest this is hard fact. Even in today’s time, which might be the most promiscuous time, in a very long time. Maybe 20,000 plus years. So, a pet theory born, what 12 years ago, is suddenly going to defeat evolution; because - Tinder and birth control?

That’s a hard sell.

That being said, I don’t think that people really value each other as much as they used to. We’re living in a bit of a value and moral vacuum.

username_6916 · 2020-02-23T11:40:53+00:00

See here is the thing! Statistics show that virgins have the longest lifespan of relationship but it gets very very murky when talking about non vrigins. Non virgins who have had more than 2 ex partners have almost the same relationship lifespan with a woman who had 50 ex partners. so the correlation is WEAK at best. You cannot infer a proper linear correlation from that.

Let us say the RP premise is true. Just because a marriage lasts longer than the others, doesn't mean that they are happily married. Virgins divorce less, but Virgins are religious fundamentalists pretty often and it is a SIN to divorce in those circles(Virgins are also 3% of the population in America). women with higher number of partners are often career woman who pair up with equally modern men. As in both the man and woman are not divorce averse!

However there is one thing that directly contradicts RP knowledge

https://www.brookings.edu/blog/social-mobility-memos/2016/08/19/the-most-educated-women-are-the-most-likely-to-be-married/

The more career oriented and educated, the better the marriage!

https://www.wf-lawyers.com/divorce-statistics-and-facts/

The younger you marry, the more likely you are gonna divorce

I_like_the_word_MUFF · 2020-02-23T04:52:13+00:00

Is pair bonding important?

Seems to me that being obsessed by pair bonding ability is a sign of lack of confidence and possible codependency.

Wouldn't the only question that mattered be "how many partners have they had while pair bonded?"

I mean you could have 10 partners in 2 years then be married for 20 and monogamous. Widowed. Add 10 more partners then be monogamous for another 20 years.

Is that person bad at pair bonding or just looking for something specific and passing time until they found it.

Tbh, that's what most men's post divorce life looks like at 30-60 years old.

username_6916 · 2020-02-23T04:22:47+00:00

Those who have had more sexual partners prior to marriage are less likely to stay with that marriage. This hold true regardless of religion. Folks who have had more premarital partners also report having less satisfaction in their eventual marriages.

So, yes, this part is true. But the RP folks tend to be hypocrites here because they suggest that it's somehow vastly different when a man sleeps around.

2020-02-23T08:46:59+00:00

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Title	The red pill's "High n-count = lower pair bonding" argument
Author	redditguy11126
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Date	February 23, 2020 2:40 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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