Hypergamy 101 - Women View Men How Men See Jobs was written by /u/Garl_Vinland
Intro
While in the trenches of askTRP, I noticed multiple common misconceptions regarding hypergamy. I was even challenged by an anti-TRPer to demonstrate its existence with scientific studies, here, along with the typical neckbeard incel slurs.
"As for understanding women, I find it interesting how redpillers never reference, you know, science or psychology when trying to defend ridiculous claims. Like that WOMEN are hypergamous? [...] How can you understand the nature of anything without science?"
edit: What happens when you present a study to people like this
I want to make the phenomenon more clear.
Definition
"Women don't want to win, they want a winner" - Patrice O'neil (RIP). They don't want to be superior or have equality, they want a man that is smarter, faster, stronger, taller, better looking, 'richer', more 'popular' -- better than themselves. This, dear reader, is what hypergamy is, the desire for someone above them, the entitlement to a higher class male. The nurse wants a doctor, the stewardess wants a pilot, the secretary wants her boss. How often do you see this happen with the genders reversed?
Hypergamy applies to all women. AWALT. This is not debatable; this is law. All women from all demographics want a man better than themselves. Whether or not they're capable of acquiring such a man is a completely different matter.
Who Qualifies?
In addition, as given by the Pareto Principle, the men that meet this criteria must be in the top 20% (optimally and in their context, discussed later). This is the observance that 80% of the effects are typically caused by 20% of the causes.80%_of_the_sex_is_had_by_20%_of_the_males.jpg. This even applies to the principle itself, as stated here.
Promiscuity_doesn't_trickle_down.img (Inspiration: here), it stays at the top, then the leftovers of the once ripe fruit fall to the floor for the scavengers. More depth provided, here (Mod awarded point for it).
Hypergamy is Subjective, Not Objective
This process is not logical, you can't negotiate desire. Just like how a woman determines consent (also, here), which man she deems 'better' or more 'alpha' is solely contingent on how she feels in that moment, who she perceives to be the best. Women are not like men who have an absolute threshold: 1,0 -- bang, no bang. Their judgment is relative and consequently, who they perceive to be the 'better' man constantly fluctuates because...
Hypergamy is Contextual
/u/BurgundyCarpet and I had a three comment discussion that resulted in a revelation, here. Civilization (agricultural society) has only existed for the past 10,000 years, only a fragment of human existence. The majority of our time was spent in nomadic hunter-gatherer societies of maximum of ~150 individuals (Dunbar's Number). Why Dunbar's Number? Here.This is the environment our instincts evolved, in this case, women. Before civilization, the 'alpha' was based on this small group of people, who's members rarely changed. But as faster means of travel, advanced technology, and relaxed social norms regarding intergender relations were developed, her 'contexts' multiplied and began to blend, not just her 'tribe' anymore. Who is 'alpha' is no longer certain. The 'alpha' in her math class is not the 'alpha' in her english class. The 'alpha' at work, is not the 'alpha' at home. The 'alpha' at the bar is not the 'alpha' at the coffee shop.
Unlike any other time before the industrial revolution, women are being exposed to men outside her immediate vicinity from around the world whether it's from social media, television (celebrities), and any people she encounters in everyday life. She is being overloaded with indicators of status, she is confused. The needle on her tingles compass is spinning all over the place. You are competing with men you can't see. When you are with her, your perceived status fluctuates every time you venture from one context and enter another. It is completely relative.
Hypergamy Standards Shift Depending on Relationship Status
When she is 'single', you're competing with every man in her physical and virtual contexts. When she is 'taken', you're only competing with 'her man'.
What Satifies Hypergamy the Most?
The traits most sought after by women are not facial aesthetics, not muscularity, and not fortune, but social status and pre-selection by women (Can coexist, but not mutually exclusive). Note: this reality is not an excuse to give up on life or with girls just because you're not famous. Keep learning, keep lifting, keep improving.
Final Note
I would like to remind the newer guys here that female nature is not right, it's not wrong, it just is. The very things we sometimes complain about women: being irrational, emotionally unstable, fickle, and in this case,ruthlessly hypergamous, is what makes them a woman. These are not bugs, they are features. AWALT. To eradicate these features would mean she is no longer a female. It's in their nature.
The End
Recommended Reading
"Sex Positivity Does Nothing for Men" by /u/CisWhiteMaelstrom
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