Women who date assholes in their youth don't deserve sympathy

83 points358 commentssubmitted by [deleted] to r/PurplePillDebate

After reading this gilded comment here, and seeing all the replies to this comment, I thought about making this post:

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/aene9r/my_33f_stepdaughters_17f_boyfriend_18m_pushed_me/edqyan4/

http://archive.is/aNmTO

Basically, this commenter says ''When I was young, I date abusive bad boys but when I got older I gained self-esteem and matured''. Following this comment are a slew of comments in support from other women who also said they dated abusers in their teens and early 20s only to later mature past it.

Basically, I'm getting a real sense of ''When I was young, I dated shit partners, but now I date better ones''. There are a lot of guys out there who are well put together and mature, that will feel left out in the dating market when they were younger, these guys will feel like they were never given the time of day by these women in high school/college but now only have women flocking to them in their 30's and above.

Some people will try to say ''But you won her!!'' however the reality is that these women fucked around with assholes in their physical prime and then ''mature'' and settle down with the guys who they'd never give the time of day in their youth. Even when these people's parents told them that it's not a good idea to date someone with abusive tendencies, they didn't listen, hence they are complicit in their own abuse.

Some people refer to this as the ''Alpha Fux Beta Bucks'' concept - that's one way of calling it, I refrained from using that term though (even though I am a RedPiller) here.