"Tinder is the self esteem booster app for average looking woman and self esteem destroyer for average looking men." Red/black pills in the comments.

where_muh_good_mens · 2018-11-29T20:06:42+00:00

Fields reports in that thread state what we already know, that using dating apps to court and find women is a waste of time.

If that isn't enough then I found this little gem in one of the comments:

https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a

the bottom 80% of men (in terms of attractiveness) are competing for the bottom 22% of women and the top 78% of women are competing for the top 20% of men.

What this means is, unless you are a top-tier male, you will be getting single mothers, land whales, and prissy ugly entitled bitches. If you are a top-tier male, then you can expect an average, but decent looking woman to pump and dump for the night. Great.... can't wait to spend money doing OLD for scraps not even worthy to bring to my dog.

houseoftolstoy · 2018-11-29T20:50:13+00:00

It is easy to just blame Tinder and other such apps for causing the issues with dating and relationships, but that is just a scapegoat for the real issue. If it were not for human behavior, Tinder itself would be rather harmless.

If women on Tinder cared about aspects more than looks, they would select a far wider range of guys (and arguably they would not be using Tinder in the first place). But by their actions, they are showing that looks are the most important factor.

Prior to the sexual revolution, promiscuity was far more greatly shunned by society. These days women are largely shielded from any major consequences of promiscuity, and in ways which men are not (e.g. men are on the hook for child support in the event of a pregnancy, while the woman can get benefits that cater specifically for her). At least, immediate consequences are not in place, but they do show up long term when those same women ask where all the good men are.

stephcurryftw · 2018-11-29T20:27:20+00:00

Not just Tinder, any online dating/social media platform.

Roastie_haiku_bot · 2018-11-29T20:23:43+00:00

How long until it's removed, I wonder?

jazztaprazzta · 2018-11-29T22:38:36+00:00

I am glad the red/black pill is gaining mainstream momentum.

I have been on Tinder for almost an year and all I managed was to fuck a nymphomaniac. However, I figured out I didn't feel emotional satisfaction from such mechanical fucking and discontinued these relations. I've been without sex for the past few months and I manage it fine.

I explained to her that her behavior was not helping her to find a good man to have a family (I asked her what she wanted most in life and she said she considers having a man and kids to be the her ultimate goal... meanwhile she told me she has fucked with more than 20 men from Tinder and various others before Tinder).

jy856905 · 2018-11-29T23:40:57+00:00

Tinder is nothing more than fat girls, girls with those stupid sharpie Disney villain eyebrows, and nut jobs with kids or a combination of the three.

BumKnickle · 2018-11-30T00:18:18+00:00

Ill just leave this here:

https://www.news.com.au/technology/online/social/tinder-is-bad-for-your-mental-health-say-scientists/news-story/6ffd6fea2e68a603687c5b0e393c9a62

Men who used the app had lower self-esteem than those who didn’t.

although got to love the mental gymnastics they pull in the study

female Tinder users were ending up miserable because most men on the app have no intention of hooking up.

The research found women carefully chose matches — only swiping right when they saw men they really liked.

Fellas, on the other hand, tended to swipe right on all profiles just to see who ‘liked’ them.

so all those people swiping right who are men are doing it for an ego boost according to them.

Throwawaysteve123456 · 2018-11-29T21:06:47+00:00

So fucking true.

[deleted] · 2018-11-30T17:33:08+00:00

Modern dating is a joke, hell, dating is a joke. When I used to do online dating, the rare time I did manage to get a date, the girl continued using the app and dating other men. To women it's simply shopping. How the fuck are people supposed to commit and trust each other in the modern age? Worst of all the women lied, saying they deleted their app, when they did not.

It's really no surprise it is how it is. A below average looking woman still gets hundreds of matches. It's human nature to pick the better looking stuff, so I don't really blame them. But women are so god damn picky with men too, anywhere from being shallow about the man himself to not liking the brand of the microwave he's standing next to.

So yeah, as an average athletic and educated guy I managed to get dates with whales, retail workers, and women looking for a meal ticket. Really disheartening and really really self esteem destroying. I've long deleted that shit and feel very sorry for the men continuing online dating.

loneliness-inc · 2018-11-30T00:37:30+00:00

Wow Kevin, what a goldmine!

I generally like to go to the bottom to read all the comments that are downvoted to hell.

johnnight · 2018-11-30T08:11:20+00:00

People were never designed to have this much choice.

LMM-GT02 · 2018-11-30T01:24:01+00:00

Turn your distance to 1 mile. Everyone that appears in your feed outside 1 mile has already liked you. I thought it was slim pickings for me until I could pick and choose my likes.

heycool- · 2018-11-30T05:53:21+00:00

Tinder is trash. I tried it and deleted it, never going back.

plamplamthrow0321 · 2018-11-30T07:19:30+00:00

Regarding the linked OP: Ehh i dunno if i'd go that far. If your self esteem is "destroyed" by a stupid dating app, you're a really weak person i think and outta work on other stuff than just dating.

OTOH, it's made me very aware of just how brutal and unsatisfying a "relationship" would really be for a guy like myself. I don't get a lot of matches, they are rare. A lot of profiles are like a long list of reasons why you should swipe left on them. A lot of women are just absolute trainwrecks these days. They are worth a fuck and chuck, but I would NEVER let the majority of these girls move in with me, let alone share expenses. What a joke! lmao

[deleted] · 2018-11-30T16:54:42+00:00

Yea it's a mind fuck for a guy who has never had problems meeting girls.

Media tries to normalize these apps/sties, but it's the same as it always was.

Lowered Expectations

MadDogMAGA · 2018-11-30T02:23:48+00:00

If you have Tinder gold you can drop your pin anywhere... Choose some City in Eastern Europe. The women there are ridiculously hot and they like American men. My self esteem is much higher than it should be... Especially after three trips to Kiev so far.

zebrapartypatrol · 2018-11-30T05:46:02+00:00

I’m an average looking man and tinder is working for me boss

Title	"Tinder is the self esteem booster app for average looking woman and self esteem destroyer for average looking men." Red/black pills in the comments.
Author	kevin32
Upvotes	446
Comments	78
Date	November 29, 2018 7:42 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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