Once upon a time in a land far away, long before I was red pilled, I was possibly one of the nicest people you would meet. I always put everyone else before myself, often overloading my schedule to come to the aid of anyone that needed a hand. Sadly, this became a recipe for disaster, as I would often neglect personal responsibilities. Furthermore, I began to notice that people would take advantage of my kindness and I would end up getting walked all over. Someone needed a piano moved, a ladder to borrow, someone to vent to, I was in my truck and on my way over in minutes. I would shelter homeless people, donate money and items to people that were down on their luck, just about anything you could imagine. However, if I needed an extra hand, or a ride while my vehicle was down for repairs, there was never anyone there. Maybe I did it because I figured that by doing good deeds, it would come full circle, and I would experience some luck in return. Yeah, it’s stupid, but it’s just how I was as a person.
A few months ago, I reconnected with an old friend. I knew her back in the days of when she danced, and since then, she had a child. She ran into some problems around the same time, lost her job, caught a felony, didn’t have a car, didn’t have any family, was couch surfing with a few different friends to get by until she could find a new job. She mentioned she had a doctors appointment she had to get to for her daughter and no way to get there, so I offered to drop her some money to cover a cab. In return, I only asked that she stop by sometime to say hello. I wasn’t trying to get laid, I didn’t have any interest in her emotionally, I was just trying to be generous. After she got the money, I didn’t hear from her.
Until today.
Out of the blue, she sent me a text. Said she had gotten back with her ex, gotten pregnant again, and he ran off on her. Again, she was out on her ass with no job and nowhere to go. First thing she asked was if she could move in with me. Thank god I’ve taken that red pill. I’m not about to take care of her spawn and have her bossing me around in my own house. And I’m damn well not about to have random dudes using my house as a hot sheet motel while I’m away at work. Who knows how long it would be before I got hit with a #metoo case?
I feel bad for her, but her piss poor life choices are not my responsibility.
[–]RunawayGrainTRP Endorsed38 points39 points40 points (4 children) | Copy Link
The kicker is that she's gonna tell him he's an asshole for saying no, but she'll chase the same ex that knocked her up and kicked her to the curb.
[–][deleted] 15 points16 points17 points (3 children) | Copy Link
Yep, the "friend"/orbiter can't win. If he takes her in he's a chump. If he refuses, he's an asshole and "You JERK! I thought you were my FRIEND!!"
[–]SirKolbathYeah, yeah. “Mods are incels.”1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I've gotten that from people before. My response is, "I am my own friend first."
[–]Nov51605Jr. Hamster Analyst0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
best option hunkering down and absorbing the "Asshole bullets" with the MGTOW vest on !
[–]FutureSquall0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Followed by a nasty metoo accusation nowadays.
[–]AllahHatesFags28 points29 points30 points (3 children) | Copy Link
I have zero sympathy for cunts like this. They fuck around, have bastard children, and then expect everyone else to help her out the holes she keeps digging herself into, all while offering nothing of value to anybody except the Chads who pump-and-dump her. She and her brats can starve to death in the gutter for all I care.
[–]WesternhagenDiamondback AMOG13 points14 points15 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I thought you were talking about the OP when I read this. =)
But I agree with the rest of it now that I know you're not.
[–]alt_account_62 points3 points4 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Hey man, those kids didn't choose their mom. They don't deserve shitty parents any more than you did
[–]GokuGetEm6 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe not but statistics all but guarantee they will end up just like her
[–]loneliness-incLvL 99 Rogue NiceGuy™22 points23 points24 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Kindness, generosity, compassion and helping others in need are all predominantly male character traits. Anyone who takes off their bias goggles can see this everywhere.
In a world where virtue is extolled and evil is abhorred, men are able to shine through with our true nature without it coming to bite us in the rear. However, religious and morality constructs have been torn down, mocked and ridiculed in recent history. Thus, human nature is allowed to run wild with no restraint.
Restraint of uninhibited nature is the way society is maintained. None of us are free to do anything we want, anytime we want, anywhere we want. We must take the law and societal norms into account. We must practice restraint. If we don't, society imposes it on us.
Not anymore. Not for women. Female nature is allowed and often encouraged to run freely. Unadulterated female nature sees male generosity as weakness instead of seeing it as virtuous.
Therefore, in past generations, the kindhearted, generous, compassionate, charitable man was a pillar of the community. Many girls wanted to marry him. Today he's laughed out of town and gets no female attention.
Where are all the good men? Promiscuity culture unleashed true female nature which sees good men as weak and unattractive. Want good men to return? Bring back slut shaming and societal sexual restraint and let the virgins line up to marry these good men. This ain't gonna happen any time soon.
[–][deleted] 12 points13 points14 points (1 child) | Copy Link
This is what women do with nice guys. The nice guy is her "friend" only when she needs something. But when you need something, when you need help, when you need a friend, your female "friend" is nowhere to be found. She won't help you. She won't give you anything. She won't even listen to you.
I'm going to pose this challenge again. Go to your female "friends" this week. Ask them for a favor - a lift somewhere, spot $50, borrow something of hers. I'll bet $1000 she won't do it. She won't text or call you back. She won't respond. She certainly won't give you anything or do you that favor.
See, you're not a "friend". You're an orbiter. She uses and exploits you with the implied "promise" that she might have sex with you someday. She knows very well what she's doing. She's using and exploiting her orbiters for the sole purpose of extracting all she can from them.
They're not your friends, guys. They're not.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Dalrock has a great post on this.
[–][deleted] 10 points11 points12 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I am always amazed at the things men will do for women.
Even in my weaker days I wouldn't give women money for anything.
[–]IhateMisandry 1 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm not trying to be dramatic or anything, but this kind of behaviour is actually really healthy, for everyone involved here. The biggest problem with toxic femininity is unlike toxic masculinity, there is rarely any sort of push back against it, and more often than not there is actually support for it.
I don't know this woman, but I don't think its unreasonable to assume she's been given so many do-over's in her life she thinks thats what life is. This man may have actually helped this woman change her life for the better. Think about how many people enabled her toxic behaviour.
And I'm not trying to sound like an asshole, when I say do no feel bad for women like this. Remember things aren't going to be as hard for her, as they would be for you if you were in her shoes. In first world countries there is an absurd amount of support for women in every aspect of their no matter which way they are struggling, so she'll be fine.
[–]SirKolbathYeah, yeah. “Mods are incels.”[M] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Well spoken. You are well on your way to earning flair.
[–]-Enrique_Shockwave-3 points4 points5 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Aww dude you're really missin out on some pregnant creampies though! /s
[–]Workshop_Gremlin2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Refusing to take her in doesn't stop you from being a nice guy though. Being nice doesn't mean you don't have boundaries or limits to what you are willing to do for others and her asking to move in with you for what could be an indefinite amount of time is asking too much.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
How does one "catch" a felony? Like its some shit that randomly happened to you? Oh, I was just going about minding my own business and stole someone's car, and then I caught a felony.
[–]Sky-Daddy 1 points [recovered] (7 children) | Copy Link
Lmao MGTOWs are pathetic, please leave this sub
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points (2 children) | Copy Link
The guy who wrote the piece was pathetic, but at least he became aware of it.
[–]swhitney1864 points5 points6 points (1 child) | Copy Link
I respect your opinion that I may be or have been pathetic. And I’m not even saying I disagree with that opinion. Point was, I used to be the first one to help anyone out, because I was raised that it was the right thing to do. For example, I once gave a ride to someone I didn’t even know, who’s car broke down at midnight, 40 miles out of my way, and didn’t ask anything in return. I’ve literally climbed trees over 30 feet to rescue a friends cat. I’ve taken in homeless people to give them a place to stay and somewhere to get a shower and wash their clothes. I don’t ask for anything in return. My reason for posting this was so that people out there like me, who eventually get taken advantage of, can learn from my mistakes and see that there has to be a line that deciphers when enough is enough. If humiliating myself by sharing my stories saved even one other person, then it’s worth it.
[–]where_muh_good_mensSheriff Goodmonkey-2 points-1 points0 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't mistake pathetic for deplorable.
[–]where_muh_good_mensSheriff Goodmonkey1 point2 points3 points (3 children) | Copy Link
Fuck you. How about that instead.
[–]Sky-Daddy 1 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Someone is ass pained
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Walk away. Now. I'm about to hit the zot button.
Take a break.
[–]where_muh_good_mensSheriff Goodmonkey0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Well the intention was to send a message, regardless at how it came out.