Didn't believe TRP before ? Well read here and take it straight from a real girl's blog. This article shows TRP principles so clearly that I honestly would have thought its fake if I didn't look into the rest of the author's blog and her twitter. For context she is 29, single, and desperately wants to settle down; she looks decently attractive for a 29 year old. There was a time where I would have read something like this and felt bad for her; but with the red pills lens on, I just laugh.
I have been single for the past nine months. Before that brief relationship nine months ago, I had been single for about two years. That is a long time to be alone right? I take complete responsibility for that extended period of “singledome.” I was finding a new job and really I was finding myself again. I was not feeling confident or content with my life and I was scrambling to figure that out before I brought anyone else into my life.
2 years alone at your late twenties is so scary as a woman. Sorry I chose to prioritize my career, money, and freedoms over men.
My beeeautiful friend whom I shall call Em, is single as well. She has a far different dating life from mine. No two year treks of singleness for Em. Em hasn’t been lucky in love yet either, but perhaps she is more lucky in love than I am. She does at least meet men she wants to see more than twice. One thing I should mention is that Em isn’t exactly “looking” to meet anyone at this very moment.
Ok Em, ok.
Em is hotter than men and she can still pull chads, I'm kind of jealous.
Being single in your (very) late twenties is hard. A couple of months ago we went to a minor league baseball game, after a lot of rambunctious cheering I received a ball from a player with his phone number. Never one to turn down a baseball player, *wink wink* I text him and we all met up with him and his friends at a nearby bar. The night was long, hilarious and made absolutely no improvement to my love life. This brings me to problem number one of dating in your late twenties.
Turns out the baseball guy just wanted some ass and not to put a ring on my finger. I still fucked him though.
You are no longer 24.Being 24 and being 29 are vastly different. At 24 I was young, naive, full of hope and open to all possibilities. Cute and funny guy with no real job, ehh he’ll get one! At 29 I am cynical, low on patience and know exactly what I want.
At 24 I loved getting pumped by bad boys with no jobs, they even had a ton of tattoos! I loved being obsessed with them and I expected nothing in return; I was getting the tingles hard. Unfortunately I'm 29 now, cynical from being used in my youth, and I know exactly what I want now: financial support and babies.
Problem number two…
You are over meeting men at bars.Remember when you wore tight skirts and four inch heels every night to impress a bunch of men at a bar that were really only trying to sleep with you? Long gone are those days. It’s a win if you fix your hair at 29. Meeting the same intoxicated, over confident bachelors has lost its appeal. Not to mention there is still a crowd of 22 year old girls with tight skirts and perfect contouring at these bars. Who has time to compete with that? You work FULL time at a job you probably hate no less.
Just LOL. Wow....
I remember 24, when I wore my slutty tight short dresses and my fuck-me-heels for a bunch of bad boys and chads so I can get railed hard by the hottest one I could impress. I cant do that anymore :( At 29, its kind of too much effort to even make my hair look good now. While I'd like to pretend that I don't like getting sexually used by hot bad boys anymore, my real issue is that I just cant compete for them anymore with some many hotter younger girls around.
All the education and career I prioritized in my youth ended up landing me a job that I hate anyway. I don't like working, I want a breadwinner.
Problem number three…
You don’t have the energy you did when you were younger.It used to be easy to hit four social events in one weekend. But between work, the gym, sleeping and running errands you are struggling to make it to one now. Being a grown up is no joke! There is so much to get done all the time. You don’t want to spend valuable hours sitting at a restaurant, hoping an attractive man will walk through those doors and sweep you off your feet. You want to know where these men are going to be dang it!
AND SO DO I!
I feel so tired, busy, and "grown up" now, I'm not that girl anymore. I'm so busy, lets be real I'm only keeping up with my gym routine until I snag a provider. Why can't I just sit on my ass and wait for a prince charming to sweep me off my feet ? Fine I know its not gona happen, at least I want to know where and how I can snag a clueless beta.
AND SO DOES EM!
She just doesn’t know it yet.
I believe other women are feeling the way Em and I feel. So, I have decided to help you all out. I am going to do a lot of research and work for you. I have already read too many articles to count today on the best places to meet single men. Good single men. In addition to the research articles I found on the web, I have collected data on places and events good men go to. Basically, I just asked good men. They know where they go better than anyone right?
You think this is just me? I know my peers are feeling this way too when they hit 30s. My hunt for the "good single men" ( read perfect beta chump) is just beginning. Here is a blog to help other women land theirs too.
EDIT: I had her twitter tab still open and decided to scroll all the way. Look at these two gems here and here . Good luck to your future beta chump !
EDIT2: Someone inboxed me this. This blog is gold, read the description for "the safe bet" she dated while keeping what you read here in mind.
The guys she has dated:
The Safe Bet
This guy isn’t horrible. He is nice, he adores you in fact. And you like him because well, he isn’t a threat. He could never do better than you! Finally, after the beating your ego took with the player and the narcissist you can be the adored one. And no more worrying every time a pretty girl walks in the room. Then over time you will realize this man may meet lots of nice bullet points on your list, but you aren’t that into him and he doesn’t realistically meet your “top tier” qualifications for a husband, you just let him slide on account of the fact that he liked you SO darn much. He’s history.
DONT BE THIS GUY ^. If TRP wasn't clear to you, it damn well should be now.
The Player
This guy just can’t keep it in his freaking pants. He is charming, too charming, but usually equally stupid. He is hitting on you and your best friend at the same bar, in the same night. Yes, I actually dated this dude(several times). Has little going for himself except that he is a fast talker.
The guy she wants:
Is it weird if I’ve dated these same types more than once? So let me describe what I am looking for in case you know him and aren’t in love with him yourself. He is tall, dark and handsome. Those were a given right? He is a super confident man, that likes to workout, loves to stay in, understands the massive amount of time I have to spend with my mom. Loves God, has a grown up job, wants to have children, doesn’t fit into any of the above mentioned categories. Must be driven in all aspects of his life. Bonuses: he is handy (good with tools) and funny.. actually funny may be a requirement, is my list getting long? Must be able to 1. love my dogs 2. handle a girl with a big mouth and a lot of attitude…my mom, obviously! Fine…its really me with the mouth and the attitude.
EDIT3: Replaced the two blog links with their archive versions in case she deletes them. I want people to learn from this as long as reddit is up.
[–]where_muh_good_mensSheriff Goodmonkey48 points49 points50 points (5 children) | Copy Link
And here is the main take away here:
She says,
and not,
So ladies, I've decided to help you all out and *learn from my mistakes*. When you are rocking that hot bod in your early 20's and guys are hitting on you left and right, find the best one, and just go for it, just ask him to marry you. If he says no, then let another one come up to you and date him too. Then go for it, let him know you want marriage. If he says no, then keep rejecting them and don't sleep with any of them, don't give them any sexual release, just keep repeating this cycle until a man comes along and wants everything you have to offer, including your hot bod.
But nope. She isn't about learning anything, just complaining; hoping, and telling other girls how they can fuck whoever they want and then just find a good man at the right place. Because, Good Men are just waiting to have your stretched out, broke ass for the rest of their lives without having your tight, hot ass for the measly 10 years before.
[–]EconomistMagazine21 points22 points23 points (0 children) | Copy Link
If she's trading sex for commitment she's going to have a terrible marriage.
[–]loveinterbeingwisdom 1 points [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
This is why I don't believe in female own group preference. This is intentionally bad advice and they know it. If their crusty whore selves can't be happy no one can.
[–]where_muh_good_mensSheriff Goodmonkey14 points15 points16 points (2 children) | Copy Link
I think some of it is that they don't want to take responsibility for their shit, but they also want public validation for their past shit. So they write all this up to show how the man they thought they wanted was far off from their hot body 20's, but the hamster can't allow themselves to made out like a slut without any self-control, so they attempt to rationalize their behavior by saying that good man might still be there, and here's where.
(Public Validation + Attention + Hope) X Sluts = twentysomethings blog
[–]TheYekke6 points7 points8 points (1 child) | Copy Link
It wasn’t until I stumbled on black dragon’s blog that I saw it confirmed that players chase the 27 and under crowd. Just by carefully checking the many field reports posted on TRP I already noticed a trend to stay away from the crop of 29-31 year olds and towards the 19-21 year olds (legal drinking age makes the diff, where I’m from it’s 18). This Carol’s undoing has been to use inappropriate skills to fail. She maximized her notch count (SMP) and believes thottery is the way to commitment (leaving aside her intended target). The desired outcome is simply out of her reach, she’s broadcasting both that she’s easy for the right man, and a bitter slut for all the others. Bitterness/unpleasant disposition can be picked up from a mile away. Had she started adult life with the drive to prepare herself for marriage, she would have at least commented on women’s behaviors (what is absent is as much telling as to what is being said). She hasn’t even made it to being a reformed slut.
What’s left of the peak marital marketplace has moved well south of 30 (32 becoming the new 39). Even the much maligned betas have figured out to stay away from sluts pretending to be born again prudes (marriage is for betas, and marriage rates are tanking).
So, let’s roll the dice here and come up with some sort of probability for this Carol’s future: 1. The never to be mommy blogger is attention whoring with the 27-35 crowd trying to make this into a paying venture, all the while broadcasting her inner bitch to any schmuck that might google her. I’d give this a 70% probability. Go google ‘bitter babe blog’ where this will go once she hits prime sterility.
This is a stock photo combined with an alter ego agony aunt (female or male, or both) as a trial balloon to gauge target demographic interests (iow fake). I give this a 20% probability, but something about the way this blog is presented doesn’t seem right. Too much polish.
She’s much older, married/kids, trying to do #1 but with hindsight as a part-time ‘life coach’. I give this a 10% probability.
[–]where_muh_good_mensSheriff Goodmonkey[M] 4 points5 points6 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I think you are close on your assement. Having investigated her social media accounts, I came to a conclusion that she was desperate and looking for a man still. It was chalked full of sponsors and other commercial ventures, while at the same time attempting to show a woman who was actively planning for her future and complaining about the one she is currently missing out on.
That being said, it was also a bunch of memes that appeared to target a 'misery-loves-company' audience with the caption to check out her blog. So, the 20% probability also seems correct.
On the 10% life coach, that seems a bit off. I just don't see where there is money in that. Unless this is all some elaborate scheme to come out with another blog that references this old one as the "I thought I was down and out on my luck, but wait here is what I did to pick up the pieces, and you can too!". It isn't outside the realm of possibility, but either is a blog written by a 'married/kids' mother attempting to capitalize on a growing group of women riding the carousel and now looking to get off either. It is just too polished and elaborate to be used in any profitable capacity.
It is funny, her blog for that article throws a 404 Page not found now. So, she definitely got wind of what we wrote here and determined it was bad publicity. Which also makes me think that it is the leftovers woman attempting to capitalize on her promiscuous history among the leftovers audience while also putting out the flares for a good man to find her.
[–]where_muh_good_mensSheriff Goodmonkey40 points41 points42 points (3 children) | Copy Link
And also notice this about not taking responsibility for her shit:
She didn't say it, but it's there. She fucked him hard, and probably his friends too. But he ditched her right after or as soon as she woke up with a note on the night stand, "it was fun toots, now GTFO"
She didn't say that side of things, because she wants to cover up the fact that she is not just a slut, but has no control either. *wink
[–]JJ3314Sr. Hamster Analyst24 points25 points26 points (2 children) | Copy Link
Amazing the euphemistic, coquettish language that many women use. Way before the redpill, I might have been annoyed by her casual entitlement, but not have thought seriously about her N count, or what's being left out from her recounting of events. To a naieve, young man, she comes across as almost classy. Terrible the wool that is pulled over the eyes of many a man.
Edit for clarity
[–]BewareTheOldManEndorsed3 points4 points5 points (1 child) | Copy Link
"To a naïve, young man, she comes across as across as almost classy. Terrible the wool that is pulled over the eyes of many a man."
That's why guys like you, me, and other men are warning young, single, childless, and never-married men to STAY AWAY from these burned out, stalled-out, and passed-around hags.
Good Men have no use for these women and their emotional baggage. Had this 29-year-old woman conducted a deliberate search for her husband in her early 20s, she would not be entering her early 30s with almost no chance of finding a husband.
An early 30s women should go at least 10 to 15 years older on the husband search and be prepared for a man who is either already divorced and/or with kids...and less than her ideal "Chad."
Her ideal is a man a few years older, handsome, financially stable, and has continued potential for improvement in major areas of life. The frustration for this woman is these men are looking at early 20s women for better options.
She had her best shot well before 29, but (as usual) wasted her youth.
[–]JJ3314Sr. Hamster Analyst1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Agree 100%
[–]DatBoiCrazy29 points30 points31 points (3 children) | Copy Link
When I was 29, I had been alone for, uh, 29 years. It wasn't that terrifying for me. I met girls like her constantly, and never got anywhere with them. Like her, they preferred baseball players.
She looks like that creepy snakey-looking girl Muppet (https://muppetmindset.files.wordpress.com/2016/02/janice.jpg) so she's gonna have an uphill climb.
[–]houseoftolstoyHeavy Marauder of Truth Bombs25 points26 points27 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Most women would be floored by what most men experience in their lives. If you are not in the top 20 percent of men, you are most likely to be ignored and passed over by women in the early stages of life. And men are expected to deal with it and never be upset about it.
When the tables turn and a man in his 30s is finally given the gift of a woman his age looking at him as relationship material when she would have ignored him 10 years previously, is it any wonder men are not keen about accepting that kind of deal?
[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Know that feeling...
[–]where_muh_good_mensSheriff Goodmonkey7 points8 points9 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Hahah, bawled at that correlation. Thank you.
[–]xkulp8"Tucks" his problems away25 points26 points27 points (3 children) | Copy Link
From her blog, her "90-day quest" or whatever it was ended at the start of this year (2018) and she still lives with her parents, or did as of last November.
[–]JJ3314Sr. Hamster Analyst14 points15 points16 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Excellent
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Also, water is wet.
[–]PUBLIQclopAccountant1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s just called being fiscally responsible
[–]AllahHatesFags19 points20 points21 points (9 children) | Copy Link
The best place for you to meet a good man to settle down with is right where you are, 5 years ago. So she needs to either invent a time machine, lower her standards, or die alone.
[–][deleted] 24 points25 points26 points (6 children) | Copy Link
yeah
it bears repeating. The best strategy a woman can follow is to start getting serious about finding a husband at the very latest, when she turns 21, and preferably earlier than that.
Around age 21, she needs to start finding marriage minded men she can be attracted to. She needs to date them and screen them hard. Look for men who are in their mid to late 20s, between 2 and 6 years older than she is. She needs to pick one, latch on for life, subordinate her life to his, go wherever he goes, and support him with everything she's got. The dude will love her forever and will be totally devoted to her, and she will be wifed up by 25. Easy peasy lemon squeezy. Tens of millions of women have done this, and it worked very, very well for thousands of years.
[–]EconomistMagazine4 points5 points6 points (4 children) | Copy Link
I'm not denying or rejecting your advice. It's very sound from a historical and conservative perspective.
Problem is that the human brain isn't fully mature until the age of 25. If you live in a Western country you will see that almost all marriages made in someone's early 20s don't work out.
She can be "marriage minded" all she wants but society is different now. Everyone is "allowed to change their mind" and when they do so there are no consequences for the broken promises made in the past. The female will take all the kids and most of the family assets, the man will be left with nothing.
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Plenty of women married around age 19 and the early 20s in 1920s-1950s America, and they did OK. Their immature brains matured and grew along with the immature brains of their early 20s to mid 20s-aged husbands. And they did ok. did they all do great or spectacularly? no. did most of them do OK? Yeah, they did.
[–]BiggusDickus-5 points6 points7 points (2 children) | Copy Link
That is simply not true. For the vast majority of human history, the vast majority of women were married long before they turned 25, and divorce was virtually unheard of. And, even today, many, many successful marriages start in younger adulthood.
And, the comment isn't that a woman should get married before 25, persay, but that she should have found her future husband by then. In other words, but 21 at the latest a woman should be very conscientiously dating men who are husband material, and they should apply mature standards, such as intelligence, loyalty, earning potential, etc....
Fucking around until you are 25 or older, and then deciding you are ready to find your husband is a great way to end up with tons of cats and an drinking problem.
[–]RadicalAsceticMonk1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Because they would stone her to death if she did want a divorce.
Marriage is a trap, and always was, for both parties.
[–]BiggusDickus-1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Marriage is a way to have stable, long-term support as well as children that will love and take care of you. Happily married men are, statistically, much healthier and less stressed than any other group of men. And the same is true for women. They are also both more satisfied sexually.
The problem is stupid feminists and moronic beta men decided to screw it up.
[–]houseoftolstoyHeavy Marauder of Truth Bombs11 points12 points13 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Ironically, she will be raising her standards, as she described herself as being picky. Of course, she will now be looking at standards that are indicative of long term commitment, while she neither prepared herself to be a good long term partner nor has as much physical beauty on her side. Is it any wonder men avoid committing to women like her? Marriage once was a great deal for both men and women, but women have decided that their best years should be withheld from their husbands, while demanding the even more from men.
[–]TheYekke4 points5 points6 points (0 children) | Copy Link
...and the result is a spinster bubble. Men adapt, and go elsewhere (sex tourism). Either way the problem solves itself eventually...societies sometimes get to be too dumb to survive
[–][deleted] 11 points12 points13 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Ship sailed bitch. "Good men" dont want a woman like you.
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points (1 child) | Copy Link
This has been summarized/linked here before
[–]kevin32Reddit's Ambassador for NiceGuys™[S] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep u/LewisCross you're right. See my modmail about this here.
[–]StrongAttitude9 points10 points11 points (0 children) | Copy Link
it's good to have a Red Pill Goggle on. Everything makes sense, :D
[–]OverkillengineCasts Pearls to the Swine8 points9 points10 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Thot to English translation:
"Gee, I wasted the years of my life where I had my peak negotiating power on men that had no intent or reason to commit to me. What to do? Oh I know, ignore that I do not have the same negotiating power as back then and double down on chasing men that can do better than me! It'll work for sure, not like there is decades of historical data of women doing the same thing to show that it won't!"
[–]ogrilla99Pez "The Pussy Dispenser" Pimp7 points8 points9 points (1 child) | Copy Link
That blog post has even more gold to be mined:
IOW, even your own brother thinks you're a flaky thot who's looking for the next horse on the carousel as soon as the initial tingles are over. And you think you're ready for a marriage?
There is no better summary or confirmation of redpill thinking right here. Her friends point out she dates douches. She readily admits it, doesn't even disagree that they're douchebags. Because she already has her plan set: ride the CC until she's ready to settle down. Then literally ask "where are all the good men?", figuring it's a simple geography issue: a simple matter of finding the right restaurant or golf club where these men hang out, and in 90 days, finding one.
Absolutely no introspection when her brother suggests she has a problem with the sacrifices necessary for an LTR, ,or when her guy friends tell her her problem is she's attracted to douchebags and not good guys. I mean, a "good guy" is just a douchebag who can give you tingles for decades as if it's the first date, right? That's what a good man does for you, right? Why oh why can't I find any like that?
[–]houseoftolstoyHeavy Marauder of Truth Bombs3 points4 points5 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I would need to do some digging with this blog, but I predict that her relationship with her father is either damaged or nonexistent. Women who love and respect their fathers don't slut around with a bunch of guys. I include spineless fathers in the category of damaged relationships, since a father that truly cares makes sure to instill good values to his children.
If my prediction is true, it is not surprising that she behaves this way. Everyone who complains about the "patriarchy" being s bad thing is a fool, as patriarchy is just the thing we need. I certainly don't want any future daughters of mine to be sluts. I expect that she does not associate with douchey men and brings a respectable man home if she has any romantic intentions. Men have a far better radar for douchiness than women overall, as evidenced by her brother and her male friends. At least, they understand that her choices in men are bad if she is looking for long term success.
She should really listen to her brother, since he clearly knows better than her. And on that note, if she has a brother, shouldn't she have a better means of understanding when it comes to men through him. I mean, you can't have a better example of someone who can give out no bs in sight on men. He would most likely be close to her age and he would not be blindsided by ulterior motives to get in bed with her. She would save a lot of time just by asking her brother what she should do, instead of her most likely to fail experiment.
[–]The_Stumper7 points8 points9 points (0 children) | Copy Link
That was posted in 2017.
She would have to be “29 and 12 months and still terrified” by now.
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't know why guys even waste their time trying to explain things to 30 year old single women
[–]Satmatzi6 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm don't consider myself a red piller bc it's too nihilistic for me (in the sense that it seems that much of the community almost builds an animosity towards all woman and that they're victims). I prefer to view it as the nature of woman and men and you can still find a healthy balance in a woman (bc many of the traits will still be in their nature). But sometimes man, especially when you come across the average basic girl in this generation who denounced the values from past generations (maybe they existed for a reason?) because it's not liberal enough and shame men for having "double standards" as an excuse to abuse their power and fuck around, it's the most useful tool in filtering out people for who they really are and knowing who to avoid. This girl is a perfect example. In the end of the day she's human and I empathize for her wanting to find a good person to settle down with, we all do.. but look in the mirror a realize that the monster is within you and that you are the root of the problem. That you are the one that didn't realize that you abused your power for many years. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
[–]magx013 points4 points5 points (0 children) | Copy Link
This is what you get when culture and biology are at odds with one another.
[–]ebaymasochistTRIGGERED4 points5 points6 points (0 children) | Copy Link
This woman would be the perfect third or forth sister wife to some guy with a 5 bedroom house and staple full of farm animals out back, somewhere in the mountains. Her and Em, sharing a husband and household duties. Who cares if she's a lil rough around the edges? I'll take four 6s at the same time over a single ten any day. Variety is the spice of life.. God didn't make adam and eve, he made a whole bunch of people, and some of them didn't get to fuck
[–]Stahlboden2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol, supermarket mentality.
[–]StoneTempleFlyboy2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
You can see the seething rage in her eyes. This woman is a false domestic violence case waiting to happen.
[–]Uqtpa1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
Link to that blog?
[–]where_muh_good_mensSheriff Goodmonkey2 points3 points4 points (1 child) | Copy Link
In OP.
https://www.twentynineandterrified.com/good-men-gone/
[–]Uqtpa2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks.
[–]Mrapocalisse1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
sounds like a 16 year old who just went on the TRP subreddit. I really fucking pity this guy if he's over 18. Just for clarification,she's pretty fucking stupid too.