[25F] "We live in a society where guys pick a new girl every time they change their underwear. What happened to courting someone? Going out on a few dates before hopping into bed? I want an old fashioned kind of love. Where doors are opened, trust is earned, respect is given, and time is valued."

concacanca · 2018-08-05T18:46:21+00:00

Keep in mind this is just for the men she finds attractive. Everyone else doesn’t matter.

wathon2 · 2018-08-05T20:13:41+00:00

Women switch between "old fashion" and "progressive" whenever the situation benefit them. They want cake and eat it too.

Girls, unless you're a 'debt free virgin with no tattoo', don't expect any kind of old fashion courtship.

jeremyjimmy · 2018-08-05T19:24:59+00:00

Seems like this article could also use the “chasing Chad” label as its opening paragraphs suggest her interest in chads and dudes with options.

where_muh_good_mens · 2018-08-05T19:40:18+00:00

When did this lack of respect and fear of commitment become our new normal?

When you chose to stuff your gut with various baby batter blasters rather than your mind with chaste, traditional values....

The worst part is that its not just men doing it to us, ladies we are doing it to ourselves.

Uhh, no ladies. You are are doing all of it. You control the sexual intimacy, which guys get to fuck, and which guys get to pull out bucks. If you get guys to fuck, then don't expect the bucks. If you get the bucks, then there are no more fucks. This isn't a hard concept ladies. If you give up your goods to a few guys for fun, then you will have a harder time giving up your goods for guys that will treat you anything more than a fun toy.

RadicalAsceticMonk · 2018-08-06T00:36:47+00:00

The absolute state of that article... Going to have to take that apart!

Guys picking a new girl every time they change their underwear.

This applies to the top 10% of men. No other males can do this whatsoever – none. But why am I not shocked this is representative of males as a whole? Men beneath the peak are worthless and barely even living, sentient beings to you.

We have lowered our standards immensely from the time that our parents dated.

You can thank feminism for that. Why would males maintain the relatively high standard of behaviour to get sex when the feminists of the 1960s and 1970s were all “burn your bras, wheeeeey”. They made sex more readily available. If there’s more of something on the market, the behaviour level doesn’t have to be as high (market forces) to get sex… Does it? Idiot.

I know that I want an old fashioned kind of love. Where doors are opened, trust is earned, respect is given, and time is valued.

Isn’t opening doors considered sexist or racist or something? I just can’t remember.

But now we have millions of people at our disposal every single day. Look at all the dating apps- if someone doesn’t look the way we like we just swipe left and then a millisecond later a new face appears on our phones.

All of that is a facade. Yes, men may see millions of faces but how many will swipe right on him? I read a study somewhere women swipe right 11% of the time and men do 80% of the time? Women aren’t being reasonable, they’re doing that to themselves.

We have to keep our options open incase someone better comes along.

As above, most males don’t have that option. Especially not in their twenties anyway. A reading of sexual/marriage marketplace value would probably be quite useful here.

We might have to actually put someone else’s needs before our own? What a shocking concept.

An entitled millennial woman stating this is side-splittingly funny. The irony is really quite something.

What happened to opening doors, pulling out chairs, going on multiple dates, meeting families? Taking the actual steps of a relationship? Instead, we will go out to dinner, send these pictures of ourselves, hook up, and accept not being boyfriend and girlfriend. When did this lack of respect and fear of commitment become our new normal?

See above. The behaviour required to get sex isn’t as high now, so neither is the behaviour. Honestly, how feminists didn’t think that men would adapt to the new ‘rules’ is staggering.

satansbarbedcock · 2018-08-05T21:11:13+00:00

My brother actually found a trad girl to marry. (She is unnatractive, but so is he.)

She says it makes her really sad to see other women waste their ability to love on men who only want to fuck them. (Not how she talks) She tries to tell them, but they never listen.

She's the only woman I know that doesn't seem fucking miserable half the time.

BiggusDickus- · 2018-08-06T00:18:46+00:00

"When did this lack of respect and fear of commitment become our new normal?"

When feminists decided that men don't matter.

I love how the post before that is all about how women should "never settle" and judge the shit out of men that they meet.

xkulp8 · 2018-08-05T20:16:05+00:00

She has a kid and can't stop writing about her "abusive" ex. I didn't bother reading the details of her past relationship, but who gives a fuck.

thxnwy · 2018-08-05T20:03:28+00:00

I don't want to be accused of benevolent sexism just because I happened to hold the door for a rabid feminist. It doesn't worth the risk.

Chivalry is dead and feminism killed it.

[deleted] · 2018-08-05T20:20:53+00:00

You. You happened

ransay3277 · 2018-08-05T23:40:20+00:00

She says all the guys are not ready for a relationship. She is missing the last two words of that sentence... with you.

TomahawkSuppository · 2018-08-06T18:00:18+00:00

What happened to courting?

Well sweetheart, what happened was that feminists happened. See they have force-fed the narrative that back in the day everyone was an abused, beaten upon innocent and every man was a wife beating monster. When society chooses to accept that narrative and actively shamed me for my gender and masculinity, well you can why in the words of Rhett Butler, I really don’t give a damn anymore.

PhotosyntheticChad · 2018-08-06T07:43:57+00:00

Feminism happened.

lorum_ipsum_dolor · 2018-08-06T12:21:19+00:00

Most of all I want respect.

Respect is earned toots. It's not like getting "likes" on some social media account. It takes hard work and integrity.

Banincoming · 2018-08-05T23:55:50+00:00

It's possible she wasn't picky enough. Every night the first PUA that hit on her at the bar took her home...for 30 years.

SirKolbath · 2018-08-06T19:45:13+00:00

I absolutely value my time.

That's why I'm not spending it with you, toots.

redditors_are_rtards · 2018-08-11T19:18:25+00:00

Did any of you actually read the whole post?

Aside from the first paragraph that's quoted here (which is obviously full of crap), the rest of it makes me question why on earth that was even chosen as the first paragraph, as the writer is not that stupid of a person (perhaps as readbait for feminazis?).

To quote a few:

We have gotten to a point where its okay to waste each others time. We date, get close with a person, then drop them as if they never existed.

...

I want to get to talk and get to know you.

...

But now we have millions of people at our disposal every single day. Look at all the dating apps- if someone doesn’t look the way we like we just swipe left and then a millisecond later a new face appears on our phones. We judge everyone by their looks and not who they actually are.

...

We guard ourselves so much because of the fact that everyone views the other person as disposable.

...

Instead we “talk” for a little while, a few months go by and then its the classic line of “I really like you a lot but I am not really interested in a relationship right now, but we can still hangout.” We refuse to put labels on our relationships. We hangout all the time, talk to each other every day, you can become intimate but no we are not boyfriend and girlfriend. God forbid anyone knows that either of us are off the market. We have to keep our options open incase someone better comes along. We might have to actually put someone else’s needs before our own? What a** shockin**g concept.

All of this shows that what the writer means by "not settling" is not settling for a disposable wallet/status-item/provider/check writer/bill payer/white knight/doormat, but to want an actual *relationship*, not just an accessory that fulfills some specific need.

RadicalAsceticMonk · 2018-08-21T14:08:54+00:00

I want to get to talk...

I want you to respect me...

I know that I want an old fashioned kind of love...

I want to talk about your feelings, I want to know about your deepest darkest secrets

>Ctrl+F "I offer": zero results.

>Ctrl+F "I am willing/I'm willing": zero results.

It's truly a mysterious mystery how such a woman is all alone in her life.

Oh, and the tags she put this post under are really something:

abuse, alyssasstory, brainstorm, Dating, domestic violence, family, letter, life, love, motherhood, relationship, strength, Survivor,

Where are any of these terms even hinted in that drivel?