Summary

Be cool. Don't be creepy.

This is a continuation of the series. TRP deletes posts with links even inside TRP (perhaps this can change?) so go to my username and check my submitted posts for the other parts

Creepy

A creepy guy tries to take value without giving anything in return. The man who gropes women on the bus is the extreme example but even in normal interactions, if a woman feels that you are only interacting with her to take value (i.e., it excites you to talk to her or you hope it goes somewhere) but not able to give value (i.e., she doesn't want anything from you) then you are creepy. This is why two men can say and do the same things and will have two different effects. Imagine yourself falling asleep on the metro/subway. After a while, you wake up and there is a homeless guy's face 4 inches in front of your face giving a big grin. This is sort of what creepy feels like to a girl. Its pretty repulsive and she will slither away. Note that if you look like Leonardo DiCaprio, you show future value and therefore it won't be creepy at all. Heck, even if Leonardo gropes her, it wont be creepy because there is future value as she can brag to her friends.

Cool

A cool guy gives value without expecting anything in return. A fireman who rescues a woman is an extreme example but in day to day situations a man who can hold an interesting conversation without expecting to sleep with her is a good example. You should genuinely feel that you offer her value generously and do not care if you get nothing from her. You should not want anything from her during the first minute of conversation.

Future value

Briffault's Law suggests that only future value is important and all past value is disregarded by the woman. So if your sense of humor was the greatest value you had and somehow you lost it, she will lose interest in you, regardless of how much you made her laugh in the past.

The following are good future values:

  • Confidence
  • Imperturbability (stoicness)
  • Ambition
  • Strong physical presence
  • Strong social connections
  • Any skill that draws attention (public speaking/music)

Note that there is not much you can do about your height and facial aesthetics but overall you can improve most things in the list above. You may need to work on them for a few months or years but with consistency, you will be attractive.

Withholding desire

The key to seduction is not knowing if the other person likes you. When you see a woman you desire, if you cold-approach her there is a good chance you will come off as creepy. This is because most guys do not give the appearance of confidence but instead give off vibes of thirst. She senses your feeling (and sometimes you don't sense it yourself) and she will be repulsed. You need to be cool when you approach a girl. When you initially talk to her, you need to feel confident/ambitious rather than thirsty/interested. This enables her to feel your strength(coolness) rather than your thirst(creepiness). She will enjoy the feeling of talking to you and when you sense it, you can let desire flow. All of this becomes natural and effortless with a little practice.

Warm approach

When you approach a woman, let's say there's a 10% chance she likes you, a 10% chance she is disgusted by you and an 80% chance she is neutral. If you cold approach a woman, the default for her is to reject you for the neutral case. Therefore you have a 10% success rate and a 90% failure rate. However, if a woman has noticed you (because say you had an interesting conversation with the bartender sitting right next to her and ignoring her) or she knows you from her social circle, her default changes a bit more to yes, so you may have say a 60% chance of success in getting to the next step.

Your date/interaction

You need to practice talking to women without feeling awkward or nervous. If you kino a woman when you feel this nervous, you will come off creepy. For beginners, I suggest first kino her when she laughs at your joke or otherwise responds to you in a positive emotion.

As a man, you need to be aware of your feelings and hers. If she is creeped out, you need to exit the scene gracefully if the woman is in your social circle. You don't want word to spread about you and be ostracized.

Conclusion

Focus on feeling cool and confident. Let her feel your presence before you turn on desire.