For those of you doing online dating for an LTR (or if you just like to browse), I would like to share my experience on how to spot women looking for a "Good Man", but who also rode the carousel and dated jerks in their past.

 

Spotting Carol

The most basic indicator for spotting Carol is that she'll say she's looking for a "Good Man" or a "Real Man", while also complaining about the jerks she used to date.

She will usually be in her 30s or older, and her dating profile will include certain key words and phrases to indicate a history on the carousel (or her need for financial stability):

  • "Good Man" (who she's currently looking for): "good man", "real man", "nice guy", "nice man", "good guy", "decent man", "decent guy", "mature man", "quality man", "honest man", "gentleman", "best friend", "prince charming", "Mr. Right", "man of my dreams", "soul mate", "a man not a boy", "that special someone", "a man with substance", "good-hearted", "good listener", "goal-oriented", "caring", "kind", "respectful", "dependable", "responsible"

  • "Jerks" (who she used to date): "jerks", "bad boys", "fuck boys", "party boys", "boy toys", "assholes", "douchebags", "bastards", "liars", "losers", "bums", "players", "cheaters", "two-timers", "womanizers", "abusers", "Mr. Wrong", "wrong men", "wrong guys", "wife beaters"

  • "Tired": "Tired of the games", "Tired of jerks who only want sex", "Tired of being taken advantage of", "Sick and tired of being hurt", "Tired of being taken for granted", "I'm through with all the games", "I'm done dating jerks"

  • "No time for games": "I don't have time for games", "Life is too short", "I'm not getting any younger"

  • "I'm ready": "I'm ready for a real man", "I'm ready for a serious relationship", "I'm ready to meet the man of my dreams", "I'm in one of the best places of my life", "It's time for me to settle down", "I'm ready for something real", "I'm at a good place in my life", "I'm ready to settle down"

  • "Single by choice": "I'm single by choice", "I'm alone by choice", "I've been single for X years", "I've lived alone for X years", "I needed to find myself", "I needed to rediscover myself", "I needed to find me again", ("Single" does not mean she's not getting sex. Every woman who brags about how happy she is being single is riding the carousel. No exceptions.)

  • "Good Girl": "I'm a good girl", "I'm not like the other women here", "I'm a good woman", "I'm a mature woman", "I'm a lady", "I'm not here for sex", "I'm not that kind of girl", "I respect myself", "I'm not easy", "I'm not a slut"

  • "Kids": "I have 2 kids who are my world", "I have a daughter who is my everything", "I have a son who is first in my life", "I'm a stay at home mom", "My children come first"

Other statements: "I've dated jerks in the past", "I've been hurt too many times", "I've been with a lot of jerks", "I just got out of a bad relationship"

And of course there's The Big Question: "Where are all the Good Men?", "What happened to all the Nice Guys?", "Where are the Real Men at?", "Where have all the Good Men gone?", or the statement "A good man is hard to find."

And as LewisCross pointed out in the comments, Carol's pics will usually include cleavage, lots of skin, tattoos and dressing slutty (though some women will attempt to hide this). There's also the likelihood of her pics being taken a few years ago so she appears younger (several years if she's much older).

Here are some example profiles to illustrate all the points above: (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)

Carol can even be spotted right here on Reddit: (1, 2, 3)

 

Even a cursory search on Google using any combination of the above terms will yield an abundance of Carols looking for a "Good Man", with most dating and social media sites having their own search engines that return more accurate results:

  • "good man" "jerks"

  • "tired of the games" "real man"

  • "Where are all the good men" "jerks"

As was said in the The Life Story of Carol, women who rode the carousel generally don't make good long-term partners because they're self-serving, disrespectful, unappreciative, they aren't good homemakers, and they aren't committed. And just like her relationships with friendzoned men, she will want the LTR to be all about her like a pampered baby. So these are women you should avoid giving your commitment to.

 

Spotting snowflakes

So how can you tell a woman didn't ride the carousel? That she had fewer partners and longer commitments? Well first off to be blunt, if she's attractive and grew up in an English-speaking country with minimal constraints on her behavior, then she was likely a carousel rider, or at the very least engaged in some serial monogamy.

But to answer the question, and granted it's not a perfect indication because women won't necessarily confess their sexual history in a dating profile, but in general a way to tell a woman might have had fewer partners and longer commitments is she won't complain about the jerks she used to date or come across as judgmental. She won't portray herself as a victim of dating "bad men". Her focus is finding a Good Man, so her dating description is written with that focus to the exclusion of all other men, which would also suggest to some extent that she dated decent men she doesn't need to bash online. Other general indicators include she doesn't have tattoos, short hair, dyed hair, or unusual piercings, she dresses decent and not slutty, she had a conservative upbringing, very family-oriented, and she has a good, close relationship with both mom and dad. (example)

Again, not a perfect indication, but if you're looking for an LTR, I would recommend starting with women who give a generally long but positive dating description, without complaining or bringing up problems from her past.

I intend to write a more detailed analysis of Carol's wording, but until then be careful out there in your online dating endeavors.