Red Pill Detox First Aid Kit - Start Here!

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Welcome! Wether you feel like Red Pill has brought you more harm than good or you simply wish to question Red Pill views you're on the right place. This post is composed by a collection of scientific and rational posts from different authors, both in reddit and other websites, to help former red pillers (men and women) to recover from red pill.

Through this series of posts you're gonna find scientific and reasonable arguments with the aim of at least making you start questioning what you "learned" on TRP. Open discussion is encouraged, as long as it's respectable and (also) backed scientificly and/or logical (no pseudoscience). Please, note that i do not really wish to "disprove" TRP nor forbid you to follow it: Actually, i believe that everybody is entitled to believe and follow the path they wish to, even if they chose the path that we, former TRPers, personally disagree with and don't advise to anyone. Rather, i desire to raise skepticism on you and make you start questioning what you believe, with science, reason and empathy. But in the end, you're free to chose your own path, to see whatyou agree with and decide what's right or wrong in both TRP and our arguments.

Your friend,

Red Pill Detox

Posts from reddit:

Posts on the web:

  • The Myth of the Alpha Male, by Scott Barry Kaufman, PhD - This post, written by Scott Barry Kaufman, an evolutionary/positive psychologist who co-wrote "Mating Intelligence Unleashed", tackles the Alpha vs Beta distinction from a scientific point of view. He believes that being dominant and agressive isn't really attractive except to some people or on certain contexts, and that being a prestigious person who can be both confident, assertive but also kind and compassionate is a much better strategy. He also believe that people can't be divided in neither alpha or beta, because kindness and dominance can co-exist in the same person, leading him to conclude that being a person with both "beta" and "alpha" qualities is what ultimately will make someone attractive. He bases his data on psychology studies, studies on tribes worlwide and animal behavior.

  • Butchering the Alpha Male, by Mark Manson - In this remarkable post, Mark Manson, author of "Models: Attract women through honesty" shows how the "Alpha Male" term is illogical and unreliable, how it is actually counter-productive in the long term and exactly what is there to learn that is positive about this alpha male stuff

  • My Life as a Pick Up Artist, by Mark Manson Although this post is specifically targeting Pick Up Artists, i can safely say that what it's said here it's also valid for Red Pill. Regardless TRP admits it or not, it converges in 90% of their beliefs with Pick Up Artists. This post, by Mark Manson, is about his story as a former Pick Up Artist, specifically, how having lot's of sex won't necessarly make you happy and how tieing the idea of sucess with sex and being alpha will lead you to nothing but depression.

  • Reclaiming Manhood: Detoxifying Masculinity, by Dr. Nerdlove - Here, famous author Doctor NerdLove explains what is toxic masculinity and why is bad. Toxic Masculinity is a set of beliefs about men and women, that is promoted by movements like The Red Pill, and bases men's self-worth on how dominant, agressive and sexually conquering he is. The author very eloquently explains why this set of beliefs is bad and how one can overcome it: Stop viewing women as enemies, stop assuming the worst about men and don't allow yourself to be an asshole just to prove yourself and others that you're a man.

  • What's wrong with taking the Red Pill, by Dr. NerdLove - This post is about the sister of a Red Piller talking about her brother's experience with the Red Pill and her perspective on it and reaching Dr NerdLove for help. It gives us insight on how the people you love view you when you take the Red Pill. It also gives us insight on how the Red Pill can go massively wrong. Doctor Nerdlove does a well-thought criticism of Red Pill.

  • A New Masculinity, by Mark Manson - In this wonderful post, Mark Manson tackled the myth of Masculinity as being a universal construct based on the work of respectable anthropologist David Gilmore. The main premise is that manhood is something to be proven in virtually all cultures in the world, but the way masculinity is asserted differ from place to place. In the west, masculine role models used to be finacially succesful men who could support their wifes. But nowadays women can support themselfs and now men are confused. The conclusion? A new masculinity is needed. And this masculinity should be rooted in traditional values like financial success and assetiveness but also empathy and love.

  • How America Became Infatuated with a Cartoonish Idea of 'Alpha Males' - Jesse Singal, New York Times journalist, explains how the Alpha Male term has increasingly became popular in the last century, particulary in the last 3 decades, and how that have been influencing pop culture. He proceeds to explain how over-simplistic and exaggerated the whole term is.

  • Is the Human Species Sexually Omnivorous, by Patrick F. Clarkin - If you heard about "hypergamous women", how women are "hard-wired to exploit your for your money once they reach 25" or "How men are hard-wired to cheat", fear no more. This post about REAL evolutionary psychology explains just how much human "sexual strategies" are highly flexible and different or, in other words, how humans are "sexually omnivorous". Some people are promiscuous and gonna fuck whoever. Other people are monogamous and don't care about partying arround. Others are indeed perfect pictures of red pill. Regardless, one thing is clear: Different people and different situations lead to different "sexual strategies" and one can't really generalize about how "all women are whores" or anything similar. Even if it has a grain of truth, it is dependent on way too many factors.

  • Why having a dominant partner is linked to being unhappy in a relationship, by Dr. Lisa Hoplock - According to Dr. Lisa Spock, a relationship researcher, Dominance is linked to lower relationship satisfaction because a partner’s dominance can make one feel unhappy and less autonomous. Try to share the power in your relationship. Perhaps this is one reason why people in egalitarian relationships tend to be happier in their relationships (and life). This is obviously contradictive of TRP, that advises dread game (as in, being dominant), to deal with women "Hypergamous ways" and who think women want to be dominated at all times.

  • Is the drive to be masculine hurting your Mental Health, by Jeremy Adam Smith - This post reviews recent meta-analysis (a meta-analysis is a combination of dozens of studies), that concludes that being masculine is bad for your mental health. More interestingly, wanting to have power over women, basing one's self-esteem on how many women one can get and hostility towards gay men were the biggest predictors of lack of well-being. The article also cites other studies related to how masculinity may be bad for one's mental health and very clearly says that the reason why this happens is because connecting with others and searching for intimacy are very important for happiness, something that traditional masculinity doesn't allow.

  • How much Sexual Experience are you comfortable with your partner having, by Dr. Justin Lehmiller - In this article, Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a sex researcher, reviews a recent study that aims at finding out how many past sexual partner people are generally comfortable with their partners (long term relationship partners or short term flings) having. Results show that both men and women have a "virgin penalty", that is they are less likely to date virgins, in comparison to people who have had 1-6 partners. 7-8 partners is as desirable as being a virgin. Something very important however, is that up until 14 partners, ratings are above midpoint in the scale, meaning that only 15+ partners tends to be a deal breaker (in other words, up to 14 past partners, people are more willing to engage in a relationship rather than the opposite). As for short term relationships, the results appear to be somewhat mixed, but generally speaking both genders are willing to tolerate an higher number of sex partners in short term relationships, men more than women. Mean also appear to be slightly more willing to tolerate an higher n-count in women for long term relationships. The TRP idea that women crave the playboy guy with an high n-count or that men are "hardwired" to find virgin women or women with low n-counts attractive is therefore sort of a myth. You can also read the authors comments here.

Note: This post is constantly updated