Your ideal lover should NOT be your standard. Your ideal lover is SUPPOSE to be unrealistic.

It baffles to when guys here whine about “but women settle for betas! They dont REALLY want them!” That’s most of humanity.

Women are human. Men are human. Humans have undesirable flaws. Each person has to decide whether or not its worth putting up.

https://youtu.be/Y0l5nIx0Acw

Will always reference Bo Burnham’s “Lower Your Expectations” because its beautiful way to say “Get over yourself. Your ideal lover would never want you.”

The goal is to find someone whose pros outweight the cons. Just like there are no perfect relationships. There will be arguments and breaking points. The goal is to figure out if the relationship has more good than bad.

Any man or woman trying to find perfection is in for a life of disappointment and frustration.

An example of settling: The Nagging Wife. Con: She complains constantly. Pro: He wanted a mommy-figure who cleans up after him when he’s too lazy to do so, he got one.