Hi all. Been a while. I've been MIA for a few months - spent October taking over my law firm, began running it in November, spent a week in TN over Thanksgiving, billed like crazy until Christmas, then I've been out of town ever since - visiting family, Disney Word trip with the kiddos, etc. It's been a busy, yet fulfilling 3 months.

In this time, I've observed a lot that would be worth sharing. Let me boil it down to short summaries as best I can.

BEST QUOTE: "When did women become so entitled?" ~My mom, after sharing 3 different stories of "Christian" women she observed over the last couple months who left their husbands because they "weren't feeling fulfilled." She added to the quote: "Last I checked, not being happy in your marriage wasn't biblical grounds for divorce."

Amanda

I've got a cousin who we'll call Amanda. She's a Christian raised in a churchianity culture/home. Amanda is very attractive but has clear psychological issues that show up every few months, thus has trouble finding a "good man." She ends up finding wimps who she can boss around. In early 2019 she was engaged to one such man, but he was a scrawny pushover. It didn't work out. By Thanksgiving she was engaged to another slightly less scrawny guy with better income prospects.All Thanksgiving she bossed him around like a slave. Amanda's dad said they couldn't get married until he found a job and had 3 months in. She started planning the wedding anyway, so he switched it to a year. She blew up into one of her psychotic episodes. Her fiance saw the crazy and left ... well, for a few days. He came begging for forgiveness because ... you know, breaking off an engagement with a crazy girl is apparently morally repugnant now.

Betty

Betty and Bob have been married for decades. They always seem in love - cuddling, telling stories of their lives together, etc. They're both very vocal about their faith - especially Betty. I had a great time chatting with them last week on my way to Disney. A couple days later, Betty trickle truths to Bob that she spent more money on their daughter's wedding than she originally told him ... 3 times as much! That's right: tens of thousands above budget. Bob is upset, but makes plans to fix the budget.

Betty texts Bob a couple days ago: "Don't be surprised if all the furniture is gone when you get home." She follows up a few minutes later, "Don't worry, the new stuff is coming in on Thursday." Bob calls her and says to get the old furniture back. She texts him later, "You don't have to worry about the new furniture. I've redirected it somewhere else." She's not there when he gets home. She then argues that she wants the house, even though a substantial portion of his income is tied to the music studio in their house. Apparently all of this is Bob's fault because "You don't know what it's like living with him."

Carla

Carla is a high school student whose dad (my cousin) is one of the coolest people I've ever met ... but he's also an alcoholic and spent most of his youth in a rebellious phase. Her mom is also a (former?) meth addict, so her dad has custody. He works all the time. She's living out through her teenage years the same rebellion her father modeled for her while she was growing up.

Debbie

Debbie is a tattooed rebel in her 20s. She got married several months ago to a bad boy. She also separated from her husband several months ago and they're processing the divorce papers. She's smokin' hot. The emotions didn't last. She thinks she can do better.

Evalyn

Evalyn's marriage has crossed the 7 year hump. They're still happy together and have such great attraction for one another that ... let's just say I try not to eat at their kitchen table anymore. Evalyn is known for commenting at Bible study occasionally, "I think we really need to say a prayer of appreciation and blessing over our husbands for all they do for us." She's also on the record saying, "Sometimes I ask my husband to do things for me just to hear him say no because it excites me."

Fiona

Fiona is Debbie's sister. She's even hotter (if that's possible). But she also sticks to biblical principles. I hung out with her and her husband on my way to Disney. He's fit and jumps right into the fun. She's submissive and supportive. They seem very happily married.

Georgia

Georgia's father is a hard-core male-oriented preacher - more extreme than I am (ex. forbids women from going to school). He has instilled concepts of male headship and submissiveness in her. I spent Thanksgiving with her and she spoke wonderfully of her husband and how happy she was. He's not particularly good-looking, but she did note her appreciation of his confidence and the way he takes initiative in leading their lives in a number of different ways she went on to describe. She also noted that he won't put up with her crap. Interesting.

NOTES

It's probably worth mentioning that there's a lot more going on in these stories than I bothered to mention. But the facts I gave were at least enough to point out these nuggets that wouldn't otherwise be affected by the missing information.

  1. Amanda had no interest in staying with unattractive men when bumps came along - even when they pined over her. Her bossiness and controlling nature didn't help.

  2. Betty was never satisfied with what she had and her thirst for more blew things apart. Bob got blamed.

  3. Carla is a recreation of her father. Men have more influence over their daughters than they think - but it's in what they do, not what they say.

  4. Debbie is a walking model of hypergamy.

  5. Evalyn lives in the biblical role God gave her - and both she and her husband are reaping the reward (in more ways than one).

  6. Fiona shows that even the hot ones can stay captivated with a high value man.

  7. Georgia demonstrates that biblical practices work and that even a physically unattractive guy has a chance if he's got the more controllable attributes of his SMV in order.

BONUS: "I am completely baffled at how so many of my coworkers can be, to be blunt, very ugly women, but they have these ridiculous expectations of how hot a guy has to be before they'll date him. I think to myself, 'They're never going to find anyone like that who's interested in them.' But what is even more mind-boggling is that every one of them will somehow end up with attractive men one after the next. I simply don't understand how things like this happen." ~My mom.

It's called hypergamy and polygamy, Mom.