Yesterday, a lady user came here and offered an insightful but troubling perspective. She said, "most Muslim women in the West have had boyfriends, so maybe you guys should lower your standards and marry them." And later on her post history, I discovered how she brags about many of her Pakistani girl friends who are currently dating white/black non-Muslim men.

My initial reaction was, to make excuses for promiscuous women and to tell Muslim men to lower their standards and marry them is disgusting. What kind of Islam is this? The Qur'an says: "The fornicator does not marry except a [female] fornicator or polytheist, and none marries her except a fornicator or a polytheist, and that has been made unlawful to the believers." [Qur'an 24:3]

But then I realised a more profound truth to what she said. She admitted that many Muslim girls in the West are having their fun early and when it comes to marriage, then later they marry some naive Muslim guy who is completely unaware of her past. And they will date anyone, non-Muslim guys, white, black whatever. And then they expect a good Muslim man to marry them after they have had "their fun." They do this on purpose. So don't be that guy.