Does having male friends helps with the loneliness?

MatheusKeller · 2020-03-26T14:19:54+00:00

Lol wtf? Obviously having friends is a good thing and helps with the loneliness. It’s not normal to isolate yourself like that, find friends that have the same interests and similar goals to yours.

GetBehindMeSatan666 · 2020-03-26T14:42:53+00:00

Ive always thought the idea with TRP of ditching your "beta" friends was ridiculous. Why? Why isolate yourself? Who gives a fuck how anyone around you lives their life. Live your own.

I get the idea of you are only as good as the people you surround yourself with. Again I find that a total BS thing to say.

Other peoples failures are not your own.

I have a couple "beta" friends. I try to advise them as much as I can and help influence them for the better. Having friends with beta like tendency does not make you a beta.

Be friends with who you want. Ditching people will leave you with no one. Try to influence those around you for the better.

Mickusey · 2020-03-26T17:37:49+00:00

Heads up, super “alpha bro” male friends tend to be shitty friends. You’re not a woman trying to get turned on by the baddest boy there is. They’re your bros. Chill out with them and have a laugh. One of em is simping to his girl? Shit on him for it, laugh about it, maybe he’ll figure it out, you move on. Cutting people out because they aren’t noticeably superior to your outlook on life is some strange shit.

zeitdruck · 2020-03-26T14:30:41+00:00

The funniest stories are always those about me doing stuff with my friends. So yeah, go and find some new friends.

i-am-the-prize · 2020-03-26T15:10:56+00:00

humans are social animals.

with males, if you're straight and they are, too, you can have a type of bond that isn't tainted by your sexual mindset. women are for that and for the other things they are good for, sounds harsh, but their softness, their fem, etc.

but for friendships, to be able to speak with f2f and have shared experiences with, male friends are a critical component to most healthy males' lives.

kidsavagebze · 2020-03-26T16:42:28+00:00

I feel for you bro. I would suggest getting a dog. My boy Max is 6 months old right now and I literally gotta see him so much everyday that I don't ever feel alone to be honest. He has his own personality and when I take him for his walk (while I do my calisthenics workout at the park) he has the most positive energy bubbling and bursting. He is always a good time bro when you need.

mikkeldaman · 2020-03-26T16:13:50+00:00

Having friends in general helps with loneliness.

LethalShade · 2020-03-26T21:16:23+00:00

Definitely. A man is nothing without his tribe. Find other men that will push you in various areas. Doesn't have to just be game; find friends that are into business, fitness, spirituality, networking, cool sports, travelling, etc.

I've only really had to ditch friends that were only interested in meeting up to smoke weed or play video games. Nothing wrong with that once in a while but some were consumed by it and the more I tried to help them out, seems like the more they resented me so it didn't work out.

throwmrwaway · 2020-03-26T17:22:00+00:00

Hell yeah man, having male friends is fucking essential and it shouldn't even be up for debate, have a good group of friends can be fun as hell, it would boost your morale and make you more competitive and shit like that, you get to do fun stuff, manly stuff that you otherwise wouldn't be able to do with a woman

Homies ftw

Proof-Fortune · 2020-03-26T15:53:18+00:00

Damn bro , yup it does man , get yourself some bros, girls aren't everything a man needs , getting and keeping a girl can be stressful for which having good male friends is good . Go and do shit bruh

BruhMoment45886 · 2020-03-26T16:16:25+00:00

Obviously you need guy friends like everyone else to not feel lonely.

cali323231 · 2020-03-26T16:24:51+00:00

Get friends, but don’t do it to get rid of loneliness.

Raise your standards.

Smuggler-Tuek · 2020-03-26T16:26:34+00:00

Yes. Not only does it help with loneliness it’s necessary for your health. You need guy friends to communicate and bond with.

Snowboard18 · 2020-03-26T17:56:01+00:00

I agree with another comment here, I wouldn’t just ditch all your bet friends and isolate yourself. Isolation is dangerous for many reasons.

With the beta friends I have, I try to slowly and subtly instill rp values in them. For example, since the simp meme is going around, I’ll jokingly call them a simp for doing something beta with a girl. If you an alpha, they will take what you say with good value and actually listen.

Herdsengineers · 2020-03-26T16:50:10+00:00

As a rule, I'd encourage all you guys to not just ditch beta friends. Maintaining relationships in good status is good for all kinds of life growth opportunities. You never know what those relationships will inject into your life down the road.

Now - bad relationships, or where people are using or all take and no give, those are good to ditch. But be a passive good example of better for your beta male friends, just don't get all preachy and better than them acting. And don't try to be a TRP missionary to them. It does require holding your tongue sometimes, unless invited to specifically comment more in depth.

EqualFaithlessness · 2020-03-26T16:50:51+00:00

Law 18 - Do Not Build Fortresses To Protect Yourself

Nofapislit · 2020-03-26T17:27:44+00:00

Yes.

McDrMuffinMan · 2020-03-26T18:10:09+00:00

Replace them with people who make you better.

But recall people who are typically better have little time for a charity case.

mbox40 · 2020-03-26T18:42:58+00:00

If you're in a group of all "alphas" then you'll probably fall to the middle or bottom of their pecking order. If all your old friends were beta, that means you were the alpha of that group. If you like to lead I wouldn't recommend surrounding yourself with a whole bunch of other guys that want to be in charge too.

HumanSockPuppet · 2020-03-26T18:57:20+00:00

Male friends are the only friends who can understand the challenge and struggle of being male. Of course you'll be lonely without them.

Folknust · 2020-03-26T20:15:10+00:00

Yes.

unfluxa · 2020-03-26T22:30:54+00:00

I would never ditch my beta friends unless they are super toxic to be around. Which is obvious for everyone to ditch. Just keep to your straight path and lead by example, they will follow.

superomar13 · 2020-03-27T00:48:45+00:00

This is a weird one and I feel like it goes one of two ways. I use to have tons of male friends (honestly became a burden to try to keep tabs because it was three main groups) and barely any females in my life. At one point it went the complete opposite way. I was just surrounded by females all the time and had like one or two solid guy friendships. Now i've recently moved about 4 months ago and don't really feel the need to have much companionship in either regard, at the moment. I'm in monk mode so my day literally consists of Gym > work> side hustle> sleep , 7 days a week. But, I feel like theres too much as too much female energy as well as too much male energy around you all the time. Currently I have 3 solid friends in this new city (old city tbh) that i keep tabs on and one girl I see on a monthly basis tbh. And I don't see those guys for a month or two at a time

319Skew · 2020-03-27T00:50:11+00:00

Studies show that having friends makes makes you less alone.

darkprince_23 · 2020-03-27T02:32:33+00:00

Friends are good for the most part. Just be careful with who you align yourself with. The older I get the more I see myself distancing myself from a lot of my friends who've been the same for years and constantly bitch about how nothing changes when they don't try to change anything. They'll just bring you down at that point.

AGameofTrolls · 2020-03-27T03:08:17+00:00

If you decide to hangout with your beta friends again you're going to stand out from the pack, so that's good isn't it? Start calling them now and see what they're up to.

bape1 · 2020-03-26T18:31:48+00:00

What kind of autistic ass question is this. Does having water make you less thirsty?

Title	Does having male friends helps with the loneliness?
Author	redlurker9
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Date	March 26, 2020 2:16 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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