How many times do we hear, "I will wear the hijab when I'm ready" and Muslim men are told not to question what she really means by that?

Most of the stigma behind wearing the hijab comes from women themselves. They don't want to wear it and unfortunately Muslim scholars have given up advising them because whenever you say something, they always regurgitate the same answer, "you don't know how hard it is to wear the hijab." Which is ironic considering that they haven't worn the hijab either. So what would they know how hard it is or isn't to wear it? And they always blame other factors for why they allegedly can't wear the hijab, as if most non-Muslim countries are racist and intolerant towards your beliefs. They are not. If they were, no Muslim girl would or should be wearing the hijab but they do and the majority of times they get along absolutely fine. Most countries are not like France where there is a hijab/niqab ban. So then what is their excuse for still not wanting to wear the hijab?

The truth is many girls don't want to wear hijab because they want male attention. It's just a convenient excuse nowadays to enjoy their best and most youthful years enjoying the attention of other men and when they know they are losing their attractiveness with age, then they may consider wearing the hijab.

The difficulty that women describe when wearing the hijab is not a difficulty of other factors such as racism and violence as they falsely blame people of. Rather it is an innate difficulty they have to desire male attention. It is a difficulty of their imaan where they want to be noticed and flirt casually with other men and then when they are done having their fun (usually when they know they are not attracting the same high status men anymore because they are starting to lose their looks with age) they may settle down and marry someone and even consider wearing it.

For this reason, men should question why women are not wearing the hijab. If any woman says that, "I will wear the hijab when I'm ready," then understand that this is a red flag. Don't trust her just because she is a woman and we are wrongly told all women are sweet and innocent by our culture and upbringing. They are not. Often times these girls have had multiple unmarried partners in their lives and crave male attention at any opportunity. As a man, have some self respect and don't even involve yourself with a woman who makes up excuses for not wearing the hijab as most of the time they have no excuse other than they want male attention and definitely don't be the guy who marries them after they have had "their fun" and now want a good guy to settle down with. No, don't save them. Let them save themselves.