tl/dr - discussion of modern dating/hook-up dynamics spurned by new Vanity Fair article on Tinder and it's effect on the culture
I found an interesting article via Dalrock's blog that I thought you all might find interesting, and I'd be interested to see differing perspectives on it.
http://theothermccain.com/2015/08/31/hit-it-and-quit-it-on-tinder/
The blog is basically a dissection of a September 2015 article from Vanity Fair, entitled "Tinder and the Dawn of the Dating Apocalypse. I won't post the VF article in entirety, because it is quite lengthy, but the gist is basically a brutal uncovering of how Tinder is rapidly transforming the overall attitudes of both men and women on dating, how pretty much the majority of young 20-somethings view dating as a "Meat Market", etc.
McCain posits that this trend, driven by third wave feminism, is far more damaging to women than it is to men, not due to promiscuity per se, but that feminism is encouraging women to play the promiscuity game on men's terms, rather than on women's terms.
quote: (emphasis mine)
See? Marty understands the game he’s playing. Pretend that you’re emotionally available — “a boyfriend kind of guy” — and “racking up girls” via online hook-up sites is not difficult nowadays for any reasonably attractive young man. The more a guy succeeds at that cynical game, however, the lower his estimation of women in general, because each “win” for him just proves how easily girls can be deceived. No amount of feminist “consciousness raising” can change the fundamental reality of human nature. Casual sex is a game in which guys have a decisive advantage, and therefore any girl who plays that game is a fool. When so many young women are willing to play this foolish game, however, it produces a culture shift that hurts women:
Where Dalrock says McCain goes wrong is here:
One of the worst things feminism has done is to attack the sexual “double standard” by encouraging women to lower their standards, to screw around heedlessly and to view short-term “relationships” as an acceptable substitute for actual commitment.
When in actuality what's going on is that feminism is fucking things up for young women, because feminisms is telling women to play a man's game, polygyny, rather than a woman's game, serial monogamy.
However, McCain does tie it up pretty neatly at the end:
This strategy of “equality” doesn’t work to women’s advantage. It has never worked and will never work, and any girl who plays that game is a fool. Yet feminism teaches women to blame men for taking advantage of the foolishness that feminists themselves encourage. If millions of women are on Tinder offering themselves as hook-up partners, how are men to blame if they react to “a perceived surplus of women” by playing that game? “Hit it and quit it.”
It really is quite a feminist paradox; encourage women to be promiscuous whores, then call the men who sleep with them "pigs" for "gaming" or "deceiving" the women with feigned commitment, in an effort to be the men these "empowered" women choose to sleep with.
Thoughts? Will the Tinder "hook up" culture pretty much take over as the 21st century standard of dating? Has it already? Will the "Tinder Culture" be the final death knell to any "committed relationships", never mind actual marriage?
Discuss.
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