Summary Article 134 of the UCMJ criminalizes adultery and enforces it..for men. Women know this and will use the system to their advantage if so inclined. One commenter in a TIL thread shares his experience with hamstering, manipulation and the cost of divorce in the military.
Story shared with permission by user Gallemore.
"I was married from 2009 to 2012 to my high school "sweetheart". We had our issues, as does everyone, but we slowly started spiraling out of control. I'm sure I was a dick at times and she was no angel. One day her Dad told me that he thought his daughter was cheating, so I started to keep an eye out. Finally, I caught her in the act. Instead of accepting responsibility she tried to claim that I was physically and emotionally abusive. To this day I don't believe I was ever either of those. I never hit her and I rarely even cursed around her, much less, at her. So in April of 2011 we split up. The military bought a lot of her stories and sent me to counseling. During this time they also forced me to pay nearly 500 dollars per pay check, plus the payment for her car and phone. One night while I was sleeping, she came to my house. Since we were still technically married she could still get on base to where my house was. She took my car and credit cards. Afterwards, she called the police on me and said I hit her. She told them that she had bruises, so they looked and saw nothing. All of this didn't matter, she had the military issue a no-contact on me, so I couldn't see her or speak to her. Eight months went by and I had no car and she had my credit cards that we were both on. I finally was able to get a divorce in November of 2012. I paid for everything and got very little. This whole ordeal got me in a lot of trouble with the military and instead of receiving a five on my EPR (the best score), I got a four and no medal, both of which cost me points when I was taking my test for SSgt. Two years in a row I missed that cutoff score by less than a point which is literally the difference of having a medal. What did all of this cost her? She had cheated for nearly a year, she didn't lose a single thing. Worse, the first guy she had cheated with was a son of one of the commander's on base. They swept that under the rug really quick. I finally broke free of her when I made SSgt this year. All of this because of a girl and a failed marriage. I had to claw my way out of the debt and other issues she put me in."
Lessons Learned Remember that in or out of the military marriage is a legal contract which when voided often benefits the female and hurts the career and financials of the male; women know this and won't hesitate to use it.
edit 1: changed to UCMJ and added 'enforces for men' for accuracy.
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