A while back, I read a post on here that mentioned briefly that you should adopt the aforementioned mindset.
I think it was Vonnegut who wrote a story about a society of people who practice a religion that they know to be false. They continue to practice it, not because it espouses objective truth, but because the act of believing in and practicing the religion produces tangible benefits in their lives.
You can take that utilitarian approach to thought and belief in any area of your life. Totalitarian regimes have demonstrated that if you subject people to a message over and over again, they tend to eventually buy into it, even if they are initially skeptical.
So brainwash yourself into believing that you are a badass and everyone wants to taste your penis. Because this kind of belief has a subconscious effect on the way you hold yourself, it can actually become a self-fulfilling prophecy, increasing attraction where there may otherwise not be much.
I told this to a friend of mine and he was apprehensive, as he was worried about becoming "full of himself". Relatively few of us are actually at risk of becoming narcissists if you aren't already. On the other hand, the world already has plenty of miserable underachievers with low self-esteem. Those people tend to be much more detrimental to everyone's lives, including their own, than folks with a healthy self-image.
So next time you get done working out, go ahead and pose in the mirror. You fucking sexy beast.
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It's true. Napoleon Hill wrote the world's best selling self-help book of all time, Think and Grow Rich, where his theory is that you become your thoughts
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I try to rationalize it as emulate until it becomes second nature. See, do, repeat, become.
Both Arnie and Sly Stallone has expressed similar sentiments. Both extremely successful men. Sly said something like: "If you will it it will happen". Not without working hard of course but have a vision, goals and never deviate from it until you get there.
I get so tired of celebrities saying just follow your dreams and visualize your success. Ever star or billionaire has a success story. If you 'will it', you will not become Sly Stallone or Steve Jobs. Most fantastically successful people achieved success through a dedicated mindset/hard work and LOTS OF LUCK. But successful people rarely admit to that. See halo affect, hindsight and attribution biases.
However, having achievable goals, like increased SMV, can be achieved through increased confidence and a proper mindset.
Whenever I think of this topic I think that survivor bias is a big factor here. Success is greatly celebrated and illuminated in our society. Failure of regular joes is not. For every Steve Jobs out there there has been thousands of those who followed their dreams, studied and worked like crazy and had all the qualifications to be the biggest success. But they all failed. I definitely believe luck has a big say in a huge level of success. That is not to say that you shouldn't give it your best to try and make it big in the world. What other alternative is there?
So sounds the chorus of losers who never got anywhere. Luck is merely the intersection of preparation and opportunity.
Sure you can use it as an excuse to quit or not try hard, but luck is way more than preparation meeting opportunity. I agree that success rarely, if ever, occurs without hardwork, but there are scores of instances where hardwork and perseverance never meet opportunity/luck. Banal celebrities preaching for us to follow our dreams is asinighing at best
You won't be Mr.Stallone, but you will be pretty well off.
Everything was first a thought.
If you want to know your past, look at you present situation. If you want to know your future, look at your present actions.
Yes I agree. Most people don't realize how the mind can easily be tricked to believe anything really; hence the red pill lol. It's crazy how we have the power to choose how we feel about ourselves. It does take a while, however, to truly believe and "assume woman want to fuck you," but positive affirmations and reminding yourself that you're sex-worthy is absolutely powerful.
During my transition out of BP hell I was taken by an intense bout of unrequited one-itis. Never made a play, it was not an option. One day while brooding over not having the toys I wanted I said to myself "You're not good enough for a girl like her." For some reason I immediately realized that while I wouldn't ever get close to this "one", I was most definitely good enough for her. I'm good enough for anyone. It was a big moment in my personal growth past oneitis and beta weaknesses.
When I was 7 I made my self like pees by saying in my head "mmm these pees taste great!" every time I ate pees, now I love pees
Peas bro, peas. Unless you really like the taste of piss too.
All we are asking, is give peas a chance
The most powerful tool we have in our arsenal, is our mind. FUCKING PERIOD. you believe you're shit? you probably are. You believe you're THE shit? After awhile people will too. You guys need to read "Outwitting The Devil" by Napoleon Hill. Fuck fear,its a tool of the enemy.
If you need self help books to become a badass...well, I don't really need to say anything else.
IF that's what you gained out of my comment, Then you clearly have learned nothing.
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You'll be back when it turns out the girls you're "talking to" were sucking random dicks behind your back. But you keep up the conversation there, Playa.
There's no one set path to reaching your goals. You do yourself a disservice by rejecting a set of options.
I can dig that. Self help books are nothing like actually taking action though.
The books are useless without action of course. That is a worthwhile point that some forget.
The brain doesn't come with an instruction manual. You don't know anything about anything until you learn it. Books are one medium. You're a fucking douche
You don't need to read a fucking book to learn that you aren't worthless.
You need the support of a community of virgins to help you get laid. Let's say I am a douchebag, at least I'm not a fucking loser.
In your case telling yourself that doesn't actually make it true.
Yes, though a bit simple, you're right. Read Psycho Cybernetics, to see why you're right, understand how the mind works and pick up the tools to recreate your self image in 21 days.
The guy who wrote the book was at first a plastic surgeon who noticed how peoples personalities changed after having plastic surgery, even though most of them didn't even need surgery. Their self image just sucked.
He then went into psychology to explore how important self image is on how we behave, and he discovered how to control it, and mold it into a success personality.
When I turned 15, I was absolutely convinced that I was going to be dead by the time I was 30. The result was by the time I had turned 18, I had a reckless bravado (IDGF) that kept me waist deep in willing women until, well I turned 30.....
Typically, the punishment for my loss of Frame was a brutal case of Oneitis that lasted for nearly 5 years. On my 35th birthday I realized that I needed to recapture that belief/attitude/frame if I was ever going to move forward.
I started practicing a combination of "Suspension of Belief", like when you are at a movie or a play and try ignore the obvious distractions and become a part of the story and a "Shift of Perception" like those pictures that challenge your Perception of reality.
After 15+ years of practice I can pretty much develop an "Inner Dialogue" that can suspend my belief in the moment or change my perspective in a way that Approach/Engage/Escalate/Close is a function that I can activate at need regardless of the situation.
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LOL, I was convinced of this too, although I forgot about it when I got to my mid-20s.
Ironically, I found out I had stage 4 testicular cancer at 27, it was discovered two weeks before I went into respiratory failure as it had metastasized to my lungs. Beat that though.
It was funny when I found out that it has been a common belief for men for 1000's of years
Wait, so I wasn't the only one who thought like this in early 20s? Is this really so common?
Every culture that has any kind of warrior class , either historically or in the contemporary context, has a Mythos of the young hero dying in the prime of his youth... the will to immolate is a universal archetype
To be fair, it was pretty true up until about 150 years ago
So the American Civil War, WW1, WW2, The Korean War, Vietnam, The Gulf War, Afghanistan and the War on Terror never happened?
The fact that you say such a thing shows you have no grasp of history (past and present) or the pathos of male sacrifice for the greater good....
Read some Kipling for god sake ....
Actually, you read what I wrote out of context (I think). I was agreeing with you - most men up until not so long ago in our history died before the age of 30.
False. Take out childhood mortality and people lived to 60. I fucking hate that stupid myth
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Guilty. Just about happened to me twice though.
term is "suspension of disbelief" source: intro to cinema, community college
Gasp!, your hair splitting semantic discourse has some validity for those who have no life
An irrationally confident attitude pushes the right buttons on women.
I love walking down a busy city street and locking eyes with women. They don't all respond but many do gaze back and it matters little if they are with another guy at the time.
You can hear them wondering what it would be like to be savagely fucked by the bold stranger smiling at them
Interesting. What response do the BFs give when you're locking eyes with their women?
I don't do this I just don't reflect my eyes if I do lock eyes with a woman. I smirk a little if they're cute.
No response. If they notice they likely hamster it away
I've been doing this - I find myself not even looking at the guy... this makes the woman notice even more...
bit late, but tried this after a post you made about it a few months back.
Its fun really. 9 times out of 10, the person averts their gaze, or is otherwise oblivious.
but that one time where you lock gaze... you can almost feel the testosterone start flowing, it's like how your fight response starts upping when a guy starts eyeballing you...
Only 1/10?
Lift more and tailor those suits
Ha, I got no comeback for that one
I can attest to this. I don't understand it but I can attest to it. Got a friend whose 5'5", overweight, balding and a super nerd but he's got an incredibly, overly, confident attitude. Like, Barney Fife confident. He's right, all the time (even when he isn't... which is most of the time) He's pulled lots of women this way. Can't keep 'em but he can certainly pull 'em!
When a man can easily pull then he doesn't need to keep.
Did you say bold or bald? Whatever pill you're on, son, lower the dosage.
Women DIG confidence.
A female friend of mine calls me a borderline narcissist.1 That means I'm doing it right. /grin
I wish I had a dollar for every woman I or my buddies have banged who uttered some version of the phrase, "When I first met you, I thought you were an arrogant, opinionated asshole..." And who did she wind up dropping her panties for? Hint: Not the sweet, nerdy guy.
Uncle Vasya
1 She turned 40 this year, and is highly intelligent with a medical degree, and still rocks a nice bikini body for her age, but part of her view is colored by the fact that she's 40; I'm banging women in their 20s, and her bf is 46. I am therefore a "bad" man for rule-breaking and tapping sweet, young ass.
How old are you? When she calls you that, is it with contempt or intrigue? She seems like she might be bright enough to get at least a minor handle on her hamster.
I'm 48. Part of the "You're a narcissist" bit from her is that I'm a man who does what he wants. She is also very "hamster-aware" because of her high intelligence. She is also Russian-born so she looks feminism in the US and thinks they are all loser-morons. We are not romantically interested in each other for a variety of reasons, so that isn't a factor.
Kurt eh?
Like the message. Posted a similar mindset, plea for irrational confidence.
For a small caveat, be socially adept. If you act like all want your dick, and the general consensus is to cringe, look around and laugh nervously, will be good to look back and reassess your smv.
ah.. the bittersweet lies of Bokonon
I've noticed whenever you falsely believe someone you want is attracted to you too, probably from the satisfaction your face shows, you suddenly start noticing other women showing real attraction. It's almost surreal, but repeats every single time...
Building this sort of ego would definitely make escalating feel more natural which is what you want.
18 M with a 28 F and she is a model. Didn't doubt for a second, this shit works.
Just don't marry her, and always use condoms. 28 is very close to expiration date, especially for a model.
About to end things with her within the next couple of weeks for that very reason.
Ye bro good move, I used to date Megan Fox until she got near to 30, then I was all like "bye ugly bitch" and she was all "but fernando your dick is so big you can't leave me" and I was all like "you nearly 30, I can't drop my standards THAT low." Now I'm dating Emma Watson and Daenerys Targaryen (in character) so it's all good.
That's what I'm talking about James!
Fixed it for you. For those curious, pretty easy to get this guy's instagram handle by looking at his post history.
Yes, but also keep in mind that I have zero value. No education (besides a high school diploma) and no job as of right now. Without the confidence/way I carry myself then those looks would mean absolutely nothing. You take what you really have and act like you have the rest, and then things will fall into place.
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lol believe what you want I'm sure you're just projecting
Look at Prometheus Rising, by Robert Anton Wilson.
The guy's a bit of a nutter, but his musings on the "Meta-Programming Circuit" are actually related to this concept of programming yourself to become better in general.
love RAW. also check out john c. lily's "metaprogramming in the human biocomputer"
I'll have to check that out. Cool to see there are other esoteric redpillers around.
There are allot of reasons this works. I like to imagine how a girl looks naked or how she'd be blowing my dick mid conversation. Funniest thing is that allot of women respond to that and become flirtatious and sexual before I even open up on the subject.
It's in the eyes.
Good advice. Confidence is an excellent tie-breaker.
Wait... Was it ever in question? Shit! Thanks now I have a complex.
Just saw a chick on Tinder saying she practices this. Bokononism.
This might be a great quick fix but it taps deeply into your ego. Building up an ego based around the notion that everyone wants your dick, which will never be the case, will bit you in the ass in the long run.
assume she knows she has to earn it, don't disappoint either of you.
I don't assume, I know they do
Exactly. As the PUA mantra goes, every woman wants to be bent over and have her hair pulled.
Vaginas are everywhere. They're less than a dime a dozen. A good male lover is extremely rare. I wouldn't have thought so but that's what I have heard all my life from the ladies. Over the years, I have become an "amazing lover". I assume women want my dick because they do. Become a good lover and it will show. It's that amused mastery thing again. For you gents who don't have a clue...read books, read romance novels (the smutty short ones), treat a female body like the playground it is, assume it is there for your pleasure (it is), watch some lesbian porn (not guy porn where two girls go at it), pay attention to how women masturbate, and control that girl; she wants you to. Did I mention practice practice practice?
I unequivocally agree with your statement. If more men did this as you & I have, they would wonder why they didn't do this sooner. There's so much that should be taught in school as a mandatory subject(thats another story) Knowledge is power & its true so reading/learning is equally as important for these words must be in sync with our actions.
What about your brother/cousin's gf? Do I assume she wants my penis as well? Hehe
What does men that are being called narcissists by women have in common?
A: all the women want to fuck them.
If they did not they would not have used the word narcissistic, they would have used creep, loser, pretentious douchebag, or most likely neglected him or not even payed attention to him. Don't be afraid of being a man which women call a narcissist.
See it this way: If she doesn't want your dick you could rather hang out with your male friends
It's true. If you tell people that you're the fucking man and believe it when you say it, you say it in a way that encourages other people to believe it
all we have to do is get out of our own way, it's fucking harder said than done though, 90% of things we do are subconsciously, we have to be consciously aware of our surroundings and what's happen to rewire our brain, all about will power.
I just like to call mysexl a jacked sexy beast.
Step 1: Be at least socially acceptable to be attracted to.
Step 2: Read the situation
Today, I saw the guy who talked to pretty women in my gyms get escorted out.
He was confident, but he is fat, sweaty, oily face, and bugs them to no end.
Girls were evidently not happy.
if you have a decent house, and you sell it to a buyer who end up due to your marketing or desperation. You are making a sale.
If your house have four greasy walls, a leaking roof, and a semi working door. You are running a scam.
if a realtor just tries to sell that house as is, he will get either laughed out or called out.
TL;DR: Attraction is not negotiable. You acting like alpha dog better has some ground on reality (Look, Status, or Resourece), else women will be repulsed your BS easily, or you will just AMOGed without even realizing.
Single greatest piece of advice you can give someone. Believe in yourself, and others will as well.
Believe or not i actually figured out this shit few weeks ago. I simply "visualized" how i feel confident and stuff, and i had that strong feeling for almost two weeks until i relapsed(porn). Now i don't know how to get that again
Here's my question:
Won't be embarrassing and reputation damaging to assume everyone wants your dick, if they don't?
If a woman thinks you think she wants your dick, won't that just make her think you're insecure?
Sure But don't push it on them if they aren't interested.
Self-delusion is exactly what founders of trp weren't doing when they came to the conclusions we all now take for granted. I don't recommend putting mindset before feeling. Confidence should arise naturally out of discipline and hard-work, not American Psycho-esque mantras. If you've been going to the gym for the last six months and being social on a regular basis, you won't have to convince yourself of anything. You'll know.
I don't think being a narcissist and having low self-esteem are mutually exclusive. Better to be grounded, knowing that every day you are prepared to start over and do whatever it takes to get to where you want to be.
It kinda does, narcissists live on the attention of others, unable to give approval to themselves. Not low self esteem but almost.
Are men irrational? A politician here is Australia has just resigned after sending masturbation vids to a woman who elected him,
http://www.abc.net.au/news/2016-06-11/nt-minister-nathan-barrett-resigns-amid-sex-video-allegations/7502236
Another politician quit after he forget to tell everyone he owned a brothel.
http://www.businessinsider.com.au/a-victorian-liberal-candidate-has-quit-for-owning-a-brothel-2016-6
It's impossible to fake confidence well. Even the guys that get lain the most know that when they are on a Hester they are more likely to get the nectarine because they are oozing with success. Hat same guy knows to take advantage of it because he knows he can't fake it when he comes down from atop his mountain. All of us go through ups and downs in our confidence throughout life as things relatively get better or whites in our lives. All of us lead lives of change and cyclical behavior so thing like a temporary unemployment or loving a loved one can really block your game, vice Versace, when things are good again and your where you want to be you will be full of confidence and happiness and that will naturally attract the opposite sex.
I'm saying this not to challenge you, but because I want an honest challenge to my immediate response: truth gets in the way.
I know some women want my dick. As a matter of fact, one woman who I'm not dating, who simply likes having sex with me, worshipped my cock for a solid 45 minutes last night. So I know it's a fact that some women do.
But I also know that some women simply haven't given a fuck about me -- I'm invisible to them. Whatever their particular psychological make up is as it relates to attraction, I'm just not it. Some women will go for my fat funny balding friend (I'm not fat nor balding and I'm about half as funny as he is which is still pretty good).
Anyway, the hard part is i just can't lie to myself. Not an option. How do I lie to myself successfully?!
Yeah but... you already are lying to yourself by thinking some percentage of women do NOT want your dick. How do you know without proper experimentation and sampling sizes?
And if you're under 50% then you're obviously just seeing sampling bias and need to increase the sampling size.
Assume the woman you're talking to wants your dick until she says she doesn't... then move onto the next one.
Disagree. Tried this for a year. Made me full of myself, unlikely to accept the advice of others and didn't help me get laid. I got no extra poontang from doing this. Bad advice.
If you talk the talk walk the walk. Fake it at first if you need to. Your frame will be much tighter if you have supporting references to back it up
I was undergoing a tough time with school, and school is important to me. Perhaps it affected my frame. I can only hope for an imporvement of frae.
It's impossible to fake it. Only when you know they all want you, is when a few of them actually want you and you get lucky a bit.
I faked it when I got started. Women are not that good at detecting bs. The loud overcompensating guy might as well be thr loud cocky guy in their eyes
yea, I guess so, but the right girl, the really hot, not desperate ones can see through that shit. Sure the less well self esteemed girls might see it as confidence, but I feel like the girls that are at the top of the tier call bullshit and see it as a weakness. Though, I am a believer in slump busters and think that a few lower tier girls can give you the real confidence you need to later land the next level hotter chicks that the fake confidence may not work on.
Don't understand why I am being downvoyed when I am sharing my personal experience.
Its because some of the folks on here dont want to face reality. As far as I can tell you eant to position yourself as the best man for fucking but if you do this without acknowledging your own limitations and ability to fail you become paralyzed. The guys with huge egos wont approach because they never get rejected if you know what I mean.
Yeah man, you got me right. I want to be that guy who fucks women, but confidence for me must be based on my achievements. I don't have the achievements I want yet so it weighs on me and makes me feel bad about myself.
LOL. Only because you are delusional to believe such nonsense doesn't mean others believe it, too. Also, if you are more intelligent than a potato, which I can assume as you are able to read and write, there is no way of talking yourself into it. Tried positive affirmations for months and they still feel like a lie
It doesn't work for me, therefore I'm smarter than a potato.