Link: http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-37861459

I don't post long diatribes here but I couldn't resist this one.

Holy Shit: Treat your partner/spouse with respect and he won't get sick of your nagging ass.

The six principles of being a 'Surrendered Wife':


Relinquishes inappropriate control of her husband

This is just plain repulsive. If he needs to be controlled but still married you, either you're into some serious kink or he should be in an institution. Otherwise get over the arrogant notion that you know more his life than he does.

Respects her husband's thinking

Gosh...what a change, although this may be the end of the world's economy;treating men like idiots or offenders and letting them buy their way back to favor with consumer goods. Ever notice how every marketing campaign treats responsible decision makers (usually men and older people) with derision? Yeah....that.

Receives his gifts graciously and expresses gratitude for him

Respecting someone you've married as a human being and is occasionally appreciative of them. Wow, what a concept.

Expresses what she wants without trying to control him

"What's wrong"

"Nothing..."

"C'mon...tell me..."

"If you cared...you'd know!"

Most of all,. mobody needs this kind of passive aggressive bullshit and it will make people lose interest very quickly.

Relies on him to handle household finances

See the first item. Actually letting responsible decision makers who aren't driven by the hive mind, fashion magazines or clickbait "must have" lists may collapse the world's economy but for now it's an overdue idea.

Focuses on her own self-care and fulfillment

Yep, princess, you'll have to do some of that. Everyone should.


Astoundingly, this is a feminist idea according to the author (and her thinking is hard to argue with):

"Women often ask me if my approach is about dumbing myself down or becoming a submissive wife. I tell them I am a feminist. Surrendering is acknowledging you can't change or control anyone but yourself. That's empowering!"

The Bottom Line: Don't settle

I didn't, but I've been through the mill and I've seen guys even as ancient as me who are still putting up with nagging jerks as wives or partners. If she's an asshole, don't waste your time. Life is short.

Addendum: My wife actually sent me this post. She's always appalled at the level of arrogance and entitlement among women, who consider men to be idiot cash machines or household servants and who badmouth them while spending their cash.