If a woman you have been in a relation with cheats on you, what's your best bet to come out of it not feeling like a cuck and a loser?
There are 3 options. Let's examine them, one by one.
The first option is what men without abundance tend to do.
And that is pleading with her. Requesting her to come back because you are such a great guy and you'll do anything to make her happy. We all know how this ends. Its not even a real option.
What about the second option? The option of confronting her? Confronting her with irrefutable evidence that she was in the wrong? Gathering proof and presenting it to her? What would she do then, she will have to accept her fault, right? And that would put her on the defensive, right?
Maybe. But it's more likely that she will twist your arguments against you and still not accept ownership for her actions.
For example, if you logged into her FB, Whatsapp etc. to gather evidence she will shame you that you spied on her.She will put a post on social media on how trust is important for relationship and the entire social media will egg her on.
She will insist that she was only chatting with/ speaking with or partying with friends of the opposite sex and she had no physical contact with them . She will lash out at you saying that you are an insecure prick.
Thing is she will do anything to not take ownership and blame you for the breakup instead.
99 times out of 100 she will find a way to put the blame on you. Her hamster would be satisfied that it did the right thing by breaking up with you because you were such an insecure prick/jealous boyfriend etc. Between the two of you, she would still be the one with the upper hand.
But there is a third option that will nuke her hamster.
She will have no defense against because it gives her nothing to play with. And that is ghosting her. No calls, no texts, no answers. Its like you have fallen off from the face of the earth. Any and all attempts by her are met with stone cold silence. She is dead to you . She can do anything she wants to but she doesn't ever get a response or a reaction from you.
Let's examine how this can nuke her hamster and send it into absolute delirium. If you want revenge, ghosting is the way to do it. If you don't want to take revenge but just kill oneitis, this is still the way to do it.
Ghosting is cold, calculated and efficient for you and kryptonite for her hamster.
Because ghosting gives her nothing to play with, she won't be able to arrive at a conclusion because there would be no data to help her reach one.
'Why is he not answering my calls? He's not even answering my texts. Why is he doing it to me? But I was the best gf to him.
No, wait, did he find out that I was cheating? But it was a one night stand anyway. Nothing serious. Is he going to tell everyone now? Will he spoil my reputation? Fuck.
Did he find a better looking girl? What a douche! He should at least have had the decency to tell me. He is such a misogynist..
Oh no, I think he switched jobs. Did he get a better job? Maybe he has started earning more and found a girl in his new workplace . Fuck. Did he move to another state? Is he dead?
Give me an answer, someone give me an answer. Fuck, fuck fuck, my head feels so heavy now, I am going mad. Fuck, why does it always happen with me, why God why?'
Sometimes, you do too much to win when the best to way to win is by doing nothing.
Do nothing, cut all contact and see how you win. Revenge is a dish best served cold and ghosting is the way to dish out revenge on a cheating ho.
If you don't want revenge, this is still the best thing to do. Why would you explain the reasons for breaking up to a woman who has breached your trust, who has no respect for you?
In fact, it does not matter whether you see ghosting as revenge or not. Cutting off contact helps you in freeing your mind from her thoughts and that is what is required for you to move forward.
Ghosting is very effective in pushing her out of your mind, even if that's not the reason why you first started doing it.
To many of us she appears attractive because she isn't giving us her time of day. Ghosting reverses the dynamic. Instead of acting as if she were above you, she starts craving and begging for your attention and because you don't give it to her, she tries even harder, her worth drops in your eyes, you start seeing her flaws, she isn't the unattainable goddess anymore. She falls off the pedestal and your mind breaks free from her shackles.
It's a very potent medicine, it frees your prime property - your mind, from the unwelcome dweller that she is.
Highly recommended for all lovestruck betas stuck in one-sided love.