Alright, I can't call my grandma fat, because it's "not her fault" that she has gotten so fat. It's because of her age, because of her bodytype, and because of her health issues. I would be a disrespectful asshole if I would ever say such a thing.

Well, quite wrong. Something very interesting has happened just 2 years ago.

My grandma slipped in the bathtub and messed up her back really bad. She was barely able to do anything and completely lost her appetite. Literally, completely. She didn't poop for a full month because she didn't eat anything to poop out. A couple of glasses of water go it, but otherwise, nothing. Without too much disrespect, she was big. She weighed 80 kilo's and 155cm tall. In just 2 months, she has lost 25kg, and I wish I was joking. She lost 25000 grams of fat. I visited my grandma once every 2 weeks because it was always on my way home, and I've seen drastic changes every visit, to the point that she looked fit. My uncle moved in with her to take care of her in these times, so I didn't have to worry too much about her. At a certain point, they injected some cement in her back (in the hospital, bone-like material injected into her spine for extra support). This straightened her back, and she was walking faster than ever before and she felt amazing.

4 months, many cakes, coffee, television marathons later, she regained 20kg of those 25kg that she has previously lost. She's 84, didn't eat for 2 months and lost 25kg, regained 20kg within 4 months. Yet I know of women who are trying to lose 5kg for an entire year, and fail so because they can't maintain a diet for longer than a couple of days and find sweat disgusting and stop excercise once they get wet in all the wrong places.

Now, fatshaming. Why is this exactly wrong? Because it affects people who just don't want to put in any effort into being fit. These people disrespect their own bodies by eating improperly and dislike to do physical exercise whatsoever. I've seen people in wheelchairs that are more fit than the average man, and my grandma proved that even not eating for 2 months straight won't kill you. Granted, you should have a proper diet instead of starving yourself and daily exercise to burn excessive fat. Fatshaming isn't really about calling someone a fat pig, but rather calling someone out on how they treat their own body like crap. My point is that people who are fatshamed sometimes deserve to be fatshamed, as they recieve the same disrespect as they show to their own bodies. It's easy to plead to be accepted for who you are, but how can you respect a person that doesn't respect themselves? Especially those who say that they are fat because of their illness, if it isn't by their own laziness and poor diet, then I'd suggest to send them off to third world countries and infect the entire starving population, but I'm just being cynical here.

Exercise and keep a proper diet. Furthermore, don't be that lazy person that blames anything else but themselves. It's easy to blame anything that is "outside of your control". Men are more accepting of the fact that it's their own fault, but women won't blame themselves for what they have done to their own body. You can't tell a woman in the nicest way that she has a few extra kilo's because you don't feel like dealing with all the aftermath she makes you deal with.

So if anything, it's a rant that people say that something is out of their control or reach, but they just simply don't want to and you are the asshole if you call them out on it. It's no use to discuss with these people, and just let them be for what they are. But such behaviour doesn't make the world a better place at all.