When you have a real consistent problem getting to sleep, you end up at the end of your rope where you'd practically try anything to get a solid eight hours of shut-eye. Melatonin, OTC sleep aids, meditation, cold showers before bed, good sleep hygiene... all that. But whats been working for me lately is watching a good twenty minutes of a YouTube ASMR video before calling it a day.

What the hell is ASMR? ASMR is essentially virtual femininity where a pretty girl whispers gently into the camera while brushing her hair or using her fingernails to tap on things. It's not meant to be sexual- I'll often only listen to the audio- but it's incredibly relaxing and usually gets the job done. ASMR is essentially providing feminine energy, which is something that is so incredibly devoid in today's sexual marketplace that I would consider it dead- or, at best, on life support as a lost art.

The biggest problem silly women face in today's sexual marketplace is that the men they'd want long-term relationships with only want sex, and the men who want long-term relationships are beta and needy; so lacking in confidence that they probably only want a long-term relationship in the first place due to fear and scarcity. Of course, as with most problems women face in the sexual marketplace, this has been entirely self-created. In a world of hyper-sexuality and open promiscuity, women have reduced themselves to sexual prizes to be won by the most desirable men.

While this was true of the old world, and Marriage 1.0, using their sexuality in this regard was ultimately more productive; trading sexual access for a good husband, a stable marriage, and family life. In today's world, women having been reduced to sexual prizes who are easily accessed by the most desirable men only leads to... sex. From that point forward, a woman must suddenly scramble to use emotional manipulation (with her fingers crossed) in hopes to capture the man she so easily gave herself to sexually... only, of course, the most desirable men are usually too keen on this game and won't take the bait. Then they become "assholes."

But, to be honest, in a world where femininity died a cold death, I get where she's coming from. Without a sense of feminine charm, what else does she have to offer but sex? So female game becomes ensnaring men with easy sex, and trying to manipulate him to stick around for more. But what are the missing pieces here? What is femininity and where did it go?

Women from an early age are taught to categorize men. This had some merit in the old world where a woman was seeking a suitable husband and there was a certain social standard for acceptable behavior with a culture that was more respectful of men in general. Respect for men is something that needs social reinforcement as it isn't the same biological instinct that a man will have to be respectful and protective of a woman. So, as it were, even if a man wasn't particularly useful to a woman it wouldn't immediately mean that she would treat him poorly; she would show him the same kindness and warmth that she'd show anyone, only without the sexual access that was reserved for someone worthy.

The easiest way to spot a feminine woman is to see how a woman treats an undesirable, or useless man. Is she truly kind and warm? Does she treat with him genuine dignity? Think about all the women you've personally known and the answer is almost always no (the most you'll get is polite, maybe).

But modern women are taught to be competitive with men. The idea that they can, and, more specifically, should win when competing with men ("Grrls Rule~!!"). Women have been cursed with a female ego where they constantly want to trump card the men around them- and, consequently, when they do, they lose respect and attraction for that particular man. This is essentially the shit test, and it puts men in the awkward position of having to decide between being genuinely competitive or letting her win because men are not biologically wired to compete with women. Laugh at naive blue pill men all you'd like, but before you became red pill aware, you felt this same dilemma and before understanding the consequences, you very likely let her win the game. You probably thought you were a good man for letting her win and that she would see this, and love you more for it...

Since women have become conditioned to compete with men- garnering a greater ego for her victories (even as it destroys her relationships)- the categorization of men which she had learned with the idea to find a respectable suitor has become what it is today- something mean spirited and destructive. Where weaker men only exist for her to garner easy victories; to exist in her shadow and support her self-esteem. Those men are not to be treated with any kind of respect or dignity- after all, they're losers.

A feminine woman has no need for this kind of ego, the constant need for defeating men in every avenue, because she isn't competitive with men to begin with; she isn't trying to constantly make the men around her look stupid and unmasculine at every turn. The essence of a feminine woman is her willingness to be submissive to men; to treat men with a basic standard of dignity and respect as men. This does not mean that she's a stupid push-over, ripe for being taken advantage of, or the display of a woman who lacks self-respect or confidence (a feminine woman is supremely confident in herself as a woman as displayed by her lacking the need to signal girl power); nor does this mean she's willing to give any man sexual access- one has nothing to do with the other. A feminine woman is willing to provide kindness and warmth to all men, regardless of their use, because she isn't looking to constantly win- a feminine woman is just being herself.

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