You found out how women, men, and the world at large really works and it sucks at first. You might be angry or you've finally pieced together some events that occurred between you and girls you dealt with in the past and realized the harsh reality of what really happened.
It's tempting to let bitterness set in. Reality doesn't seem fair and indeed it's not. However, you have to flip your perception of what's fair and what isn't.
You might be hurt because you were indoctrinated with the belief that if you love women with all your heart and you're a pure, good guy that an equally honest woman would eventually see your character and fall madly in love with you without question.
When you found out this was false, your instant reaction may have been "I gotta be an asshole now!"
I think this is the main mistake many guys make once they find out the truth.
What YOU define as an asshole and what women define as an asshole are two totally different things.
That's where the problem really lies. In a nutshell, the "asshole" does get girls. Just not the kind of asshole you envisioned.
Women love the "inadvertent" asshole. He's the guy who's just an asshole by default. He isn't really trying to be one and he isn't necessarily mean, but he certainly doesn't bend over backwards for people.
See, in a world where women are used to guys doing virtually everyfuckingthing imaginable for them short of wiping their own asses, any guy who actually doesn't do these things is an "asshole".
Asking her to buy you a drink might make you an "asshole" to her. Not holding the door might make you an "asshole". Saying you actually don't like that dress on her when she asks might make you an "asshole".
An asshole in a woman's world is defined as that guy who doesn't kiss ass for pussy, validation, or acceptance. These guys win.
YOUR version of the asshole is the guy who's just mean spirited. This actually turns women off because you trigger their "He might be a fucking psychopath" alarm detectors. That's NOT good.
Sometimes you become this guy due to pure hurt. Understandable. You found out how shallow & fickle women really are, the girl you love is bouncing on someone else's dick while you miserably cry about it, or the girl you envisioned spending your life with just hit the door. You're mad. You've pledged to never treat these whores with respect again and you'll play them all until you die of old age.
Good game plan, but let the hurt and anger go first. Women can see through it and it makes you look way too weak, emotional, and invested.
Bitterness is a FEMALE trait.
Sorry, being real. Imagine your favorite "alpha" make who fucks mad women, lives like a boss abs loves life. You think he's sulking around in monk mode 24/7, eternally pissed off about the cute girl in his dorm that rejected him freshman year of college then fucked his beat friend?
So why are you? LET IT GO.
If you're envisioning turning into "the man" to prove those women wrong in your past who passed up on you, then you're doing it wrong. Let it go. Not for them. For you. Those bitches played you, cheated on you, shitted on you, and denied you already. It's over. You lost that round. Praying that they'll see you on Facebook one day and say "Oh my God I should've married Johnny when I had the chance!" is just remnant blue pill mentality that's stunting your BRIGHT future!
There might be a beautiful dime you've never met before who's just waiting for you to run into her and fuck her brains out except she'll never meet you because you're too busy caught up over Jessica who was really a 7/10 on a good day that left you 3 years ago.
Here's the crazy thing about life .... When you finally win, nobody gives a fuck about the losses anymore.
Ever notice how we never talk about Michael Jordan's seasons where he didn't win? That's not a coincidence. You think Mike ever sits in his big ass multi-million dollar mansion, staying up all night thinking "Damn, if only I would have beaten the Pistons in '90..."
I'll answer this for you. Hell to the fuck no.
Focus on winning. Fuck your past losses. They're etched in stone already, embrace it. Because when you do fuck that dime that's waiting for you, Jessica will be a long long long distant memory.