This is my transition from becoming a man from a child. I want to share these important life lessons with everyone on this community im sure many of you already know some of this stuff but for those who dont or want to know a little bit more. Especially in the world that we live in today "being a man" is frowned upon and seen as aggressive, toxic, and unnecessary. Society is trying to change us and ignore our own biological instincts that have allowed humanity to survive for millions of years, albeit not just "survive" but Thrive. Vice versa with a woman's natural instincts that have allowed our species to survive aswell, Allow me to tell you what you should and should not do in the world today as a man.

First some background info on me: I was born in the western united states to a christian family, i had a decent upbringing and a pleasant childhood up until around the age of 11, around 6th grade at this time i was i had my first experience with physical bullying and it wasnt just light it was very violent. My mother would often tell me to report it to the teacher has soon as possible after it happened and not to defend myself, often this thinking. This is the passivity of women, women advice should only be for nurturing and emotional support, not physical conduct, t My father often was very busy working but hed do his best to educate me and tell me how to handle them was to fight back, hed talk to the teacher for smaller things, but after they tried to kill me in the bathroom we was furious, obviously most of it directed to the people who attacked me, but some of it was directed towards me because i didnt defend myself and also my mom telling me to take the course of less resistance. My father unfortunately had to go out of town from work often 75-90% of the year , so i was often raised by my mother thus i took more of her natures, behaviors, and ways of thinking and incorporated it into my daily life. She often told me to be grateful to everyone always saying "please" "thankyou" "your welcome" ect. essentially always being the nice guy. Looking back on it now again this is a womans way of thinking not a mans, woman are biologically programmed agreeable in social situations, men are not. Of course, this didnt help with school either, i was constantly pushed around both verbally and physically (By not only guys but also girls!). Eventually the bullying from from my male peers was too much to handle , so i would often switch schools, and you could probably tell what would happen at those schools, i would get bullied there aswell, by both guys and girls, i eventually decided to just do home school for the remainder of high school, of the course of this entire endeavor i became a emotional, weak, passive, and very agreeable with everyone and everyone, always became the nice guy, and i got pushed around constantly, whenever a physical or verbal would occur on the street with a stranger like a guy giving me shit saying "hey asshole" or a street hustler or salesman trying to sell me something i always would get locked up, sweaty and nervous having no idea how to handle myself and often caving into there demands,of course once again this is the behavior of women, in other words if you live amongst women and are raised by them you will become one. humans are creatures of influence, we are like a sponge, we take every single dynamic outside in our environment and apply it to our way of thinking. even if you think this is incorrect you will be lying to yourself, surround yourself with positive influences that will motivate you and make you stronger, this goes for both family and friends, if you hang out with betas,losers, or, degenerates you will become one. As the saying goes "it is better to be in ones own company than bad company" . Luckily my dad had me live in his work hotel with him for the last of high school. Progressively overtime being with my father he was able to teach me how to be a man, how to carry myself, and drop the habits of being a beta feminine male. Although he was able to save my masculinity and dignity for the most part, there still exists some of the feminine nature that my mother instilled within me. Furthermore, many of the "masculine alpha male" behaviors like walking with a purpose, speaking up, etc have been a little difficult to transition to as they do not feel normal, whats the most dangerous is that often growing up and even a little bit now my father would often encourage me to flirt and have a sensual prowess (you know how fathers encourage there sons how to engage with women) or in other words have a "sexual prowess" that would aid me in dating women and eventually procreation, but being raised by my agreeable, passive mother taught me not to pursue women that way and instead be the nice guy. And even though i have had a little more confidence thanks to my dad i can still see that i am only 30-50% there, I still act very needy, chatty, and clingy, and have a huge lack of confidence in general everyday life. However over a little bit of practice and developing a decent social prowess i decide to pursue a girl my first year of college romantically. It had mixed results, if you want to see the whole story you can see my other post on MGTOW, but long story short i was played by the girl a little bit emotionally and used me a little, lost my dignity as a man for a while and she was able to ragdoll me a bit. She manipulated my design as a man for her own gratification the "design as a man that is a man seeking a women like all men do some point in there life" exploiting my biological design, but she definitely wasn't as mean as some other girls. At the same time that i experienced this emotional drama as a girl like i said i was emotionally vulnerable, thus other peers were able to toss me around and fuck with me, while others (my close friends) disowned me for being too chatty clingy or being a (always available nice guy) My first semester of college really taught me alot and helped me realized alot of social and biological constructs and standards regarding men, women and the social hirearchy that some arent able to find out for decades or there are those that are just too ignorant "SJW's ect. that just plain out refuse that we as humans have biological tendencies which are unique to both men and women that have aided our survival as a species for millions of years like i said. Of course i love my mother , she was a very good mother, but for both sex to be successful for the next generation a man should be raised 75% by the father 25% by the mother.

My posts bridge: To give a small summary this is what i want to say before telling you what you should and should not do. I want this say this about our current situation in society: in the 21st century our society has been poisoned by a higher influence that has tainted both men and women. Men are taught to be more passive, feminine, friendly and kind, while women are taught to be more aggressive, independent, and determined, Both of these dynamics go completely against each sexes biological behavior. This ideologies of feminism, limitless amounts of genders and ideologies have been allowed to flourish and grow in this weak and pathetic cradle of society that has allowed these ways of thinking to survive in the first place. Indirectly and subconsciously whoever instilled this way of thinking into our society did so with the purpose of one thing "making those who engage in it die off the race". We are having a aging population crisis, less and less people are having children, and the children that are born are often born into unstable households that is ridden with crime, drugs, ghetto areas, prostitution etc.For example, a man that is taught to be passive, friendly and indirect (nice guy) wont have a good chance of passing his genes on for the next generation because he is exhibiting feminine behavior not masculine ( i know most of this is just common sense but just bear with me please.). Our natural biological behaviors as for men "aggressive dominant powerful strong" are very attractive naturally to women, vice versa women who are very submissive, kind and gentle are attractive to a man. This biological desired behavior from each sex will never change no matter what ideology is instilled in society.Do you know what brings a women the most joy and fulfillment? Its raising children, not pursuing a career, the west has been poisoned into thinking that women are required to pursue a career and neglect there children or not have any children at all. Biologically women want to have children, its what makes them happy, think about it. Imagine if women didn't have the biological program that made them feel happy raising kids? we would all be extinct. Instead our society encourages the exact thing that makes women what they are today in our western society, "slut thot" behavior, having sex with dozens of men, i read somewhere that after a women has sex with a "alpha man" and gives her that natural dopamine high and the man dumps her she continually will seek out another man that can give that same high again and she goes from guy to guy. These are the women you find at clubs, bars, dance clubs ect where there are alcohol and drugs. You cant actually believe that these women will be faithful right? If you do than you are delusional, look in the right places if you want a faithful women like a church, school, ect, where responsibility is in play, sure they wont be perfect because they are emotional thinkers, but you are 90% more likely to find a faithful women. I hear alot of men MGTOW frown upon marriage, i can agree that raising step children is something you should never do but you should never frown upon traditional marriage and that is something i will be discussing here soon.

Now, these are the rules i learned from my experience and knowledge that i have acquired over the 19 years of my life.

  1. Have a purpose. : Now what do I mean "have a purpose" well it means you have a reason to live and a reason to "do". This reason is something under the lines of "education" a job, a career" ect. Some smaller examples are "physical fitness" a hobby ect You need to have a purpose, something that gives your life meaning, the entire time. Do not let anyone infringe or affect this purpose! Especially if it invovles women, do not let women deviate you from this purpose, if they get you off your purpose than you than they will ruin you and make you a slave to your emotions. Having a purpose gives you substance, gives you confidence, and gives you motivation of your own way of life.
  2. Be mean, rude, apprehensive with strangers, be kind friendly chirst like religious with family, friends, coworkers, new acquaintances ect. As humans we are "primal beings in a advanced world, in other words, even though we all follow social constructs like laws and manners and we possess a conscious and a intellegent mind , we are by design still animals, once you realize this fact you will be able be light years ahead of the general population. Now what does this 2nd rule mean. It means that whenever you are out in public or on the street when someone approaches you in a situation that isnt in school, job, or event convention setting always assume the worst. That is your right as a man you owe them no courtesy at all, in society we are taught to be kind and friendly to everyone especially strangers. But when someone approaches you out of nowhere in public it is usually with ill intent. These people have the intention of either selling you something, hustling you, manipulating you or robbing you. We have the right to survive, these strangers that approach us on the street could be dangerous, I as a man have no obligation to treat them with respect because they are approaching me, i dont know if they are a threat and thats there problem for choosing to approach me, if they feel offended that i get aggressive or angry that is there problem because i never wanted to talk to them in the first place, nor did bother or aggravate them.

  1. Know when to be mean,

For example ,If someone is fucking with you, or is wasting your time, tell them off and walk away even if it feels awkward or rude, someone like a sales man that is approaching you and is talking to you is literally wasting your breathing minutes of life. They are literally taking your life away by wasting your time, it is your life, be selfish with it because you only have one, they are being selfish by approaching you and wasting your time, be selfish back by taking that time back and walking away.

. Never be afraid to walk away. Never be afraid to walk away from a friendship or a relationship, this is your life and you can chose you associate with, furthermore, never be afraid to walk away from a women, if you show you are willing to walk away you will raise your value not only as a man but also as a person, you show that you are high value and that she is lower than you on the totem pole instead of the other way around that the women is above and controlling you. the behavior of willing to walk away is very attractive to women and will show that you are not clingy and very important and well rounded. It makes you look more mature and shows that you have a high intellegence and well rounded self esteem.

  1. Rebounding off the last tip never be afraid to be alone, : we as men are natural survivalists, we can live alone if need be, this goes for both male friends and female friends, theres nothing wrong in being alone, it is better to be alone than in bad company, self taught people always become much more successful than followers. Women on the other hand are followers thus they cannot have this advantage, furhter more they follow there emotion not logic.

  2. Never be more emotional than necessary/ do not speak more than necessary ( actions speak louder than words) . As men we have the advantage that our intellect can override our emotions but only if we choose to use it, woman do not have this, that is why woman require a man for logic while a man requires a woman for emotional nutriment for both himself and his children. futhermore But anyways back to the subject, as men our actions speak much louder than words, think of the most masculine bad ass influential characters in movies, john wick, james bond ect. there actions speak louder than words, this also applies to how you handle stress and anger, if you use more words than actions in dealing with anger and stress you will look much more weak and much more like a bitch. Think about this situation, if you own a security guard company and a security guard is slacking off which is the better course of action to take

  3. Tell him this "why arent you doing your fucking job?" do you want me to fire you?

  4. Or just tell him this "go home" plain and simple?

If you didnt know its number 2 do you know why? because you are giving clear instruction or "action" to go home instead of messing with him and contesting himSimilarly with how woman act. which brings up number 7.

  1. never listen to a womans words, only believe her actions Woman use words to manipulate and win over others, they do not use there words to make commands. If you want to show a woman you mean business use your actions.

  2. Dont lose your masculine frame with a female or family . what i mean here is dont act or goofy and shit unless you want to get disrespect and be at the bottom of the totem pole, dont let a female break your masculine frame otherwise she will friend zone you, girls always say they want talkative friendly guys as a boyfriend but this isnt the case in reality they want masculine quite and well rounded guys, this doesnt only apply to just relationships with a girl but also as friends dont ever let her break your frame or she take advantage of you and manipulate you emotionally. If youve ever heard a girl say " i cant read you" thats a good sign.

Now finally i wanted to add my thoughts about "marriage". Alot of MGTOW's frown upon marriage for whatever reason, i can only see it being acceptable to frown upon in a cuck situation where you are using your time and resources to raise a kid thats not your own, that is so messed up i agree and i am totally against that because the guy who got the girl pregnant should be responsible for his own kid.

But when it comes to normal well rounded guys like us a marriage is vital (of course with a good woman). Think about it if you are reading this right now you are a product of thousands of years of human development along with your ancestors successfully surviving and passing on there genes since the dawn of time. It would be a shame for it all to end with you because a few bitchy woman made you feel discouraged, and dont get me wrong i know its more difficult than ever to date woman with the new posionous constructs in play but like i said look in the right places and you will find a faithful woman or may i suggest looking in foreign countries since woman here arent as happy as they use to be. Back to the subject though, think about it MGTOW's focus is improving oneself through education, physical skill, body improvement ect. would you want all that knowledge and expereince to go to waste by not having a son or daughter? would you just want it to die with you? Futhermore would you just want to die without a family by your side? no wife ? no daughter? No son? Your parents will likely die before you , after they are gone you pretty much have no one, no one to take care of you in your older years, not having children is genetic suicide, and dont think you arent good enough to pass on your genes, if you are here today your ancestors survived shitloads of hardship, famine, droughts, natural diasters ect. in other words you are or we are a product of our ancestors sacrifice suriving. No one regrets having children , they only regret there life choices that cause there children to live a rough life. There are good woman that want good men, dont be a defeatist just because a few bitches at the club acted like sluts, they will be a vicitim of there own design by not being capable of taking care of children (if they were to have any). I hope this shed some light