I think one of the under spoken principles of TRP is that things should be as natural as possible.
Lately I've been promoting my business that I started and that's involved me talking to hundreds more people than I normally would, thus I strike up conversations with way more females than I ever would've otherwise.
Safe to say I've flirted with a few and got their numbers. Some successes other failures. But it's been extremely valuable experience because the more I talk to these girls the more I'm beginning to pick up on when I should bail or not.
I'm not sure if other guys on TRP have experienced this or not but when you read up enough on here and the sidebar and other resources and have some good success with it , it tends to give you a belief (initially) that you'll be successful with all women if you maneuver the situation right.
I had to learn this is false. Some girls just aren't into you and sensing this immediately is key to not wasting unnecessary time. I don't care if you're a famous rock star with a shitload of money and a six pack and the personality of Don Juan, SOME girl out there will turn you down. Might be for something completely out of your control like race, height, where you're from, or even your fucking Zodiac sign (see: bitches are crazy).
I learned this because some girls I'd talk to and feel like I "did everything right" then ask myself why didn't it work? And I had to realize she just didn't like me and be okay with that. I also had to understand that just because I didn't fuck her doesn't mean I "fucked up".
Sounds simple but I think as men we tend to take rejection personally because we're a results-oriented species by nature.
For the ones that do like me, though, it's easy. Yes you still need to employ TRP strategy so you don't botch it after you get your foot in the door but it doesn't feel like you're "forcing" it.
The basic principle really is this: If a female likes you, she'll respond. If she likes you then she'll make time to go out and if she doesn't have any then she'll clear some. If she likes you or you've captured her interest then it really should feel like a "flow".
I've just noticed with girls I do fuck it seems like there's a strong natural chemistry from the start. Both of us smiling in initial conversations, texts are easy and I'm not really thinking about how to respond etc.
So I've decided to live my life by a new principle:
If it doesn't feel easy or natural then I abandon it.
Part 2.
Talk to a LOT of girls
I've also learned that talking to a LOT of girls just helps in general. I've received a lot of "no's" I won't even lie. I'm still in the midst of my self improvement journey but I don't want to be a recluse until I get "there" so I've just been talking to girls as practice almost. If I fuck, great. If not, whatever.
In the beginning the "no" would hurt. I won't lie. Sometimes I'd over analyze it, think about what I was wearing, how I approached or whatever. Now I don't care. I think another thing that helps is that I'm promoting my business so I have to deal with a lot of rejection in the professional world too. Just how shit works.
Maybe I've said this before but I had a couple really close friends in college that used to get ass like it was running out of style. I'm talking 5-7 girls a week. All cute ones. One day my friend noticed I had a couple girls over consistently but never made my move and he asked me "what are you waiting for?" I told him I didn't wanna fuck it up and he told me "Bro it doesn't matter. I'll respect you regardless. These other guys (my roommates) can't talk shit because they don't even try to talk to girls. Even if she gets up and runs out the room screaming it doesn't matter man."
Then I said "That's easy for you to say, you get a ton of bitches all the time." And that's when he put me on to the truth when he said "Man I get no's all the time too. You guys just see the girls I bring back." I started paying attention and he was right. We'd be at parties and girls would say no for a variety of reasons to him sometimes. There were girls he brought back that he didn't fuck. Some girls he'd show me he was talking to that stopped texting him back.
This is just how the game works. No matter how much money you make, how sexy you think you can get, how much TRP strategy you read, or hours you spend in the gym there are gonna be bitches who tell you no. A lot probably. There's no shame in it.
ALSO:
The "no's" don't just come in the form of a girl saying no. Sometimes you have to make the no. This is really crucial to living a stress free life with women I swear.
Never tolerate a woman's bullshit for the sake of pussy. Women 10000% know when men do this and they'll absolutely take advantage.
If she's an insufferable bitch or extremely childish and annoying then just cut her off. Even if she likes you and is throwing the pussy. It's not worth it.
She doesn't have to be perfect because women are far from it but the last thing she should be doing is actually irritating you and causing undue stress. Don't "put up" with anything. ANYTHING. You're better than that. All you're doing is reinforcing the concept in your head of "Pussy means so much to me that I'm willing to compromise my peace of mind and core values to have it."
No self respecting man should ever carry himself that way. Be willing to walk away from a NICE piece of ass if need be. Sure it'll hurt. You'll get horny as think "damn if Sarah were here with her big tiddies" and you may even be tempted to call her just to have her come over and deal with her shenanigans after. Never worth it bro's. You'll feel way better about yourself as a man if you hold this standard and you'll realize your level of stress w women will go WAY down and their respect will go WAY up.
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