I've been wanting to do a post for a little while on this.

The pill has been slowly absorbing in my bloodstream and I feel I'm at a point where I can effectively comment on how my behavior (or perspective) has changed.

Since being exposed to the Red Pill, I've been forced to really evaluate how I relate to women and why I do the things I do.

If you had talked to me a year ago, I would have said that I represented an ideal man for them to fuck or date. How full of shit I was.

The truth is though, I represented what I THOUGHT their ideal was, or even better — what the feminine community had led me to believe their ideal was. I was "following the rules." I was a "Nice guy" and "not a threat."

The Rational Male, No More Mr. Nice Guy, and Models have been three books that helped me peel the pages of my own book back and understand why I wasn't having the success I wanted.

Here are a few major takeaways I've had in the last year that I feel like have impacted my daily life.

You don't have to find her interesting

A lot of the engagements that I used to enter into were ones where I felt like I had to "HYPE MYSELF UP." I thought I needed to show interest so as not to be an apathetic douche who didn't care about her. Ugh.

Where I'm at now, women can certainly be interesting. But they are not by default interesting. I don't have to express any engagement whatsoever if I'm not feeling it. If an interaction is boring or feels like it's very artificial, I'll just politely smooth out of it (or sit through it with a stoic face).

I used to convey a high level of neediness by positively responding to everything a woman would have to say. I've made strides on eliminating this.

Just because she enjoys your attention doesn't mean she enjoys you

Attention is heroin for a woman. I used to think the opposite... if they responded positively to it, I thought that I was just doing the right things and it was "Only a matter of time."

Now I understand that they're going to crave the attention and turn me into an orbiter if I'm not careful. I've had several experiences with this recently. One girl went on a couple outings with me, and seemed to enjoy the attention she was getting and the time we were having.

Lo and behold, I invite her out to coffee and she shows up along with her "boyfriend" who she never once mentioned and doesn't even introduce as a boyfriend. Can't scare me off entirely, lest I stop paying attention to her!

You may have a different interpretation of this, I'm quite open to hearing it...I still have lots of learning to do. One year is very little time in the grand scheme of TRP.

Best practices now for me are to be courteous, enjoyable to be around, but look out for myself if I'm only being exploited for attention. If that's the case, then yank the rug out from under them. Ignore them. Next them. Do whatever you want, as long as you don't keep feeding their addiction — it will get you nowhere and make you feel like less of a person in the process.

When you focus on yourself, you'll see the results you want. But you won't care

Think of it like this. A salesperson who NEEDS to make quota comes off as kind of desperate. If you're venturing out in the field with a huge level of emotional investment in whether or not she is responsive to you, it's going to show.

One of the best ways to exhibit a lower level of emotional investment is to focus on yourself. You're a unique collection of cells and molecules that can do lots of fascinating shit. Get out there and figure out what keeps you hungry.

For me, it came to investing more time in my fitness and in my job. There's a lot of personal development to be done in a job, and if that's the kind of thing that excites you, then you can really sink your teeth into it.

When women see a guy who is mission forward, they can't help but be a little more interested in you than they were when you were the guy who had nothing better to do than care what they think about you.

It hasn't turned me into a magnet or anything, but I certainly feel more comfortable in who I am and I don't stake a lot of my worth on these little endeavors with women that I engage in.

When I'm focusing on myself, I'm able to focus on what's really important in my life. When I'm focusing on them, I look like a sappy beta beeyatch who has nothing better to do but care about their opinion of me.

Conclusion: These are just my personal, translated takeaways from TRP over the last year. They may not align 100%, but they're a looooong way from where I was a year ago.

Thanks for continuing to be a community that not only supports men, but also knows when to kick them in the balls when they need to wake up and get it together.