Having decided a while back to pursue spinning plates instead of LTR's, I've been keeping my distance emotionally with anyone I've been involved with. One girl in particular I've been seeing a lot, all while vigilantly avoiding labels, introductions to family members, and serious conversations of any kind.

Interestingly, red flags nevertheless abound in the form of attempts to lock me into a boyfriend role, essentially because my company is entertaining and I can please her sexually. On an emotional level, this girl does not know me at all, and I intend to keep it that way.

Now the really bizarre realization for me is to think about what the situation would be like if I had divulged secrets, insecurities, childhood memories, etc; I would wrongly believe that her sense of intimacy and caring for me was based on those conversations, when in fact good sex and light hearted fun is all it actually takes to trigger those emotions in her.

Also, that kind of communication would probably induce feelings of closeness and investment on my part. By withholding that type of emotional investment, I can maintain a coherent frame while simultaneously encouraging unreciprocated adoration on her end.