Women love gossip. They love to hear about everyones problems (so that they can gossip about them in the future). They can use this information as a way to cultivate attention and validation therefore raising their social status among their peers.
In this sense women love to hear your problems, because they're going to tell all of their friends and make fun of you.
However for the women you're interested in fucking (and the ones potentially interested in fucking you) they absolutely do not give a fuck about your problems, will think less of you for sharing them, and will mock you for opening up.
Women are constantly looking for validation and attention. They compete for attention amongst themselves and men through dramatic story telling and gathering sympathy from onlookers. Women often play the victim (because men have an instinctual desire to protect) as this is a surefire way to gather attention and validation.
To women it is a by-any-means-nessisary game, and they are not above or bellow using underhanded tactics (including lying, think false rape accusations) to achieve their goal of gathering attention and validation.
A man openly expressing his problems to women (as in: I really need you to listen to me right now and validate me) is competing directly with a women for the same type of validation and attention women so desperately crave. This makes it difficult (if not impossible) to see him as a masculine figure. It prevents her from letting herself trust him with her emotions (if he can't handle his emotions how can he handle mine?).
This is true even if your problems are legitimate. If you are trying to gather sympathy from women you are going to have the opposite effect.
You might be able to relate to this with a simple exercise. Try to remember a moment where you saw your father (or father figure) hurting. When you saw him hurting you might have realized that he is just as vulnerable and human as you. Maybe that experience forced you to mature in some way, or perhaps it affected your sense of security.
This is also true for women. When you share your problems/weakness/etc... with them they have the same experience towards you. They see you just as vulnerable and weak as they are, which destroys their trust and faith in you as a man. This kills attraction.
Are there exceptions to this? Probably. If I were to guess it would be the female members of your family like your mother or grandmother that have no interest in fucking you in the first place.
There might also be expectations depending on the circumstance - for very serious circumstances such as a death of a family member or a child. However anything that takes away from her perception of you as "unshakeable" is going to affect her opinion of you.
In my experience women have a very limited amount of sympathy. Even if the issue is serious, if you continue to dwell on it, this will only affect her image of you negatively.
It is my suggestion not to use women as a therapist, as much as they beg you to open up - they actually don't want you to. Develop some good, understanding male friends who you can share your problems with them. Hopefully your friends have some good sense and can offer constructive criticism and tell you to stop being a bitch if necessary.
Also I have noticed that most girls will give me a free pass (and others) on being aggressive, but this thought is underdeveloped.
Good luck on your journey brothers
Bitter
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