Undoubtedly stressing over something that is out of our control is one of the worst negative feelings we can experience.

You know you can’t do anything about it, but the thought keeps playing and replaying in your mind, over and over and over again. Here’s how to deal with it:

Chill Out ¯(ツ)

You might have experienced it when you went for a job interview and kept thinking about the outcome while waiting for the result.

You might have experienced it when you remembered a certain way you acted or something you said to someone. Again the mind just keeps replaying the thought over and over. Some of us experience it in regards to our insecurities for example many short men can’t stop thinking about their height when talking to females, crippling their confidence.

I personally used to experience it when I was younger whenever my parents flew oversees; my mind would keep thinking “what if their plan crashed?” These thoughts used to stress me out as a youngster.

Dealing With The Unease

Luckily there is a method to help you deal with this stress, one that I and many other have found to be effective.

What you have to understand about the mind is that it is split into two parts, the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. If I say ‘don’t think about Donald Trump naked riding a bomb like a horse waving a cowboy hat while falling out of the sky’ odds are you probably thought of it.

The image in your head was created subconsciously while reading the text, however it is your conscious mind that decides to FOCUS on it if you let it.

What I am trying to say here is that you can’t control all the thoughts that enter your mind, but you can control which ones you give energy and focus to with your conscious brain. So you will always have negative thoughts the solution is to not put energy into them.

Now you can only consciously focus on a few things at one time. So the easiest way to get out of your head is to put your focus elsewhere, the easiest place being your body.

So when you start thinking those negative thoughts here are a few things you can focus on:

  • Your breath inhaling and exhaling out of your lungs
  • Your extremities the sensations of your feet and hands
  • Try see if you can feel or listen to your heartbeat
  • The noises that you can hear how far can you hear?
  • The things you can see, how much detail can you perceive?
  • What can you smell, can you notice any subtleties? Count from 50 backwards in your mind, picturing each number

The idea is to try to put your full conscious awareness into any one of these things, try really focusing on it and something magical will happen.

The stress you were feeling will slowly go away. Now you might have to do this a few times a day each time the thought pops up before your mind gets the idea.

The mind will eventually say “Ok we can’t fuck with this guy/girl “and give up on the thought.

Energy cannot be created not destroyed

You were good at science yes? Remember ‘Energy cannot be created not destroyed’ It can only be transferred.

You cannot put your energy into the negative thoughts and emotions while pouring it into something else!

Eventually with practice using this method when that sneaky thought creeps up on you, you might actually laugh “uhh my old friend”, you might say before ignoring it and caring on with your life stress free.

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