Summary: Your entire life you have been told to 'communicate' with your girlfriend. This doesn't always, if ever, work. It will not effectively reach her emotional, irrational side. You can only reach that side through your actions. Be unconventional to communicate with her irrational side.

Anyone who has spent a considerable amount of time on reddit has probably stumbled across other subs that talk about relationships, gender dynamics, and things of the sort. Of course, all of them offer unique relationship advice from their own perspective.

Some of those subs are steaming piles of garbage, which even other redditors shun. Subs like TwoX will tell you that you should "Ask a woman if you can kiss her" or that "you guys should spend some time apart to see if this is what you want". Not only is this advice utterly useless, it can often be harmful.

There are other middle-of-the-ground subreddits like Relationships which are the go-to places to get advice on how to fix your relationship. Even if 1/2 the time that advice is "Break it off/Get a divorce".

And serving as beacons of light in the middle of darkness, some male-oriented subs like AskMen will often give good advice to guys on how to be a proper man. Funnily enough, this is the one sub besides TheRedPill that I have seen being called bitter towards women.

Let me just say that if you're trying to fix your relationships using only reddit, you have other issues. But that's not my point. These subreddits represent groups of people, ranging from the most feminist bluepilled ones to the almost-but-not-really objective redpilled ones. They represent different attitudes that someone can have towards a particular problem, which in this case, is a relationship.

However, all of these groups have one thing in common. They will all tell you to "communicate".

Communication is key. An open honest discussion about your feelings will help you solve issues in your relationship.

The blue-haired land-whale at TwoX, the almost-alpha dude at AskMen, and everyone in between will tell you to communicate. People in real life will tell you "Just tell her how you feel, man".

And they're right, sort of.

When possible, you should talk to your plate/girlfriend/wife/colleague/sibling/parent/boss like a fucking adult. You should make it clear, with words, that you are not exclusive with your plate, or what your actual responsibilities are when that lazy co-worker asks you to cover for him, or what your boundaries are with your roommates.

But sometimes telling them is not enough. No matter how well and confidently you use your words, they'll ignore you or not care. And sometimes, if you say it like an insecure spineless little bitch, they'll resent you for it, as it was in my case. Some people are testing your frame when they ignore what you say. But sometimes, they simply have an irrational side that no amount of communication will let you reach, much less reason with. This is often present in Women. In these cases, you'll have to stop talking and act. You need to make it clear, with your actions, what your intentions are.

Let me tell you a story to help illustrate my point. This happened with my first girlfriend in High school, my first heart-wrenching LTR that eventually turned me completely Red, as is the case with a lot of us here on this sub. There were a lot of Redpill gems in that relationship, and it might make for a good post someday.

Story: I had dated this one chick for most of my senior year. I knew about TRP throughout the relationship, but I was too scared and emotionally invested to properly apply the principles. I had that AskMen-esque attitude of having "self-respect and trying to communicate".

After a humiliating breakup that included me being dumped in front of a McDonald's at 2 AM after showing up to a party that I wasn't invited to, I did the only rational thing anyone would do, I tried to communicate. I wanted to salvage the relationship badly. I believed that there was no good reason for us to break up, so I wanted to talk it out.

I begged, over the course of a week, for us to meet up and talk it out. I wanted to solve things the "correct" way. The way that everyone told me would work. And guess what happened? She was noticeably repulsed by my begging. She told me she didn't want to meet up, so that I might as well talk to her via text. And I did. I poured my heart out, I told her everything I "felt", how it made no sense to breakup, there was no valid reason, and it felt impulsive. She had a history of mood-swings, and this was just another one. We had promised each other that we would be honest and make things work, to at least try and solve our problems. We had agreed that we would overcome our issues together.

You know what happened after I told her all of that? The obvious, she told me she didn't want to hear any of it. She told me "Life sucks, but you'll get through it. Please stop texting me".

So I gave up. I was defeated. Funnily enough, I met her in person twice after our breakup (I won't go into details, as that would take too long). She was so distant and emotionally unavailable both times. I told her that we should talk and try to solve things. I was met with "yeah.. idk" and then her returning to her phone. She didn't want to talk, she was repulsed by my sensitivity and honesty.

But we did talk. We eventually got around to it. It wasn't because of honest communication. It was because of dread game. Another girl, who was extremely attracted to me despite having a boyfriend, had approached her asking about me. Again, the context to this would be too long. But the bottom-line is, another girl, who was objectively hotter than my ex-gf, asked her about me. When my ex knew that a HB9 was demonstrating interest in me, it's as if a switch flipped inside her head. The same switch that I tried to turn on with my words.

My words had paled in comparison to a visual image of a better looking woman getting with me that was presented right in front of my ex. Communication lost to dread.

This set her off big time. The same day she texted me, with an extremely apologetic tone, asking to meet up and talk whenever was convenient for me. And I did. She "didn't like the idea of me going out with other girls the likes of (girl #2 name)". I talked it out over the course of two-weeks, we got back together and I was so glad that she "finally opened up to me". Well, one week later she dumped me again and blocked me everywhere this time.

Lesson learned: Communication is not the key to all of the world's problems. In fact, it can backfire. Understanding this is a vital step in re-wiring our brains to become redpilled. For me, it took two slaps in the face to learn this lesson. I hope that my story either reinforces what you already know, or serves as a warning to those still learning.

My personal conclusion: My personal interpretation of AWALT is that all women, save for those on the LGBT spectrum, want a high-value confident male with traditional masculine traits, be it physical or behavioral. They want you to take the lead, to be direct, to be aggressive. They want value, status, excitement. They want a guy to push their heads down and fuck the shit out of them. However, I think it's good to know that there are emotionally honest women, and impulsive women. Some women will be honest and direct with you, they'll tell you what they want in the relationship, what they want in bed, they'll work with you to make things work. Others are too emotional to be direct. Or they might have too much pride to tell you what they want.

If you're unfortunate enough to find yourself dealing with an emotionalist (which is most of the time nowadays), don't try to talk it out. This doesn't mean drop her, maybe she's the plate with the nicest rack and you still want to tap that. If she acts up, be unconventional. Dread game her, ignore her, downgrade her to just a plate, take some sort of action. If not, straight up drop her.

But don't try to reason. Don't try to negotiate with her. Imagine what would have happened if I rode that dread wave unintentionally caused by girl #2 instead of meeting up at starbucks to talk with my ex. Maybe I would have had more play time with her amazing tits, but since I followed bluepilled advice, I repulsed her despite being "fair and rational".

There is a reason why war exists, it's because diplomacy won't always work, regardless of what idealists and feminists say.