What do you think of when you hear the phrase
Bring Your A Game
Jenna Haze's ass? Yep. Or, how about maybe some other A words…
It's just a coincidence that those words in the title begin with the letter A, but they have something more interesting in common: They have very similar physiological signs. Specifically, the physiological signs of attraction and agitation are indistinguishable.
Increased blood pressure, elevated heart rate, muscular tension, and the attendant effects of light-headedness, perhaps increased perspiration, and that pit-of-the-stomach feeling. These same physiological signs can appear in completely different contexts, and that is what differentiates them in the felt experience of the person. The physical feeling gets labeled as an emotion: fear, anxiety, or attraction, depending on the situation.
Given that these disparate states of mind are accompanied by the same physical states of being, you would expect attraction to do funny things to people, especially women. When a woman is attracted to a man, I mean truly attracted and turned on, she often doesn't know why. Consider again the physiological signs: basically she is uncomfortable; not an entirely pleasant feeling.
It's a different thing for men, though.
We all know about sexual dimorphism, but this is another important, less well-known, physical difference between men and women. As men, we are accustomed to this: this feeling is with us every day, to a certain extent. That's one reason we are ready for action at all times (if you are a man and you aren't, I'm not even talking about you).
Men are also, quite frankly, more in tune with their bodies than women are, generally speaking. That's why these physiological signs are not typically experienced as unpleasant for men. It's normal.
But for women, again, it's not normal, it's uncomfortable, it's unpleasant to have that physical sensation, not know what it is, and not know how to quell it.
It's this unpleasant feeling that spurs action. She wants to rid herself of this agitation, one way or another. Hopefully, it's by getting fucked hard, and not just punching you in the arm and calling you an asshole.
A. THIS EXPLAINS SOME KEY CONCEPTS.
I hate the PUA lingo, but dread is real, and it's real effective. Why? Is it because she KNOWS you have options? LOL. Women don't think, they feel. (That's why dread isn't very effective by you TELLING her about your options.) She SEES that you have options, and that goes right to her stomach.
Then she has that good anxiety, all those unpleasant physiological signs. The physical feeling needs to be turned into an emotion -- that's how the human body works. So you get her in a situation where you allow her brain to label that feeling: arousal. Otherwise, it's just jealousy, and that's a real drag to deal with.
Why does this work so wonderfully, and why does Push work better than Pull? Because it goes right to the center of her self-image. When you are pushing her away you are instilling that good anxiety again.
You should not think of this as a technique or a tactic. That's fake. Push/Pull should be a lifestyle. I am doing about 90% push and having most excellent results. Why? Because I am making her uncomfortable and agitated, and she needs to get out of that state by getting fucked.
What? I thought women needed to be comfortable before they were ready for sex! LOLOLOL. No they do not. They need to be agitated.
III. Betafication of Long-Term Partners.
Women need a good provider for their offspring. And so they shit-test their partner until the former alpha is a beta provider who has no other options? If you think that's a good evolutionary explanation then you are guilty of backwards thinking.
When women are sexually attracted to a man, they experience those aforementioned physiological signs, which are uncomfortable. They seek to alleviate their discomfort. That's what biological creatures do. It's a basic drive.
In evolutionary terms, the women who have done that, via the basic stress-reduction drive, are the ones who have succeeded at procuring the provider. And then they are the ones who have passed on their genes.
So now in modern times, in long-term relationships, women can fulfill this ancient drive not by having sex every day, which is exhausting, but more easily for the fundamentally lazy and selfish woman, by encouraging the man himself to become less sexy and appealing.
IV. Women Stay with Their Abusers.
This is self-explanatory at this point; I just had to throw it in as a gratuitous dog turd for the BP crowd to step in.
Bad transition for the autists coming up from this point to the next section.
B. WHAT THIS MEANS TO YOU: PRACTICAL APPLICATIONS.
I. Don't Be Afraid to Have a Woman Be Mad at You.
I made a recent post about the importance of not being pussy-whipped ("Memorial Day Weekend Cuck-Out"). This was the central message of that post.
So many men are wrongly terrified of the consequences of having a woman be mad at them. So sad. And so ironic, because there are no consequences, and if you do it right, there are only benefits.
Having her be agitated because she's mad at you may mean that she fucks right off out of your life. Counts as a win in my book. Or if she wants to stick around, see next point.
II. More Sex with Less Effort in a LTR; plus, An Extreme Example.
(I would have a hard time advocating this, but I will because Blue Pill Trigger Warning content I want to truly EARN the charge of Manipulation! Don't let me down you Blue Pill Assholes, take a break from making fun of retarded people (e.g., incels and MGTOWs) and ridicule a real man.)
Stop being nice. Stop doing things for her. Don't hold back when you want to tell her she is doing stupid shit. Ignore her when she wants attention. You can go so far as actively be mean and cruel to her. As long as you have initial attraction. Let me repeat: this is for LTRs only, and after you really have her hooked.
This is the extreme example, also from my recent post; analysis follows:
I have actually said the words Fuck off to this woman; I was serious, and it was warranted. Doghouse, right? Wrong. She left me alone for a while (wonderful silence). Then not 8 hours later, without a word, she initiates, we fuck; all positions, including ones she has claimed were uncomfortable or too strenuous for her. After it's over, she says, in a very sweet voice, You shouldn't say "Fuck off" to me. Similar things have happened, many times.
What happened between the time I made that most incorrigible, offensive remark and when we had that great energetic sex? She was agitated and set off, and she was thinking about it. More precisely, she was thinking about me.
It doesn't matter that the thoughts and feelings were negative. Women aren't logical; as my old French-Canadian hockey coach used to say, Tank gawd fer det.
III. Planning Activities (other than sex) with a Woman.
Hard to believe, but dudes are still taking women to movies or dinner as a first date; I've seen this recently on this very sub. SMH. I don't even need to explain how stupid that is.
Get physical: mountain biking, rock climbing, hiking, surfing. Haunted house. Mosh pit. Vandalism, if that's your thing. Explosives. Breaking and entering, whatever. Not only is this shit FUN, but it actually increases feelings of attraction.
There are some very interesting psychological studies that support my original point. The researchers got people agitated and then approached by an attractive confederate (for those who don't know, that's someone in on the research but unknown to the person in the experiment). Those in the experimental group rated the confederate as more attractive than the control group of unagitated persons did.
(If you want to read more, you can look these up. Schachter & Singer gave subjects a shot of epinephrine, then exposed them to either a happy or an angry confederate: the subjects mirrored the emotion; they developed the two-factor theory of emotions to explain the subsequent emotional reactions. Berscheid & Walster's experiment had subjects exercise vigorously before being approached; they called the phenomenon the misattribution of arousal. Dutton & Aron had subjects cross a scary suspension bridge over a 230-foot chasm, and the control group crossed a sturdy cedar bridge over a small gurgling stream; in this case fear resulted in higher attraction toward the confederate.)
Take a woman who may be somewhat attracted to you on a scary adventure; she will become MORE attracted to you.
Because … science.
(I have to acknowledge /u/vandaalen for initially suggesting I write this up; that was 7 months ago -- forgive me, I haven't been derelict in my duties, I was just fucking busy. It took /u/seattleron and a few others to get my ass in gear. Any person can make a difference. If someone makes a point you want to see more of, just ask them. THAT'S how you improve the sub, not by whining and complaining. Cheers.)