Not sure to what degree the average RP man experiences jealousy, but I think it's safe to say the people who are in the midst of transformation are overcoming a lot of negative emotions. There are many of us out here so I'm hoping others will gain from any advice given below, too.

I'm currently struggling with managing jealousy on both ends.

This seems to become more pronounced when I recently started spinning plates in earnest. I've never spun plates before.. I didn't stop dating other women when I met someone and now am in a position where I'm dating a few women regularly. I know this isn't advisable, but I'm not purely into casual sex and so I have learned how to quickly develop a strong emotional bond with people.

This inevitably first brings up jealousy in her mind. the first question is: how do you manage this kind of jealousy? Do you simply brush it off and give it no attention? Do you keep away from people showing jealousy early on? Do you refrain from emotional connection with your plates?

The second kind which I'm struggling with is a kind of jealousy about who they are seeing. I've no doubt this also has roots in insecurity - hypergamy, after all, is never satiated. That has given me more positive attitudes about how I have to define my own value if I am to ever be secure in myself.

In this effort, the second question is: has anybody else gone through this phase of overcoming jealousy exacerbated by (or not) initial plate spinning? -- if so, how? Did it just go away with experience or was it something you had to consciously watch yourself? Is it something you feel, even if very subtly, even now?

Would appreciate some insight on the above. Thanks!