We live in a confusing world. So many different opinions, so many different views and voices being offered to you. Therefore most people lose their sense of certainty. They become skeptics, they lose trust in their discernment, and their social and therefore sexual life suffers.

So not just you but everyone else feels this uncertainty. This chaos, this feeling of being lost deep in the woods with no clear way out. So I'm going to share with you four things which will give you certainty and then make people, (including women) want to follow you. An alpha male is just a leader. No more and no less. He who is most certain of himself (confidence), his situation (awareness), his goals (purpose) and his plan to achieve those goals (plan) is the alpha male. Its very simple, but the challenge lies in actually doing it.

Anxiety is an uncertain goal. Anxiety and certainty are on opposite ends of the spectrum. If you feel anxious either "chronically" or time to time, don't let pharma convince you it is some chemical imbalance in your brain that you cannot solve internally. Anxiety is simply understanding that there is a problem that needs to be solved but you dont know exactly what it is or how to solve it. Anxiety is the number one signal of low status. This is because it shows lack of certainty, in 1 yourself, 2 your situation, 3 your goals and 4 your plan. So lets knock these out one by one and show you exactly how to improve certainty in these areas.

  1. Yourself. To begin a life of confidence or certainty in yourself you have to come to accept the truth that each man has a wide array of potential. Man can become Leonardo Da Vinci, or a bum. He can become Theodore Roosevelt or just another weak beta. And inside of EVERY man is the potential for both. No one is cut from a different cloth. Yes some men have better starting points but this can cripple them later on in the journey as well and fuck with their confidence because they did not earn their abilities, they were simply born with it. The enemy of the great is the good. Everyone can come to this realization differently, but for me, understanding what meditation and spirituality can do for you solidified it for me. I understand that with advanced meditation practice (which anyone can achieve) any human brain can reach a fully purified and empowered state. And the power of any brain which is fully purified and empowered is staggering. I will leave it at that but if you are curious, or open minded, look up siddhis. The means of achieving a better mind is the second part of this path to a confidence life. Advancement in meditation (and therefore as a man) is not technique based for me. The technique comes second. Certainly you utilize techniques but it comes about through an understanding of your situation; what does it mean to have a mind? Under what conditions does the mind improve? Under what conditions does the mind deteriorate? How do you bring about these conditions? What does it mean to have a will? Under what conditions does the will improve or deteriorate? What is the relationship between mind and will? How do they function? How do they harmonize or work against each other? These questions I will attempt to provide a brief explanation of but a true understanding will only come from extended trial and error in your daily life and meditation. This is how you gain understanding of what makes up "you" and every other human being, and also its how you gain practical skill in using yourself and others (self mastery, leadership). The will works via a clear goal, belief and firm commitment. Clear goal is the target for the arrow, the vision to see that target, belief is the strength of the bow to get it there, and commitment is holding it steady no matter what happens to distract you. The mind or awareness works via letting go. It is the opposite or counterpart to the will. Look up Wu Wei or actionless action. You can still control the mind but it is not the type of control that you have applied to anything else in your life. It is a "control-less control" it comes from letting go or restraining the need to control, which you can still "control" your letting go so to speak, but it is not a positive sort of control. Basically the mind in its natural state works perfect, it does not need anything extra from you to run itself, but since your and everyone elses mind is to a greater and lesser extent not in its natural state you have to use control to the exact extent and in the exact opposite direction of the impurities that you have in your mind. So control is just a means to an end for your mind or awareness. As soon as the impurity has been removed and as it is being removed, control should diminish. Understand this through practicing meditation. But these two things are how you have confidence in yourself. Understand that the basic components of each human are the exact same, they are in different "shape". Some start stronger, some start weaker, etc. etc. No one is cut from a different cloth. There are no limitations to human advancement, and the formula is simple. Purify awareness, build will and then harmonize the two. You are a microcosm for everything in your universe. If you take care of yourself, the other three will be taken care of.

  2. Your situation. Understanding what your situation is. Understanding the mechanics of your situation. What things are at work in this situation. What things are universally at work in all situations. What past situations that youve overcome does this resemble and how so? What past situations that youve failed to overcome does this resemble and what were you unwilling to do at the time that wouldve let you succeed? Answer these questions and more and youll be tuning your awareness into the situation, giving you more understanding of it and therefore certainty in the face of it. What I love more than anything is a "problem" arising that I've already solved 100 times. Other people will look at it and want to run away but I will just sort of laugh as I recognize its just that same little problem I've had before and I know exactly what to do to fix it.

  3. Goals. I don't need to tell anyone here the importance of goals. But heres a different way of looking at them. Goals are simply freedom from your problems, or displays of your strength (lack of problems). If youre poor, financial freedom is your goal because being poor is your problem. If your goal is to bench press 315, its because you want to be the quality of man who can do that feat, and perhaps you want the world to know. Get a clear goal, get a plan, get certain of your plan or modify it until you are, and then commit 100%.

  4. The plan. The plan is tailored to all the above things. It is tailored to suit your current internal state, your situation, and obviously your goal. When the plan takes all these into account and still achieves the desired goal, then it is a good plan. Planning is really taking inventory of the situation and then finding the path through that situation and executing it. Execution is 100% commitment and confidence (belief).

These four are the most basic and universal skills a man can develop. You can get very good at doing all four of them. As you continue to use them and succeed in doing so, you will become more comfortable in the general principles at play, in each seemingly different scenario you will begin to see universal truths that you have already used to your own success. As you do this you gain much more certainty in each current situation before you, but also more certainty in your ability to overcome future situations that will arise because you realize it breaks down to these basic components. This is problem solving. This is leadership. This is understanding oneself, others, the world, and how to flourish in this world instead of fail. A couple weeks of this and you will be steadily leading. The reason why breaking it down like this in the most basic, fundamental, philosophical way is better than other ways is because it is literally the most foundational level approach you can have, and therefore its the strongest and most likely to succeed. You can always come back to these principles. I've been using them for years and they have never failed me. The more I use them, the more I grow and once you solve a problem using these principles, you will always know how to solve it in the future because you took the time to break it down instead of just wildly swinging through it hoping something you did fixed it.

Being an Alpha is being a leader. You become a leader because people want to follow you. People want to follow those who are more certain than themselves. Have certainty through breaking down the components of yourself, and understanding the principles that improve or worsen those components. Then apply and continue learning and breaking down.

Hope this helps you get started on an Alpha life.

SWTDO