There’s more pickup content available now then anyone could ever need. Unfortunately, a lot of that content is garbage. In fact, even some of the most popular Youtube channels and writers on the subject don’t have any clue what they’re talking about. (check out pickup decoded for an example of this)
I’ve been actively practicing pickup for five years now. I’ve read all the books, watched all the videos, and bought all the products. When thinking about what content I came across that really made an impact, there’s a few things that stand out. I want to share with you those nuggets of gold buried beneath the mountain of bullshit so that you can accelerate your results.
Books
Models by Mark Manson
https://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Women-Through-Honesty-ebook/dp/B005EOTH24/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1505088314&sr=8-1&keywords=models+mark+manson
Probably the most talked about seduction book on Reddit, and for good reason. This book isn’t about techniques to trick a girl into sleeping with you, it’s about becoming a man of value who women will want to sleep with. I disagree with a few the points in the book, but for the most part it’s a lot of very solid mindset advice. After reading this book you will think differently about women and sexuality, in a way that will open a lot of doors for you (the sections about vulnerability and women’s desire to be desired are particularly interesting). Highly recommended.
The Trial: transform your dating life in eight weeks by Avery Hayden https://www.amazon.com/Trial-Transform-Dating-Eight-Weeks-ebook/dp/B06XV14VDN/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1505088349&sr=1-1&keywords=avery+hayden
This is a shorter book, what I particularly like about it, is that it’s 100% action based. It teaches concepts about attraction, mindsets, etc. But this book is like a p90x for dating more than anything. It’s a step-by-step process you can follow to get your dating life handled.
What stands out is that the challenges are well thought out, and the book teaches you how to learn from your ‘pickup sessions’ effectively. In fact, it gives examples of a student going through the process, and it’s kind of like you’re going through the challenges with them. Very cool idea, and I recommend this book because it’s very important to have structure around this, otherwise it’s very easy to go months or even years without making real progress (as I’ve seen happen to many, many guys).
The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene https://www.amazon.com/Art-Seduction-Robert-Greene-ebook/dp/B0032BW5DY/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1505088377&sr=1-1&keywords=the+art+of+seduction
This book is incredibly well written, and it is fascinating. It’s not so much about how to sleep with someone, as it is a book about how to make people fall in love. It uses powerful historical examples to illustrate how to really get people to invest in you.
I’ve read this book at least 6 times, and I have to say of all the books I’ve read this is the one book that’s challenged my assumptions about how people tick more than any other.
The Videos
Frankly, a lot of the pickup channels on YouTube are cringey, there’s only a few channels that are really worth diving into.
However, there are a few videos that are not only mind blowing, but capable of making a real difference in how you approach game.
The first one is:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WIqbVyFCuDw
This video is by the infamous Julien Blanc, and although it’s relatively short, it makes a very important point. Essentially, Julien explains that pickup is largely a self-fulfilling prophecy: if you believe you are attractive, women will feel that off you, and there’s a much higher chance they will be attracted to you. If you believe you’re unattractive, girls will feel that off of you, and run for the hills.
This video gives you a very practical strategy for intentionally mindfucking yourself into believe you are more attractive, so that- by extension- girls find you more attractive.
Tyler’s six steps to a consistently killer night:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuzOWmqGevw
This video lays out a very specific process you can follow when you go out so that you are not only very likely to have success with women, but also to have a great time in the process.
The video basically teaches you how to get in what psychologists call a flow state, and having used these steps for years now, I can say with confidence that there is real merit to these steps.
FIND WINGS
It’s hypothetically possible to learn pickup on your own, but it’s not something I’ve ever seen happen. Having wings is really helpful, especially when you’re new. Even if you’ve never approached a girl, when you start hanging out with guys who do approach girls, you’ll start to feel pressured to do so because the people around you are doing it: peer pressure at it’s finest. Surrounding yourself with people with similar goals and motivations is extremely powerful, and there’s really no excuse to not have some wings you know to go out with. With the internet it’s not hard to find wings, there’s an ‘inner circle’ group for every major city that you can join. Then you message people on the group or post to the page to start going out with people. Some of them will be weirdos, some will suck, but others will be genuinely cool dudes who are really trying to get this area of their life handled. TO find these groups on facebook, just look up: RSD Inner circle – “Your city”. Personally, I tried to learn this on my own, but I failed pretty hard until I met some wings.
Those are, in my opinion, some of the best resources for learning game, check them out, let me know what you think. (And if there’s something you think that needs to be on the list that I’ve omitted feel free to suggest it)
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