Get MAD You Sons of Bitches, Get MAD

DSetupDTitleDMenu · 2017-10-02T10:50:41+00:00

I remember watching one of those dumbshit teen movies when I was a kid in my little pink house with cracked walls in forty-degree heat (in celsius, around 105 in fahrenheit) smackbang in the middle of rural Australia. Here those (fake) kids were, complaining that their lives were terrible in their air-conditioned, modern houses and their abundance of friends and girlfriends, and here I was, getting shitty signal and panicking about how I'll never have any friends and what happens if there's no tap water again because the ancient plumbing system fucked out for the umpteenth time this summer. But there was nothing I could do about it. And nothing my poor old mum could do about it, either. I complained and complained to my mum about our shitty life while those kids got to enjoy their youth, and her response was, well, that I couldn't do anything about it. She was right, but way to instill learned helplessness at such a young age. I wasn't all mopey about it, just angry. I couldn't do anything but just project my anger aimlessly, swinging sticks at magpies as they swooped down to claw at my scalp.

Same thing happened when my dad died. Not that he was ever available because all he'd do is lock himself in the study. Complained and complained to my poor old mum that all these kids got to have fathers while mine never said a word to me, even before he offed himself. Geez, it's a wonder why my mum hasn't offed herself yet. We don't get along, sure, but I'm still extra nice to her because the poor old lady's had just about the worst life imaginable, and yet she's still around, trudging through the garden, looking for something to do with the life she's given. She's as mopey as they come, but she's still standing. This, for me, was when my way of dealing with my crap life was through being a mopey dopehead instead of an angry little shit who was keen to fix things. I just kinda accepted that life wasn't really meant to be enjoyed by people like me. This was around the time I stopped giving a shit about school and let my grades fall, not that they were ever any good. I went from a C student straight to a D student in no time flat.

Same thing happened when my brother went to a great school and found himself in a great network of people. He started getting invited to parties, got laid left and right and got to try all sorts of drugs out, while I was a kissless virgin still kept getting straddled with apathetic losers who couldn't even find weed. I was angry, sure, but honestly, good for my little brother. I read his reddit posts and found out that he was close to suicide before he found his group of friends. Once again, I was mopey all the damn time, but I became determined to fix things. And then I got angry again all of a sudden, but I knew that anger was going to help me since I actually had the power to help myself this time.

In the past two years through my newfound anger, I gained much-needed weight, fixed my balding head with meds, tried to join social circles of people my age through jobs (and failed, but I'm working on it), got my first girlfriend and first no-strings-attached fuckbuddy and became competent at math, all through perseverance from myself and nothing else. Taking the red pill halfway through helped speed things up to get me where I am today.

Now I know for sure that I can't just sit around expect things to fall in my lap. I have to get out there and grab them all for myself.

Next year, I'll be ready to take on university. Bring it on.

maplemaximus · 2017-10-02T01:27:21+00:00

Can't agree more. I've finally been motivated to workout 5-6 days a week, and it's mostly based around my anger of my constant failures to lose weight and stay dedicated in the past.

Anger clouds your thoughts. Any thoughts of doubt you might have before benching disappears when the testosterone truly pumps in you. It's a high of strength that I consider a genetic gift, and you shouldn't waste it.

LeBroney · 2017-10-02T01:44:59+00:00

I personally tend to burn out and feel depressed/lethargic if I’m relying on anger after a while. Is there a proper balance of gratitude and anger to keep my mind calm enough to be productive? Or am I just being a pussy and need to push harder with the anger?

swishman · 2017-10-02T07:57:37+00:00

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shutupitsunique · 2017-10-02T13:55:11+00:00

I keep getting conflicting advice on this sub a lot. People say being stoic and not emotionally invested in anything is a good thing, but this sounds good too. Is it better to be calm or angry? Is it sittuational? If so, when is one viable, when is the other?

[deleted] · 2017-10-02T04:52:15+00:00

I gotta agree, after a lifetime of anger issues that it's only good when you focus it and direct it. Being aware and letting it out as it happens in a productive manner can lead to great achievements and crucial changes in life.

I spent most of my life aimlessly dealing with being mad and it left me spinning my wheels getting nowhere. I ended up with stress migraines from bottling up so much anger. Becoming self aware after ending a dysfunctional LTR and finding TRP has helped to guide me and know when to let my anger known and how to use it.

Don't sweat the small shit, but don't hold it in. Understand why you're angry and improve.

AlexIsWhack · 2017-10-02T06:56:43+00:00

This literally nails my experience today on the head. Long story short, I'm raging pissed at work all day. Come home. Still pissed. Look at my dump of a bedroom and angrily clean it in a tazmanian devil tornado of pure hatred so I could get a better head space going. Afterward I'm wondering what all just happened. Then I saw this post. The most opportunistically inspiring thing I could have read anywhere. My hats off to you sir!

EDIT: A word

HAZTE_ · 2017-10-02T11:41:25+00:00

Don't rely only on Anger. You have got to feel and understand 100% of your emotions. Every emotions you have is useful. See and take them for what they are. Only when you are in touch with the whole if yourself you can unlock your whole potential. Trying to rely on only one side will burn you out one way or another.

S555123 · 2017-10-02T12:43:38+00:00

For the last 5 years I've been trying that power of positive emotions, only to get nowhere and end up with depression and some other shit. Everything changed the day I felt like a complete failure, and realized the only way out was to get mad and angry at my situation and start taking actions instead of trying to feel positive about everything.

Now I'm more productive than ever.

The_Men_in_Boxes · 2017-10-02T05:58:19+00:00

I think the goat , Kobe Bryant , stated the same exact things you just mentioned . Let hate and anger fuel your success .

do_it_or_leave · 2017-10-02T09:39:10+00:00

I get exactly your message, that is my modus operandi.

There is nothing better to propel a workout than a huge dose of hate. Oh If I could train with that intensity under normal circumstances... I'd work out only four times a week because I wouldn't recover.

But I noticed three things from being just like you described:

I am giving it all or nothing, there is no 'healthy' balance.

I am daily on the verge of exploding on someone; I could fuck my life pretty easily if I get provoked.

Good times makes me lazy. I don't respond well to good feedback.

I am still trying to find a balance for my life, but let's see where it goes.

I have a friend who really needs to read this post, do you mind if I translate it? I am asking but I will do it anyway, thanks.

[deleted] · 2017-10-02T11:17:45+00:00

Get jealous. Get resentful. Get mad. Then get to work.

Most people only get 3/4 of the way there, which is why people think that only bad can come from jealousy and anger.

Finessence · 2017-10-02T15:36:37+00:00

A bitch invited me over to help her with homework in her bed with her last week and then kicked me out when I finished the shit she had to do. I’ve been pissed off at myself for letting her use me and make me feel like a fucking pussy. I’ve started lifting three days a week and running five miles three days a week. Anger definitely works.

BlackVale · 2017-10-02T17:19:43+00:00

Amen 100%. I recently got fired because of some bullshit. My first reaction was to feel shitty. Then I started to think about what exactly happened. Then I realized that I was fucked a companies will alway fuck you unless you are working for yourself or valuable enough for them to care. I was steaming red. Then I got on the phone and started contacting people in my network and got a job that paid to dollars more the week after(still not where I want to be though).

Austonmatthews345 · 2017-10-02T04:58:48+00:00

I do train hardcore already, I have a body many men would dream of, but I'm not a pro bodybuilder. Just a guy who's trained for over 10 years consistently and ran 3 to 4 cycles when I was young and stupid and now I'm doing it the natural way at 26 and it feels so much more rewarding and my energy is through the roof.

The thing that pisses me off is my low social value. I'm a loser that lives on disability for mental illness and even though I've got the body of a Greek god, I'm still pissed off that I'm 26 and living with my parents. I feel like my circumstances and attitude literally repel people. I have no motivation to get a job because I'm not interested in being a wage slave or drone. The prices people get payed to work a minimum wage are criminal, it makes me sick that my disability cheque is about the same as someone working 80 hours a month. If I were to work I'd literally be getting paid $3 A hour because it just subtracts from my disability cheque. Call me an entitled prick, spoiled child or whatever, but unless I was on the verge of living on the streets desperate, why would I work for $3 A hour? I did that for 3 years while on disability already. Working my ass off just to be treated like dirt made me often depressed while at work, and it was a vicious cycle.

I'm at the opposite end of the spectrum, I'm fit and extremely healthy for a paranoid Schizophrenic, but I don't got much going on career wise. A lot of guys here have a decent career going in engineering or programming or whatever and their problem is they are overweight or underweight. I'd honestly trade all my muscle mass for some brain power, then I'd spend another year whipping that body into shape and trade it in for some more brain power.

I've always been one of those guys that values knowledge more than strength, and I've worked my butt off to become somewhat knowledgeable about fitness and health but I know where I come from and I'll always just be a meathead and it pisses me off.

I'd trade anything to be extremely intelligent to be honest. I'd even sell my soul. It pisses me off that I'm a moronic idiot, no matter how hard I try to be smart.

The_Men_in_Boxes · Mon Oct 2 13:16:39 2017 UTC

Anger is a toxic emotion. Going through life angry is a life wasted. Get excited people. Don't get angry!

Kingslayer9669 · 2017-10-02T05:49:01+00:00

I think it's just easier to channel negative e-motions into productivity. You can do the same with positive emotions. It's like when I have a bad day at work I hit the heavy bag and its great catharsis.

[deleted] · 2017-10-02T05:58:19+00:00

I think the goat , Kobe Bryant , stated the same exact things you just mentioned . Let hate and anger fuel your success .

Mithra9009 · 2017-10-02T06:49:16+00:00

What about sincere feelings of gratitude for the opportunity to attain success, despite the past failures? What about the sense of serenity that comes with knowing that happiness is actually (albeit uncomfortably) attainable?

massivewang · 2017-10-02T13:11:03+00:00

I was in the "anger phase" of TRP my first two years after swallowing the Pill. I was angry that I was so foolish/naive, at the wasted time, that I was such a giant pussy, etc. I made a "fuck you/the world" spotify playlist and would let the anger fuel my lifts. It was a challenging time but it was good for me, I needed to let myself be angry/feel anger after having been such a "nice guy" for so long (who thought being angry was never an acceptable response).

Anyway five years post TRP and the anger phase is long gone. I've more or less pulled a 180 and am now kicking butt and am happy with life/who I've become/what I've overcome.

thewrecker8 · 2017-10-02T14:03:32+00:00

This is the reason bad break ups create more lifters than anything else. A girl fucks you up and you get pissed and hit the gym in beast mode. Controlled anger can be used as great motivator. But just blind anger can be dangerous. Sane applies to a fight or just training in something like MMA. Lose your cool and get wild you're not controlling your anger and just rushing in blindly. Use the anger and be smart with it. Start swinging wildly and sloppy you're gonna get caught easily by someone who has any kind of skill.

Bergetson · 2017-10-02T14:25:08+00:00

I love this. I had a girl cheat on me and I found out because my friend found her on Tinder. So anytime I'm feeling unmotivated I look at that picture and get mad. It pushes me to new heights because I never want that shit to happen to me again. And I want her to regret throwing things away.

Neither of those things may come true but it helps push me to think that way.

thatguywhatshisface · 2017-10-02T16:05:38+00:00

People talk about anger and using it to your benefit but FUCK.. I can't seem to put on a fake smile around all of these fake men in my work life. It isn't their behavior alone that upsets me (it pisses me off but that's not the point), it's the fact that they are so fake towards me.

I just want to smash!

How do you progress when all you want to do is call people out on their shit!?

Anger clouds your judgement but I'm pretty damn sure that BULLSHIT does the same thing if not worse.

Resangel · 2017-10-03T08:25:32+00:00

Ahh Stoicism.. hey, wait a minute.....

HanzoMainKappa · 2017-10-02T13:23:06+00:00

Having vitality and vigor is far superior. Anger only poisons the brain in the long run.

[deleted] · 2017-10-02T14:53:01+00:00

There are two things a man should never be angry at: what he can change, and what he cannot.

Rollo_Mayhem3 · 2017-10-02T15:52:11+00:00

Anger has been redefined as something "bad." The problem is the link between anger and violence. Man gets angry and beats his wife or his kids. Its this type of wanton anger and violence that is unacceptable. Besides that anger is just another emotion that serves a vital function to the individual. So definitely get angry and do something about your life but don't hurt innocent people in the process. I thinks that the message.

Salted_Pretzel · 2017-10-02T16:04:11+00:00

I needed to read this. Got bitch slapped by the truth yesterday. I cried last night and I want to use all of this frustration to prove this bitches wrong.

cjandstuff · 2017-10-02T16:30:59+00:00

I've had a shitty week. Hell, past few months to be honest. I was thinking about this very idea at the gym today, before seeing it on Reddit.
It was one of the best workouts I've had in a while. Learn to focus your anger. Yes it can cloud your judgement, but it can provide the push you need as well. There is indeed a balance.

psychodynamic1 · 2017-10-02T16:41:26+00:00

Anger is a good topic for a post although there are pieces here which aren't on target. Anger is only the beginning of movement toward action. Freud wrote that depression is anger turned inward. Well, for non-biologically based depressions, there is a basis for this. However, anger is all about me. My pain. My struggle. My suffering. And it would be dangerous to put that anger into ourselves, shrug our shoulders, and mope into a life of complacency. No, we need to understand our anger and use it effectively to wake up. See our situations and perhaps our lives for what they are and use the anger to change the situation. But don't stay angry, because it can become toxic. Use it to wake up and motivate.

Anger is not just a masculine emotion. Men and women (and transfolk) have anger as well. It's an appropriate emotion that men deserve to feel just as much as women, although many are afraid of male anger because we are more powerful when we are violent. Well, screw that. We have a right to be angry, although staying angry isn't useful. So stop turning the anger inward and use it to wake up to go to do the things that will make you a better person.

angryomlette · 2017-10-03T09:02:41+00:00

Anger is a good emotion, only if you can channel it to improve yourself. But anger without channeling it, can be pretty dangerous. I find the channeling anger much better than suppressing it or forgetting it. Drives you in a way.

I used to do it during my High school. It was never a good idea for me, as it gave me splitting headaches later on. Plus it would make me moody.

Merwebb · 2017-10-04T00:18:23+00:00

I used the anger to get out of the hole i was in. Anger led me to try my soggy kneestic ideas and womyn hating observations looking to disprove them.

Arabian_Wolf · 2017-10-07T08:12:16+00:00

Getting angry and mad more than 4 months ago when my much older brother lashed out at me and threatened me in front of my father, who (my father) processed to speak and laugh with my brother like nothing happened (along with giving him a house and ease his marriage process) was the switch for me to accelerate my self-improvement, a month after that I started lifting and I accelerated my speed in reading quality books, to this moment I still think about the unfairness of the situation that happened, as of right now I’m not speaking to either since that day, but at the same time, thankful for the anger it gave me to fuel it and channel it to self-improve and sometimes I’m afraid to become happy and content that I stop self-improving anymore, added to all that, my mom has cancer, she just finished chemotherapy and undergoing radiation therapy atm.

bikermonk · 2017-10-14T06:16:08+00:00

I've been planning to go for a MBA degree for over a decade now, and now I see little chickenheads advancing in their career while I stay at the same spot.

I feel no anger though, I feel disappointed at best.

How does one "create" anger ?

GreenPiller · 2017-10-02T13:04:33+00:00

I tried and was always filled with negativity. I'm not Vegeta bro...

ShadowverseRick · 2017-10-02T04:37:48+00:00

Lifting and pussy grabbing isn't gonna make life less shitty. That's like saying if someone gave you 20 dollars suddenly life is turning around. No...something good happened at that juncture. That's literally it.

Life won't get objectively better until people stop choosing to be ignorant, moderators are dead or in jail, or you're living out your dream job.

segagaga · 2017-10-02T09:08:15+00:00

I harbour my anger. I nurture it and watch it grow into rage. It is the engine of my existence. It is the bright star that fuels my life, and gives life to other things.

Edit: lol @ downvotes from the betas. Bring them on. Your votes do not achieve anything.

SocietalEngineering · 2017-10-02T21:16:00+00:00

I can't believe this is getting upvoted... TRP has always been, for me, directly aligned with stoicism. What you are suggesting is the exact opposite of the "don't give a fuck" attitude that is always preached and respected around here.

Emotion is the enemy. When you are controlled by emotion, you are not in control. And then you lose.

If you need any proof, take a look at all the incels and MGTOWS that wander on through the Mano-sphere. They have enough anger in them to last 10 lifetimes.

Look at what good it does them.

room_303 · 2017-10-02T15:02:42+00:00

Get mad, and when that doesn't work, get madder.

Bang you're head on the wall, then bang it harder.

Title	Get MAD You Sons of Bitches, Get MAD
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