The five stages of grief/ the five stages of red pill have definitely been expanded on this sub by previous writers, but I wanted to provide my take on this in a more detailed format in a more colorful language having not been on this sub for more than half a year. I decided to take TRP knowledge and apply it on my own terms without the influence of TRP and take what I have learned towards application. My reflections and the below passage are what I believe to be the five stages a man goes through in order to become a "red pilled man."

Denial (There’s no denying we’ve all been there)

In psychology, we usually refer to the 5 stages of grief when talking about dealing with loss. In this journey of actualization, you lose a romanticized world view that we commonly refer to as being “blue pilled.” The first thing that happens in these five stages is denial. Maybe you dipped your toe in TRP by reading some of the articles and opinions on this sub and were immediately turned off to how all of the anger phase newbies were spouting hate speech about women. Maybe you were overwhelmed by what you were reading and noticing about life so you closed the book on TRP. Your denial of the truth allows you to go back to blue pilled life for some time, but something may change within you. You realize you lost that part of yourself. Maybe your blue pilled worldview chipped away slowly as you start to realize the truth or maybe experienced a shocking “aha!” moment all at once, and you can’t un-see it anymore. If you don’t get scared and fully ingratiate yourself back into BP culture, you are destined to along with many others to arrive at the same feeling…

Anger: The infamous ”Anger Phase” is not as simple as you think.

When you came to this sub, you may have been going through a rough patch in your life, made primarily by your own choices and your misunderstandings of how human nature works in the context of today’s society. Most people come here because of a woman or because of their continued failure with women in general; having been the “orbiter” or the “nice guy,” or the one that was constantly “taken advantage of” or the one that was cheated on. Maybe you didn’t even know exactly why you started reading the articles, but something resonated with you at a certain point. Maybe some of you were the ones that left for a while, but realize when you open up TRP again, you already had a couple articles dog eared. As you read more and more of the sidebar and people’s own contributions to this sub, your blue pilled version of reality rips apart at its seams and some of you become frustrated. Some of you become angry, and some of you become absolutely livid. You think the about time, the money, and the dedication you wasted in your pursuit of trying to land your Disney level romance with a girl you fantasized over, you think about the peers you had and how some of them were more toxic to your personal development. You unpack intergender dynamics box by box and start to notice the difference between what you saw with your blue colored lens. Your start to view many things in the context of TRP and you become angry at what you have been missing out on, what you have been tricked into believing, what women can get away with in today’s society, but I think most importantly you become angry at yourself. Herein lies the pivotal moment for guys that embrace TRP or pantomime being “red pilled.” Most people go through the motions, riding on the anger high: lift more, read more TRP articles, practice their game, etc; but the true test is understanding the difference between externalizing your anger and epiphanies vs internalizing them (are you angry at society/women/your peers or do you realize that you are angry at yourself and what you did within the context of your own circumstances?) I believe that this is the true test of TRP (the pivotal moment), which is a perfect way to segue into…

Bargaining & Depression (You either die BP or you live long enough to see yourself become RP)

Some of you will inevitably be stuck in this “temporary truce” with yourself where your main goal is to just be good enough so that you’ll mold yourself to be desirable in the context of societal norms. Maybe you had the best intentions for yourself at first and made resolutions so that you would chase the best “you” that you could possibly be: so you go through the motions by exercising, practicing your game, and making yourself better until that one woman “changes everything,” (again), and you slowly devolve back into your prior state. Those of you who go this path will write a couple angry rants about women or society a couple of times, but deep down, still be hoping that there is a unicorn out there; and one day you’ll meet her (or cut the pieces off the puzzle piece to force her to fit that blue pilled worldview of yours). She opens up your eyes to that “better than drugs” feeling of love and affection and once again you view life through blue colored or maybe a slight purple colored lens; but inevitably, most of you will learn the harsh truth once more. Some of you will experience extreme agony or depression with realizing red pilled truths. You will eventually trade in the new worldview to go back to being what you’ve always been used to; a cog in an ever failing but ever churning machine. You’ll be chewed up and spit out only to come back to repeat the process in TRP or some other path, or you’ll be one of the lucky few that blissfully remains ignorant and makes that kind of life work until your passing. This phase is the most important phase because it is what weeds out the weak. It is what makes a person truly “RP” vs those copying RP traits to justify ends (usually it’s to land yourself a steady stream of sex/a romantic partner). For those that truly understand that TRP is a method of tools and a worldview to internalize rather than externalize this anger move on to the final stage of Red Pill:

Acceptance: No longer the sheep, you become the wolf.

You accept that many if not all of the misfortune that you faced was due to your own failures or misgivings. You were the one who decided to orbit the girl in the hopes that she’d defer to you sticking around for her. You were the one who looked away and forgave her for cheating on you, you were the one who chose to continue hanging out with your toxic friends that got you into needless trouble. You were the one who kept putting off improving your own life. You finally understand that your fate is determined by your own decisions and actions. You realize your own empty promises and words ultimately mean nothing without your actions behind them. You finally start to do something not for the sake of bettering yourself to achieve some means to an end (sex); you do it because you want to do it for yourself. You lift because you like how you feel after that workout and how you look better in the mirror every day, you learn how to do new things because of the pragmatic applications (like cooking, working to be the best at your job, survival skills, etc), you have a hobby that makes you genuinely happy devoid of outside influences, and you learn how to lead yourself along with others cause you realize there are those that lead and others who don’t know any better than to follow. You will realize that with personal improvements and a more internalized viewpoint of RP, women, better career opportunities, better income, and better friends come as a byproduct of your successes rather than being the checkboxes to your success. That’s how you truly become Red Pilled; that's how you stay motivated to be the best you can be.

I name this “The Five Dynamic Stages of Red Pill,” because in any of these phases, there is a slippery slope that can lead a man back to accepting or re-embracing aspects of a blue pilled worldview. It’s what’s most comfortable with everyone: Playing a victim, blaming others/circumstances for your own misfortunes, and doing the bare minimum are the easiest ways to coast through life. You can always open your mouth and demand more out of life than what you deserve. So many people do it. It’s what the 3rd/4th wave Feminazis do. It’s what lazy people do. It’s what a good majority of people do on this subreddit will do. It’s what you are prone to doing if you do not have the balls to accept that you failed somewhere and that you are the one that needs to pick yourself up and seize your future.

Acta Non Verba - "Actions; not words"