When you tell your plate(s) or girlfriend(s), that you don't want to see her anymore, she might put forward a facade of effort to hold onto you. I've had some plates go through extreme lengths to convince me to keep them around and I was dumb enough to fall for it a couple of times. The important thing to remember is that these hoes are not trying to get back with you for your sake, they're doing it for their sake. If they really gave a shit about being a good plate/gf/whatever than they would have always been on their best behavior from the very beginning, and it wouldn't be necessary to next them in the first place. Also she would understand that she has been a terrible plate/gf/whatever and chose to let you go for your sake.

If you are thinking about nexting a girl, do it right away. Something to remember is that girls are experts at emotional manipulation - something most guys are not very strong in nor resilient to. She knows exactly what to say to cast doubt in your mind about nexting her. However her words and actions are coldly calculated, her emotions and reactions are carefully articulated, and she is only trying to hold onto you for her own sake. These actions and emotions are not genuine. Her feelings are not out of loyalty or altruism. She is acting for self serving purposes only under the guise of trying to be a better plate/gf/fwb for you.

Women, unlike men, are not held to their word. A woman can say one thing and do another with little consequence. Women are not obligated to tell you the truth, and rarely they will as they are usually overly concerned with their self image, and will often protect their self image and any secrets concerning it at any cost - by any means necessary. Similarly women do not posses loyalty in the same capacity as men.

While this is only a theory, I suspect many women try to hang onto you in situations like this so that they can break up with you on their terms, demonize you during the breakup process (so they exempt themselves from any wrongdoing they have done to you), and possibly most importantly, "A monkey wont let go of one branch until it has a firm grip on another".

Nexting should be done as quick as possible. Here are some tips:

  • Next her away from your house/apartment because she can refuse to leave and cause trouble for you, do it in a way where she can't break any of your shit either. Don't let her come in your place to grab her things.
  • Ignore her bullshit: "I can't move on from you, what will I do without you, You're the only one I want" "You made me do this to you, I had to do X because I loved you too much, This is your fault". This is just emotional terrorism.
  • Only explain whats necessary, simply telling her that she isn't good enough for you is satisfactory. She will try to debate you on your reasons for nexting her and try to cast doubt in your mind.
  • Don't get physical with her, don't hug or kiss her as she might try to lure you back in with that sweet puss.
  • Keep yourself protected: Make sure she can't file false (or true!) allegations against you for whatever reason.
  • (if she is particularly crazy) Block her on social media platforms, and if she knows your friends let them know to ignore contact from her.
  • Do not, under any circumstances, give her a second chance. She doesn't deserve it.
  • Don't listen to your dick or heart, listen to your brain.
  • If you must meet her than keep the encounter as short as possible. 5 minutes is more than enough time to tell her you're over her and that you never want to see her again.

A lot of this can be avoided by not letting your plates get invested, and not entering committed relationships. Cutting contact and blocking her is always easier than a hard next. However there might be situations where a soft next is not possible. If a hard next is required, keep it short and simple.

I would also be wary of a plate/gf who suddenly makes a tremendous effort to keep you around especially if this behavior is not typical of her. People don't change overnight, but women paint their face on differently everyday.

If a girls behavior is so bad that you are thinking of nexting her, Don't keep her around even if the puss is good. You are the prize and there is more and better puss out there.