Sometimes you will find yourself in social situations with women (and pussified men), and they will bring up topics related to relationships or dating. Their goal is not to discuss them objectively and get to know other perspectives. They want either validation or a reaction.
Unlike men who tend to jokingly self-deprecate even in the presence of women, women will never publicly blame their lack of success in dating on their ugliness, professional or financial instability, overweight, lack of humor or otherwise shitty personality. They will often complain that men are the problem, and that women are the victim. This behavior manifests itself in many forms and other women will also immediately jump in to "confirm" each other's conclusions.
Especially if they're interested in you, they will look at you when they attack men to gauge your reaction. It's a classic shit test. Do not fall for it. Remain detached, do not identify with what she refers to as "men".
As a man who swallowed the red pill and who is tired of feminist accusations that men are shit who take advantage of these angels, you might be inclined to step up and voice your opinion. You might even feel personally attacked because they use manipulatory expressions such as "you men are/do this..." and your experience is utterly different from theirs.
You need to resist the urge to even participate in such debates for the following reasons:
Once you take her bait, you have failed her shit test: She'll know it's easy to get a reaction out of you just by criticizing "men" or spouting some feminist bullshit. Remain calm and even laugh at her desperate attempt. Even better, agree with her and jokingly tell her that's why she should seriously consider celibacy, men are nasty bastards!
Women will gang up on you: Seriously, if the group is mostly comprised of women, the other women will step up to assist her if you challenge her illogical conclusions. Even if you ask legitimate questions such as: "How did you arrive at that conclusion?", even if you point out the inconsistencies in her logic or behavior, they'll collectively turn on you with ad hominem remarks that you "men" are assholes who cannot understand women ("how dare you even question her experience as a woman!") and that this proves their theory that men suck. There is no logical discussion with them and no gain for you in it.
Women will use criticism of "men" as an excuse to criticize you personally: When the conversation turns into "men are this...", that's your queue to ignore it and redirect it or leave. If you take her bait, she will escalate to attacking you personally (so why do you do this...etc). It's women's way of negging. Especially if you have so far been standing your ground
Other effective approaches include:
Own up to the supposedly bad behavior in question (even if you don't condone it) and use humor to tell her it's why you could never be anything more than friends with her. This communicates abundance and that you don't need any woman's approval. Basically her opinion is worth nothing. For instance, whenever I hear a woman say "I HATE smokers", I tell her "They can't stand you either...it's not like they're lining up to get with you, chill" even though I don't smoke.
You could also just leave once they bring up this toxic discussions. You don't fucking need them.
Any ideas or experiences you'd like to share?
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