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[FR] how hanging with some beta friends showed me how far I've come on my TRP journey

by | November 12, 2017 | TheRedPill


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This post is for the new guys just starting their TRP journey, as I myself was in your shoes not too long ago. It's a reminder that with self-improvement, digesting the sidebar, and by NGAF you will be able to not only see results, but be able to see how far you have come just by interacting with people.

I had a couple moments over the past few weeks that helped put into perceptive all the things I have been trying to improve upon since taking TRP. This all came after hanging out with some beta friends of mine recently and observing behaviors that I know I exhibited before I found this sub. This is not a bash on my friends, but more a reflection of what practicing what you learn here can change you for the better.

Case 1: Went out with some friends for one of their birthdays and one of my buddies said he was bring his new girl around. He has been hanging out with her for over 4 months and never made a move. I can tell instantly that this girl is using him as an orbiter, but has no real intention of letting him get any. She immediately starts flirting with me and I can tell it is making my friend angry. I flirt back a little, but I draw a line, as I don't think it is worth losing friends over one girl. Gaining an abundance mentality has truly helped me not get hung up on every encounter. After some time we start talking about frolfing and she says she's never gone, but would love to go tomorrow if I was free. I told her I had to work, but my friend was a pro and could show her how to play. I figured if she said yes it would put my buddy in a good spot for some kino and 1 on 1 time. She seemed into it until he opened his month. Immediately he lets her know that it's not a date and tells her he will bring his younger brother along. I was shocked at first. I set the kid up for the easy layup and he missed by a mile. Then it sunk in on the ride home, I was that guy not even a year ago. Too afraid of losing one girl out of fear of when the next one will come along. Jealous when the girl that was not even mine, got attention from someone else. I was at first mad at myself for ever behaving like this, but as I thought about it I was so glad that I had seen the light. No one girl is worth the frustration my buddy is putting himself though. Playing the friend card will only make you an orbiter.

Case 2: Went out to a beer festival with some friends of mine and ended the night at a bar near one of their places. The bar was pretty dead, but our bartender was very attractive. After going up to the bar to grab a round I can tell she is into me and I start to banter with her. The next couple times I grab a beer she starts talking with me and I kept negging her about not remember that my last name starts with a C and not a K. She's loving it, but my friends see it differently. She comes to our table multiple times just to talk and I continue to tease her the entire time. When she leaves the table my friends keep telling me to stop being an asshole to her. They were going to be her white knights. I just laughed it off and tell them it's not a big deal. The night ends with her following us outside as we get ready to leave and I ask her for her number. She gave it without hesitation and my friends are floored. They don't get why treating a potential plate as I did ended up with positive results. It was a good reminder that nice guys finish last. It got me thinking today about how fear of rejection use to cripple my chances. By not putting pussy on a pedestal you take all the pressure off yourself. Learn to hold frame and what you found so hard six months ago will over time come naturally to you.

In conclusion: What I've learned coming to TRP is that really what this is teaching you is a set of skills to get what you want out of life. Keep busy, learn new things, talk to everyone interesting, go for what you want and create a life you can be proud of. Over time this will seem less like a task and just who you are. It won't happen over night. If you fail today, know that tomorrow brings another chance to sink or swim. Practice a life of abundance and reap the rewards. Don't just take what the sub is teaching to pick up women. Instead, use it in all aspects of your life. Make it who you are. That is when you will see the results you are looking for.

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Title [FR] how hanging with some beta friends showed me how far I've come on my TRP journey
Upvotes 738
Comments 77
Date 12 November 2017 01:18 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit TheRedPill
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144 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

I love this.

I'm looking forward to making results like this come true for myself as well.

1 upvotesalarumba2 years ago

I'm still in a transitional phase. Had a brilliantly stupid moment over the weekend. Had a cute friend of the friend talking one on one with me. I'm still shit at telling but she seemed into me. We we're talking about pets and I showed off photos of my dog as a puppy. Said that you could not say no to those eyes. She said , "do you like big eyes?" staring right at me. "What, like anime?"

It was just so stupid, all I can do is laugh and move on. Her enthusiasm to talk to me stalled but we struck up another conversation later. Will be seeing her again.

59 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

Just remember to keep it light, ask questions, and let her do most of the talking. Be a mystery and have her ask questions to get any personal info about you. Big thing I learned is that the more time you spend taking with a potential plate hurts your chances. Talk for awhile, get her number, and get out if you don't think you can score that night. Your sole attention should not be on one girl while out with friends.

20 upvotesaBetterNation2 years ago

Women always fill in the gaps of what they don't know with some crazy awesome illusion of yourself. Less talking- always.

38 upvotesTrooper_18682 years ago

Like anime. Damn thats funny. I would probably say the same :P

10 upvotesNaebany2 years ago

Seems like she wanted him to kiss her though.

3 upvotesRobocompany2 years ago

How do you tease without actually coming off as rude or an asshole? I've always found it difficult to hop along the line. Any tips?

5 upvotesBluepillProfessor2 years ago

Don't care if you are rude or an asshole. Don't go out of your way to be a rude asshole, just let it come naturally- and don't care. The "not caring" is what attracts women.

4 upvotesRian_Stone2 years ago

coming off as rude or an asshole?

You can't control how others think. you'll come off as you come off.

3 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

Keep it light and playful. If they think you are an ass, their loss. Most girls will eat it up, while the orbiters will try to use it to ruin your flow. Just hold frame and if she's into you, you'll have a lot of lead on the rope. If not, well move on. You got better stuff to do.

2 upvotesRobocompany2 years ago

Thank you senpai. I shall keep that in mind.

8 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

The autism is strong with this one.

1 upvotesalarumba2 years ago

Afraid so. But I'm working on it.

1 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

Quite honestly, your story is depressing and unfunny (Although funny for redditors - no surprise) Turn off the anime, go outside and lift weights.

1 upvotesalarumba2 years ago

I'm at a stage where I can laugh it off. There was a time that I would be hyper critical and would act like it's the end of the world. And I was at a party with a pretty lady taking the time to talk to me, so going outside and exercising is working.

-3 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

You're a big boy now, aren't you? Heres a gold star.

1 upvotesalarumba2 years ago

And you're wasting your time acting like a badass to someone that isn't gonna be convinced. Keep self hating yourself, redditor.

1 upvotespowerbaseballfan2 years ago

whats the point of being so serious about it if you truly dngaf

7 upvotesallrandomworldnews2 years ago

That is the moment were you got to look her in the eyes. Smile at her and say “yes of course“, hold eye contact and if she smiles back at you go in for the kiss.

If she likes you she wont resist. If she resists nothing was lost and you give your attention another girl.

3 upvotesgrandmazboy2 years ago

Look at her with a raised eyebrow.."Big eyes?"

Use two seconds to have a quick glance at her chest, "Big tits are better" and smirk.

Cue giggles.

23 upvotesLittleRedditAddict2 years ago

Sorry to tell you, but barring changes by them, you're going to lose them as friends anyway. At least as you know it currently, and that's a good thing. There's only so many hours in a day and you can't waste your time on losers. You'll probably think I'm harsh until a dozen or so times that they try to undercut you and you learn the hard way. Posts on changes in friend interaction are too few and far between, but most will express the same sentiments. Good luck.

8 upvotesm0rphing2 years ago

Yeah, the key here is "barring changes by them". But you can at least try to help out your beta buddies by giving them little bits of advice here and there. Don't full out talk TRP with them, but push them in the right direction. Some of them might be receptive to it. The ones who continue to be beta bitches and insist on ruining your flow will have to be cut out of your life or at least demoted to acquaintance.

5 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

No actually, I know you are right. The guys from the second example are not going to change. They are the buddies I go to beer events with, but normally I don't call them when I'm looking to go out to talk to girls. The guy from the first case is actually my favorite friend to go out with to pick up chicks. He works in the bar scene and has a great social circle. He's social with girls, but thinks the way into their pants is by being a friend first, so I know he is not competition. He's a great wingman, as he does a lot of stuff right, he's just got the end game so wrong.

6 upvotesLittleRedditAddict2 years ago

Nothing wrong with different friends for different occasions. Have fun.

2 upvotesBluepillProfessor2 years ago

I always thought the Crab Bucket image was not adequate. These White Knights use a lot more weapons than natural claws and they do a lot more than just try to drag you into the bucket. Your best "friend" will stomp on your face to get closer to a used up smelly snatch.

Your occasional friends and acquaintances will go out of their way to sabotage you and then laugh in your face.

81 upvotesShadowsduh2 years ago

Yea you start to notice smaller and smaller workings of TRP in the world as time passes.

34 upvotesBest_By_Death2 years ago

I cringed at those and I'm sure other RPs would too. I remember tip-toeing just like that but just can't remember why now.

35 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

Think these are bad? I have a buddy who's girl dumped him a year ago and last time I saw him he cried for an hour about her. I just got up and walked away. Let the ladies in the group handle that one. Haha

13 upvotesBest_By_Death2 years ago

Essentially the busier he gets, the tougher life obstacles he faces and overcomes, the more your friend will become RP. Then learn some female psychology and manipulation (not the same as psychology taught in schools). That's all.

Additionally, the manipulation part is very useful for all other aspects of life aswell and not just for sexual success alone.

4 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

Agreed, been telling him for months to get busy and focus on himself. We game together at night, as we both get off super late after work. I've been slowly spoon feeding his RP truths and he takes some and leaves others. His problem is he doesn't have much value at the moment and only wants a LTR. Dude needs to mellow out and just have some fun.

1 upvotesDerangedDiphthong2 years ago

Where would be the best sources to learn said psychology and manipulation??

1 upvotesAirskycloudface2 years ago

start fucking with people. go drive somewhere far from where you live and chat people the fuck up.

15 upvotesJailhouseredpilled932 years ago

Being an asshole to hot girls is anathema to Betas. Before TRP when someone negged a girl I would get embarrassed for her! My own male solipsism would see her red face and interpret that as embarrassment. Oh how blind I was!!!

4 upvotesBluepillProfessor2 years ago

Red face indicates increased blood flow and lubrication.

12 upvoteszboo1h2 years ago

I work in education. Most of my coworkers are women. Whenever I meet their boyfriends or husbands or whatever, I'm always secretly shocked. One of my coworkers routinely emasculates her beta boy whenever we have get-togethers. She'll mock him for balding or being short or skinny, or having a shittier job than her. He just smiles and remains quiet like a good boy. This is while she takes every opportunity to touch me, talk to me, "accidentally" push into me when crossing paths.

Discovering TRP is one of the most important things to have ever happened to me.

11 upvotes-PurSang-2 years ago

I'm tagging you as future me.

Please keep updating us with the kind of things you are able to notice more and more with time ;)

14 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

All interactions with women clearer with TRP. And all interactions become better when treating them like little girls who never grew up

1 upvotesSpartan15902 years ago

This has inspired me to talk about an awkward experience I had with a friend of mine and his girlfriend, they've been together for 4 years now. I just have the standard IDGAF attitude with her as with most people I know, being playful, standard TRP manual.

I went to a party with them, she started giving me IOIs by the dozens, and it was quickly becoming uncomfortable that I was feeling guilty... I knew that she just might cheat on him someday or maybe this LTR won't last forever. If I was an an inconsiderate asshole with one of my best friends, I'd be a possible catalyst to end it...

It's really just your turn, and we can just learn to deal with it, nothing more.

10 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

I wish my buddy could understand this. This same girl has been all over me every time I see her. Touching, flirting, seeking me out when I'm talking to other people, and out of respect I turn her down every time. Hell, she even invited me to sleep at her place right in front of him. He told me her loves her and I'm pretty sure he hasn't seen her naked yet. Dude is about to get his heart broken for no reason. This is why abundance is so important.

0 upvotesmishasam892 years ago

It's really just your turn

dude, you make it sound like it's just like going to an escort.. lol

4 upvotesBluepillProfessor2 years ago

Take the Red Pill Bro. Unfortunately the Pill is also a suppository. If you won't swallow it, at some point it is going to get shoved up your ass.

11 upvotesallrandomworldnews2 years ago

You should also add that your friends are probably socially retarded when it comes to body language. Else they would stfu about you negging her because they would see that she is into it.

Always give body language more value then words!

8 upvotesgoldenhourlivin2 years ago

Solid post. As someone new to TRP, stuff like this makes me feel like I can't fucking wait to finish the sidebar reading. Only things stopping me from mowing it all down right now are two exams I'm studying for.

6 upvotesThinkingard2 years ago

Sounds like you're on the right path and finding out how easy it is, at least in comparison to the old BP ways. When I think back of how BP I used to be I just shake my head in disgust with how many opportunities I threw away. I could of had a very feminine and cool girlfriend but I smothered her in beta-tude and pushed her away within a week. Another chick I found decently attractive, and maybe could have had some fun with, but I was too concerned that I wasn't attracted enough to her, and well, I was looking to wife someone up, because I am Christian, you know? Lol. That meant I had to have severe oneitus for a girl to even give her a shot, when I myself wasn't much for them. Stupid, right? Well, sometimes a BP is stuck in a specific worldview that is nothing but toxic for him and he doesn't realize it.

That's why it's so nice for guys to learn about this stuff the younger they are. When you're swimming in hot girls in HS or college you have many opportunities to work on your game. My thoughts are for guys to become effectively RP so if they ever decide to get married and have kids they at least grab a high quality woman, not some crazy broken post-carousel post-wall bitch. For me, I became RP a bit late, meaning, after I was already married. I was in the process of learning when I was engaged, but it took awhile for things to really sink in.

8 upvotesCould_have_listened2 years ago

could of

Did you mean could've?

I am a bot account.

2 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

I had a lot more RP attributes while in college and never thought about it, as girls would chase me all the time. It was after I graduated that I fell into my BP ways and once I figured it out, man, it just got so much easier. Stop chasing so hard and the girls will come to you.

3 upvotescashmoney_x2 years ago

What kind of stuff were you saying to the bartender in front of them for them to call you an asshole?

6 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

Nothing crazy to thb. Just teasing her for coming to our table so much. She was laughing and having a good time the entire time. I don't even think I was being an ass, I was just teasing her, but in their eyes I crossed a line.

3 upvotescashmoney_x2 years ago

It's funny how they ignore her reactions.

2 upvotesHnikud2 years ago

Good post OP, one question, how do you gain that abundance mentality? Also I have noticed TRP in action more and more, especially with these two classmates who let girls boss them around. Congratulations for getting this far.

3 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

I did it by putting myself out there. I got rejected a lot at first, as girls can smell when you got no other options or don't feel confident in your game. Walk before you run. I went out with a bunch of HB5 off tinder or blind dates. Talk to girls at the bar or social situations. When you continue to go out in public and have girls seeking you out to talk you feel the abundance. I know that if I mess up with girl A, girl B is just around the corner. The other big part of it for me is that I feel great about who I am at the moment. I play guitar, have a good job, and my social circle is not bad. When you feel good about yourself girls can tell. Get active.

3 upvotesBluepillProfessor2 years ago

how do you gain that abundance mentality

Have sex with lots of young, hot girls.

2 upvotesK1KK0_1t42 years ago

How do have sex with lots of young, hot girls?

You have to gain abundance mentality.

2 upvotesBluepillProfessor2 years ago

Thus fake it until you make it.

2 upvotestheflappiestflapper2 years ago

I feel like people don't understand the concept of negging.... Its not just being a complete asshole, it's more like not being nice. Like why should you have to bend over backwards to impress or woo a girl? You should be able to do it with normal banter, which includes jokes and some humility from both sides. Guys who don't get this are nice for the purpose of sex, while guys who do are themselves for the purpose of sex and well being themselves.

2 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

We've been taught our whole lives to treat the opposite sex special and really all they want is to be treated like everyone else. It must get exhausting to deal with beta white knights all the time. These girls take shits just like the rest of us.

2 upvotesFujitsuOffer2 years ago

Jesus fucking titty christ. I cringed HARD when he said its not a date and he's bringing his brother. wtf?!

2 upvotesSaiyandeus2 years ago

I really enjoyed this post. It's a very generic TRP post tbh, but without the unnecessary beta bashing and wide generalizations regarding women.

1 upvotesBIGSTEVEN19872 years ago

What is TRP and the other one, NGAF, or something?

14 upvotes • [deleted] • 2 years ago

TRP=The Red Pill It should have been DGAF= Don't give a fuck.

When I realized that I should just treat everyone the same and that no one person/girl is special it makes approaching easier. I've been turn down plenty, but now it doesn't sting anymore. Their lose.

3 upvotesBIGSTEVEN19872 years ago

Can I just thank you for answering my question and I hate acronyms. I never what they mean. Stupid acronyms. Sorry

4 upvotesSolarWizard2 years ago

They are initialisms not acronyms

0 upvotesBIGSTEVEN19872 years ago

Thanks for correcting me, it must be a real drag to constantly correct idiots like me. Thank you.

4 upvotesSolarWizard2 years ago

Nah I'm just trying to stoke your fire dude.

1 upvotesBIGSTEVEN19872 years ago

My fires out guy but thanks

6 upvotesforeignuserirl2 years ago

dude what is your deal? you are coming off super weird

2 upvotesBIGSTEVEN19872 years ago

Thank you for that I am super weird I'm sorry I'll work on that.

1 upvoteslordvaderr2 years ago

Damn g eventually you’ll find a new wolf pack

1 upvotespulsar912 years ago

Just read the conclusion and love it!!

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