Here is a massively important takeaway from Mark Manson's "Models." If you haven't read it, fucking read it. Imo it is a fundamental building block of trp principles.
My criteria for investing any time into a woman:
It is either a fuck yes or a no.
Either she is fucking stoked on me, in which case i'll push to hang out make time for her, or it's a no.
So many dudes chase after girls who aren't Fuck yes-level interested in them, which is a total waste of their time and degrades their integrity and self respect. If she isn't all that into you, it isn't going to be that great of an encounter anyway. There isn't going to be a magical moment where your inner don juan turns this girl from uninterested to gushing all over you.
The best times I've had with women are when they're legitimately stoked to meet or spend time with me. These are the chicks who are seriously attracted to you, invest themselves in you and fuck with something to prove. The times where I've forgone my self respect and chased a girl, basically indirectly begging her to hang out, are the times where they've starfished in bed. Personally, i'd rather jerk off than fuck a girl who doesn't really want to fuck me.
Instead of thinking I wonder if she likes me? Think, I wonder if I like her and I wonder if i'd like to spend time with her? You are the prize, don't forget.
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