Intro

This topic isn't very popular here but I figured I'd write a little about it because the information is quite sparse. DISCLAIMER: If you've just swallowed the pill then DO NOT get into any LTR's. You need to keep plating and get as much experience as possible with being with women. You'll know when the time because you will have abundance mentality. Until then AVOID all LTR opportunities for the time being.

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I'll write about this topic in the steps below...

1) Get an abundance mentality

As I mentioned above being in an LTR without an abudance mentality is game over for you. The girl will know you have no other options than her. Don't ask me how, she just will know. Women have a sixth sense for separating the thirsty men from those who are sated and content. Once she realises her favourable position, she will leverage it hard by making you into a beta bucks who is totally reliant on her and has to supplicate her every needs (all the while she likely scores some chad on the side). Not a very good trade right?

As many have timelessly said, being in an LTR is TRP on hard mode. There is no escaping that. The only thing you can do is put your masochistic tendencies to one side and make the battlefield as much in your favour as possible. And that starts with having abundance.

How do you have abundance? That question is more difficult to answer and will require a post of its own. All I can say is that you'll know when you have it. It usually comes after fucking enough girls and going through all the cycles of TRP. After this, chasing them becomes less of a need and more of a hobby. In fact you'll find yourself thinking less about girls and more about other things in your life. Girls will take a lesser priority and as a result you will be much less fazed by them as a whole.

So in short, before you make any considerations for LTR you MUST have this. Without it you're risking ruining your life for some slut who likely doesn't care about you. Tread carefully.

2) Vet her like an FBI agent

You need to know who she is and where she's been. For me this starts with her family. What kind of family environment did she have? Was it loving or abusive? What was her relationship like with her parents (especially her father)? What was their economic situation like? Were her parents very educated or red-pilled? These are some of the things you'll need to ask.

A girl with a terrible relationship with her family is a huge red flag. A girl with an absent father is another huge red flag. A girl who hasn't had many economic opportunities may be looking at you as a free lunch ticket rather than a lover. A girl who has been abused by her family members to the point of it being sexual probably has BPD and should be avoided like the plague even as a plate.

Generally speaking, your ideal LTR will be on great to excellent terms with her family and will see them as the most important people in her lives. Remember, if she's been raised right then it's likely her character will be right too making her relationship compatible. If she's been raised wrong then expect her to be on the crazier side, great for sex but not for spending a significant portion of your time with.

3) Also vet her past relationships

Much like with her family, her past relationships with men will frame her relationship with you. If those relationships were positive and growth-inducing then you can expect her to look at you in the same way. If she's been treated bad or alpha-widowed then she will not treat you nearly as good as she could, again great for sex but not for a relationship.

Her n-count is also important to consider. Different guys have different ideas about n-count but I think one thing is always the same, the lower it is the better. Why do you think religions typically celebrated chastity? Because a less experienced woman won't be desensitised to sex and will typically be more loyal.

For me it's virgin or nothing. That is about as close as you get to quantifying her purity than anything else because there's actual physical evidence of it in front of you. However I do realise in this day and age, finding a virgin is a difficult task. So I think it's more reasonable to expect an n-count of 1-3 being low and 5-6 being the highest you'll accept.

Some may consider that too little but really I think any more than 6 is really too much. There are plenty of girls who haven't been on the carousel and have 'saved' themselves from the right guy. Part of your job as a man is to find and enjoy them, not to complain there aren't any.

4) Personality and Looks

Obviously you will know what kind of personality you like but you need ensure she has it. There's another TRP saying, guys need to work hard to be fuckable but girls need to work hard to be likeable. You do not want to spend a lot of time with a bitch who throws tantrums all the time and embarasses you in front of others.

I think the above is more important than you and her having the same hobbies. Regarding hobbies, generally if you are masculine and she is feminine then you'll find your hobbies will end becoming hers too. Women are followers and they will follow strong men in everything they do. That's why it's not too important for you to have the same things in common as these are superificial things that can be adjusted later.

Looks ARE important though and not just in her HB number being high. Firstly, you should never settle for a girl you find unnattractive. I've seen so many successful guys with their other halves looking like ogres. This is something that she has to provide. Nothing beats waking up in the morning and appreciating a womans beauty in the dusky sunlight.

However you need to also be aware, the more beautiful she is the harder the game becomes. Remember, TRP is already hard mode on LTR so how hard do you want to make it? That's why I find those 7's to be the best for LTR's. They aren't as hot as 8's or 9's that you need to be constantly on your guard but they aren't ugly either. It's the best of both worlds.

5) AWALT and it's just your turn

Finally always remember AWALT. Women will always do what women do. They are emotional creatures and will never act rationally. You need to be aware of that and make steps to minimise the pains that may come with it. That means being a strong leader and telling her what to do with everything. Yes, you'll need to run her life but if you've chosen a good candidate then it won't feel like a chore. It should be fun.

At the back of your mind though, always remember that it won't last forever. She is never yours, it is just your turn. No matter how strong your connection is, no matter what you've gone through together, if a wild Chad appears at the right time in the right place then all of that work you've put in will vanish as if it never happened in the first place. That's hypergamy for you.

Always have an exit plan ready for if things go south.

Keep that in mind at all times and you'll save yourself a lot of heartache later. That's exactly why LTR's are hard mode and why no-one recommends them. If you think about it considering all the girls that you can ever be with, sticking with one is a pretty irrational and potentially painful decision.

Conclusion

I hope that helped. LTR's can be loads of fun so you should try them out. However, make sure you have all of these steps sorted before you do anything. One wrong LTR and you'll find your life has turned upside down. Always be on your guard and never fall prey to the blue-pill Disney fantasy. It doesn't exist and never will because she's not yours, it's just your turn.