This is a pretty short blue pill example I thought deserved illustration on a clear BP vs RP mindset. It's my birthday this weekend and while not doing anything too particularly mindblowing, I am inviting a few close friends to smoke hookah (shisha) and play board games at a local Mediterranean shisha lounge.

I set on 7:00pm for Saturday and send the invites out. Billy, one of my closest friends says he has a supper to attend that evening at his in-laws place, but it shouldn't go all night. When I say its at 7, he responds he won't be able to make it until 9-10pm. Puzzled, I ask why he has a supper at 8pm+. Long story short I find out his in laws are having a "welcome back" supper for his brother in-law, who wasn't on a military deployment or anything but just spent 2 months in Thailand for a vacation.

Through more texts I found out why he won't be available until 9-10pm: Billy is a BP NiceGuy™. He's scared of rocking the boat. He's scared of standing up in a room full of inlaws and saying "Welcome back Frank and glad you're safe, got to take off now. Until next time" and own it. He's really just controlled by the expectations of his inlaws, and of his subtly manipulative wife. The expectation they have about "going for supper" is actually arriving, eating and then sitting around for 4 hours talking. While it's fine if you decide to do this on your own, the reality is there's absolutely no obligation for anyone to stick around for 4 hours after supper.

He's scared of causing conflict, because by leaving his wife might be mad at him, and while claiming alpha status in truth subscribes to the 'Happy Wife, Happy Life!™' program. If she's mad at him, he knows his chances of blowing a load in her pussy are diminished. While he would never reveal it, I am almost certain she uses sex as a reward for good behavior.

I tell him not to be scared, that you can excuse yourself shortly after supper because you have prior engagements. He responds with "Lol we'll see what happens" which is a translation for "I'm a bitch and probably won't say anything and will just roll with the hope my wife wants to leave earlier". You have zero obligation to stick around 3 hours after supper simply because you are expected to for no reason. Its important to observe a moderate level of manners and customs (e.g. not eating with a hat on at the table) but sticking around after supper 3+ hours is not one of them, and to be expected to is absurd.

Own yourself and your time. This doesn't mean walking around being a sociopathic jerkwad to people faces, but taking charge of your own destiny and not allowing the expectations of others and society to form your habits, daily activities and decisions.