One thing that I have always noticed throughout my life is that men don’t know how to talk or act with themselves, and with others. This is why I’ve decided to tell you what I’ve been implementing in my life for some time now, and it’s been very helpful.

The way they ask for things:

“Can I get umm...uh wait a minute let me think..” “Hey you wanna...go out or something..?” “You know...I’ve been a very good employee over the last 3 years so...I just want a bit of a raise in my salary..”

The way they manage their life:

“I shouldn’t smoke right now...but eh, what’s one more cigarette going to do to me?” “I would work out but I feel sore today..” “I could talk to that girl but my hamster spins too hard so I won’t..”

All of those, and many more, strike up questions: what do you want? A raise? How much? Why would I go out with you? Why should you smoke? Why wouldn’t you approach? And so on.

The key that I’ve found is that when you set up your internal and external life to the degree that neither you nor the others have further questions regarding your words or actions, something clicks and changes for the good. Here, I will focus on:

The Inside

Let’s talk smoking for example. You could say:

I’m not smoking anymore because it will damage my organs, it’s financially a bad investment, makes me smell bad, yellows my teeth, and all those negative effects will have a bad impact on me overall.

Can any more questions arise from this? Fuck no, smoking is bad. But let’s try in reverse:

I will smoke because...(at this point you’ll immediately feel the difference and sense that not your rational thinking, but your HAMSTER, is talking)...it makes me feel good, I have friends that smoke, and I like the buzz that they give me. Fine, looks promising. Any questions? Fuck yes:

Is something harmful making you feel good? What if your friends smoke? Do you really need that buzz?

Which makes the latter statement not stand. Do this with all your bad habits, do it when implementing good ones, and you’ll see it all falls in place.

Do this with your boss, do it with guys and girls. Being unquestionably straight both instills respect in others, and what I’ve found is that with girls, it sparks up the hamster, and quite counter-intuitively, makes them question themselves: how does he have his shit together like that? Why isn’t he wavering in anything? How come??? Which sparks interest.

I hope I’ve been helpful to you with this mental exercise.