Simple and fun exercise to better your frame and game with strippers

Theory is necessary and you should absorb as much of it as you can. But actualisation and internalisation comes from real life experience.

The problem is that theory is very easy to reach and there is no obstacle to it. You just need to sit down and read. A book, a blog post, a field report. And if you're here, you probably had your fair share of theory.

Now, practice is more difficult. It forces you to put yourself out there and it involves a very real feedback that can be damaging to the ego. While you can read theory 5 hours straight, practicing for 5 hours straight is very difficult.

For practice, you need a few things.

• People to practice on and at least half of them should be girls
• Defined and measurable short term objectives to focus on during practice to establish a feedback loop
• An environnement conductive to a decent number of high value social interactions where your frame will actually be tested

Very motivated men can go to the mall, spend hours there, actually approach girl after girl and learn from that and get better. It's a brave and excellent exercise.

It's also very difficult for most people to not wear down after a short time. It also puts 100% of the initiation upon you.

So, for the guys looking to devise another training pattern and willing to do it seriously, I bring to you : strip clubs.

The exercise is simple.

• Dress as you would for a date (handsomely but not overly dressed).
• Take enough cash to pay for 1 drink, 1 dance and, the most important part : generous tips.
• Get to the club and stay there.

Your goal is to spend as much time there as you can (minimum of 2 hours, aim for 4 or 5) without spending on alcohol or girls.

The idea is simple : frame is best built under pressure. Being alone at a strip bar where you will be solicited by girls to spend money on them will put you under pressure. Depending on the club, you will be under pressure from the moment you walk in if the bouncers are intimidating (and they usually are towards any young man they don't know coming in there alone).

So, you go there, you tip the bouncer from the start, for whatever reason. You are not trying to buy their friendship, you are trying to establish a very defined relationship : "I'm a decent client and I expect decent treatment." Be very polite to bouncers and if you can establish rapport through humour, that's even better.

Sit at the bar, in a confortable spot. It's the best place to sit at if you want to maximise interaction and we are there just for that. Order a drink, take your time enjoying it and enjoy the show on stage.

Establishing your frame

You will be uncomfortable being there by yourself. And you'll feel judged. Realise that not a single soul in that place is better than you and not a single soul has any right to judge you. Keep entertaining that idea until it hits you. You are gonna be there for a few hours by yourself so you best take the time to establish that you are within every single one of your rights to be there and to understand as deeply and profoundly as you can that only you can decide of how you should feel about being there by yourself, regardless of what the church says, of what strippers think, of what your boss would think. This is a moment for you, you do not give a single shit about anyone else opinion about the matter.

Great, hopefully you took enough time to establish your frame. Because it's going to be tested to death.

Rules of the exercice

Your principal objective is to say no. Girls will come up to you and ask you to offer them a drink. Lol, no. Girls will come up to you and invite you for a lap dance. Haha, no. Bartenders will ask if you want another drink. Thanks, no.

Saying no to people is difficult. Saying no to half naked girls is even more difficult. Saying no to half naked girls who are doing their best to rev up your engines is very difficult.

At least at first. If you're doing the exercise right, you WILL find yourself in a position where you realise how much power you hold if only you had a bit more confidence in yourself.

How to play the game

Of course, while the goal is to decline everyone's attempt to plunder your wallet, you don't have to be straightforward about it as soon as a girl approaches. When a stripper approaches you, usually, if she has any class, she will offer some banter first.

That banter is liquid gold opportunity to learn. It's free. It's as sexual as you are able to dare without stuttering. And, most importantly, there is a complete outcome independence attached to it. You are not there to get a girlfriend. You are not there to make a plate. You are not there to score any sort of sexual release. You are not there to make friends. You are there to practice and everyone around you is a sparring partner.

So, back to that liquid gold banter.

Keep a smile and own up to the situation. Picking up girls at the mall or the street or the coffee shop has the added difficulty of "I have to make this sexual without giving the wrong impression". You don't have that hurdle at a strip club. The game is very transparent. She is there to take your money and you are there to do whatever the fuck you want with your money. If a girl convinces you to pay her for a lap dance as if you were a regular beta buck fuck drooling with lust, GAME OVER. Go home. Masturbate yourself to sleep and forgive yourself. You will get better.

So a girl approaches you, she's smiling, you're smiling. Good, now what. In every game, there is an attacker and a defender. This game is no different. She is the attacker (she wants something of you), you are the defender (you want to protect your resources from her). This is very important to understand. You are not there to seduce her. You are the prize. She is here to seduce you. If you don't have this clearly set up in your mind, you'll fuck up the whole exercice. If it helps you, recite in our mind a few quotes from Marcus Aurelius and any stoic master you like. Frame is an exercise of stoicism where you isolate yourself from what other are trying to impose on you as emotion so that you can be the master of yourself.

If you understood that, let the discussion go naturally. Turning down girls is fun if you have the right attitude. You get to say whatever you want. You get to be humble. When a girl picks you to talk to you, you can ask her playfully "why me." Girls with wit will answer things like "because you love me", "because you're cute", "because i thought you were interesting" and you can challenge that with amplification "I love you ?? since when ?? what's your name again ??" Girls without wit and only looking for drooling beta chumps ready to drop money after a few seconds, you have to next efficiently. You have to feel your own boredom at the conversation with them because they are not investing ANYTHING in you, not even a playful banter and you don't want that. And you have to respect that boredom and gently get them to fuck off. You can be honest "lady, i appreciate the interest but i'm not a very good customer I'm afraid. that guy over there has been eyeing you for 5 minutes straight though, i think he might be falling in love". Wish her luck and keep the positive attitude. You might feel like you are in dangerous place but you are not. This is your playground.

Useful warning

Funny thing is strippers can get easily offended by a guy insensitive to their charms and who easily and confidently sends them away. Since they know you are alone and you don't have a specific status in the club, they can get nasty and downward insulting. That's only more exercise for you. You don't give a fuck what a stripper thinks about you. You don't give a fuck that a stripper thinks that you are a sorry piece of shit for being alone at a strip club and not being able to pay for a lap dance. Not a single word that comes out of that mouth has a single impact on you. Keep a smile, don't argue, you are a paying customer and you just want to enjoy a drink, a view, and maybe a lap dance if you can find a girl worth 20 dollars. You don't owe the nasty ones shit.

Enjoy your conversations

The majority of your conversations though should be date like : sexually charged, constant push and pull, as much laughter as possible, preferably intelligent conversation. You know you are doing well when girls come back to chill next to your stool and continue the conversation. Once you have established that sort of rapport with a girl, practice techniques you have read about. I like flipping the script. Strippers are expecting sexual interest so I like to express NON sexual interest ("Are you just wearing those ridiculous platform heels to bring your boobs to my eye level ? i can barely see your face ! how am i supposed to talk to you ? can i pay you to wear a t-shirt instead of giving me a lap dance ?").

The point is to realise that you have a privileged position at a strip club that allows you to say almost anything you want. And if you are chicken to say daring stuff to a girl naked in front of you whose game you are completely aware of, well you are there to learn.

You can have a conversation with a girl about how much she's making and what's the plan. Tell her you would be dancing 7 hours a day if you looked like her. Ask her if they ever get male strippers and wonder with her if you would qualify, because it sounds more fun than your current job. Might even pay more too ! When she tells you that she's doing it for the money, ask why not marry a rich fuck about to die and enjoy an inheritance.

The beauty of these conversations is that they are difficult for you to have with "normal" girls. If you can ask any of your cute lady friends why has she not married a rich fuck and inherited his money and laugh about it, you are far from a beginner. So use this opportunity to have those conversations. Read the girl's reaction and learn to distinguish between heartfelt laughter and fake enjoyment.

I could speak for hours about the benefits a dude can take from such a night but I think you got the point. If you have questions or experience to share, please feel free. I don't pretend I've invented anything but I do think a lot of guys never thoughts about strip clubs this way.

Sorry for the ugly formatting, I wanted to get the concept out and focus less on form.

Good luck !