Hello guys,

So ages ago (around October last year) I wrote a post of stuff that was in my head when I was on a plane. Legit, I thought like maybe 10 dudes would read that shit. Turns out more did and even more sent me messages. I had a great time talking with people and who knows maybe even a couple of words resonated. I have been meaning to write another one but just never got to it. Well, it's time for another long flight and another set of bullet points.

I'd suggest reading it first as I will refer to it and the comments section without repeating the actual content. Also the actual results of the shit below is in the original post as well.

LINK TO ORIGINAL POST: I unfortunately cannot link it as I get an auto mod removal message. I don't post that much so don't know how to fix that, anyone else? It was called Bullet Points. Sort by top last year and it's in the top few results.

As with last time I will say, this is just shit that I am doing that I have found useful/beneficial. I am in no way qualified to help or give advice but I will answer pretty much everything with what I would do or my thoughts. Answers will take the form of, "Shit man I would do XYZ but then again, what the fuck do I know!?". 

I am happy just now and some of the stuff I'll write is, in my view, why I am happy. I'll also include the most common stuff that people PM'd me about.

  1. I got maybe 100 messages asking me about leaving an LTR. When I wrote the first one I was pretty newly single and I mentioned that I ended an LTR with a good girl for pretty much no reason other than wanting to. This seemed to hit home with A LOT of guys. So breaking up with a shit girl is really easy to justify. If she cheats or is awful or is BPD or any of the stuff that is often  covered here it is easy to get right in your head why you should leave her. I found myself with a great girl. Cute. Never angry. No obvious cheating or anything like that. We had been together 3/4 years. I wanted to leave. I just did. I wanted to fuck a lot and be on my own and have my own space and I had absolutely no reason to break up with her other than the fact I wanted to. That is all you need. It took me about 4 months from realising that to doing it (I've since discovered some people take over a year!!!) . That shit was hard. It made me anxious as fuck and I suppose I felt guilty. I was in a relationship that people would tell us they wanted to be like us, of course with me sitting there thinking "no you don' t as I want to be out doing damage and banging everyone in sight!" I can't offer the specific words to use but I can tell you this, wanting to leave is a good enough reason to do it. A lot of guys have the fear that they won't find another "good one." I view it this way.  I f you have the attractiveness  to get a "good one" and the skills to maintain the goodness in an LTR then this is not a concern for you. You now have the time to do stuff you like and become even more attractive! Scarcity won't be an issue. It hasn't been for me and I reiterate as always, I am pretty normal. You will be fine. Be nice about it and when it's done be pretty cold and move on. No  falling back. She will be upset and hurt but ultimately.......she will also be ok and happy.

  2. Another common question was what to talk about with girls. I think the days of looking up specific words that you say to girls are LONG gone. Like, there isn't a script. If there is, I don't know it. I speak about whatever the fuck I like. I get into things. So I will be super passionate and into something for a few months. Depending on the month of the year will depend on what I talk about. None of it makes any difference. The topic is almost irrelevant. I have been told that the passion I spoke with was what was attractive. So just talk about whatever you give a shit about. Don't cater it to them, you are not paid entertainment. You are just a human of equal or greater value. You can say stuff and if she likes it she might stick around. She equally might not stick around and that is fine, this mindset also (ironically?) makes them way more likely to stay. I like history so I will often end up talking about some war or another, I also like to travel but I think talking about travel is pretty dull now as everyone under 40 has an arbitrary list of countries and "experiences" to reel off, if done with enough passion though I suppose it will still work. I recommend trying to read one book a month, you will minimum be able to talk with knowledge and (hopefully) passion on whatever it is you are currently reading/learning about. Things I have talked about recently with a girl and I ended up having sex with her - Rainbow Six Siege, Why Chamberlain is an unfairly judged British Prime minister, Communism in (former) Czechoslovakia, martial arts, the fact Affleck was the bomb in Phantoms yo. Any old shit as long as you care and its not for her entertainment.

  3. Do stuff. This one is simple but makes a big difference to my life. Doing stuff, any stuff, with other people creates opportunities for good shit to happen. You might need to mix up the male friend crowd a bit. Start putting more time in with guys who do things and make stuff happen. If your best friend has a wife and doesn't socialise, might be time to move on from him (harsh I know). I am a routine guy so I just set things up and invite people. One night a week a bunch of people watch a classic movie. Sunday afternoons we go hiking. I express it as, "I am doing this every week at this time. People should show up." Invite 30 people. Gradually it will become obvious who the ones that do things are. Spend more time with them. Repeat.

  4. Lifting. Now. I will catch shit for this as in the history of the internet nobody has ever written about lifting weights and been right. Everyone is always wrong. So, I say this. Read it before calling me a fucking idiot, then proceed to call me one anyway. I have found this way works for ME. Again. Once more. This is what I do. I alone. I have always done sport and never been much of a weights gym guy. I have been doing Muay Thai about 10 years so I am in decent shape but not a BIG dude (talked of this in original post.) I have always been intimidated by lifting as to be honest I've never really got any bigger or better at it and I sort of just resigned myself to, "it's not for me, doesn't make much difference anyway." I now accept this was wrong and it is important and makes a big difference. The points below are for smaller dudes. I don't know how to not be fat, so if that is you......sorry man, askj me though and Ill make some half assed attempt at what I would do if I was fat. I was 6"1 and 167lbs when I started doing the stuff below. I am still 6"1 but I am heavier, look better in and out of clothes and girls seem to like it.

4.1 Eat more. You eat enough? You don't. I didn't. I said I did. I was lying to myself and anyone who asked. The easiest way is to have dinner for lunch and breakfast. I cook food on mass now and just have proper food for all three meals. No more sandwiches. Pad Thai for breakfast? Why the fuck not. Real meals at meal times. Breakfast, lunch and dinner. All the same size and amount of food. I don't measure. I don't count macros etc. I just eat dinner for all 3 meals. I am heavier. Obviously eat good food, common sense approach to what is good. I don't delve too far into research but there is an objective scale of healthy vs shit. Eat healthy.

4.2 Stronglifts 5x5. Get the app and just start. There are other apps and ideas etc that's cool but I do this one and it's all I know.

4.3 I add some stuff to the end of Stronglifts like pull ups and some abs. Apparently you don't need to but I think it makes me look sexier so fuck it, I do it.

4.4 I do cardio once a week. I hate cardio. When fighting Muay Thai I hated running more than anything, more than getting hit. I do it because it makes me uncomfortable. Its nice to do something I hate once a week and get through it.

4.5 Eat more. That was number 1. Its number 5 as well. Eat. Have nuts, shakes, fruit etc on hand and just fucking eat. Don't be scientist with it, you will bore yourself. Just eat.

5.Last one. I am surprised how little of this is about girls. I thought a lot of it was going to be.........But then it is at the same time. I sat down to think how do I find getting laid straight forward these days and I just listed things that girls have either told me they liked or things I know that have helped. It's pretty much all been about self improvement and just letting them come along for the ride a bit. By not really thinking about them or considering them all that much, its become way easier. Take from that what you will. 

Many blessings to you all, I hope we can all chat again like we did last time.