I recently got out of a relationship in college. She broke a boundary multiple times and i decided to end the relationship. The relationship was "okay" but i felt the life gradually sucked out of me (No pun intended, she gave good bjs and swallowed too). But there was a lot of ridiculous shit tests and stupid arguments. She was a bit manipulative, hypocritical and constantly gaslighted me. I tried to be the dominant person i am but it was tiring and exhausting making her submit and constantly handling and passing shit tests. It's like she was intentionally breaking me like a slave getting whipped.

I can't imagine what it's like for married men who have seen the bottom of the abyss. My parents have a good marriage and my father seems content but i can tell he's not the alpha man he was in his younger days. When i was a toddler, i remember him being a strong leader who doesn't take shit anyone. My mother is a "good" and loving woman but occasionally was irrational and venomous towards my father despite the fact that he was a leader and she submitted to him. It was tiring for him having to deal with this but also having it at the back of his mind that she could divorce him and take half his stuff at anytime.

Did you feel your life gradually sucked out of you though you loved her? How did you handle it?